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How long into the relationship did your parents meet your partner’s parents?

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fairynick · 07/06/2021 21:03

Just that really!

DP and I have been seeing each other just over 5 years and our parents haven’t met each other yet.
A friend was flabbergasted the other day when it somehow came up in conversation.
I’d never really thought of it before. We hadn’t kept them apart on purpose, just that they live in different areas and neither me nor DP has had a big party or anything to get everyone together.
I guess if we got engaged they could meet at the engagement party?

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Bbq1 · 07/06/2021 23:07

When we got engaged after being together for 6 months. My mum and dad lived in the next road to pil's though. They became friendly and really got on so we would host them all at Christmas, they'd meet at family celebrations and so on. My mum used to visit mil for a chat from time to time.My pils have sadly passed away my as has my dad but they had a really nice relationship through us.

ThirtyCharacterUsernamesOnly30 · 07/06/2021 23:13

My parents and my husband's parents have never met. We've been together for 18 years and married for 10. My DH visits his mum, who is relatively local once every couple of months (she's mentally ill and doesn't really want visitors) and his dad (who is a dick) lives 100 miles away. My parents live about 70 miles away. When DH and I got married, we didn't have any guests. Our photographer and her assistant were happy to be our witnesses.

glitterbubbles · 07/06/2021 23:15

2 years. DP's parents live abroad but they came here for a holiday

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YellowFish12 · 07/06/2021 23:16

They haven’t - 13 years later.

Not married, we haven’t had the type of party where you would invite both sets of parents and they don’t live in the same geographical area.

Aquamarine1029 · 07/06/2021 23:17

After we got married. We eloped.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 07/06/2021 23:20

Never met. We’ve been together on and off for ten years, lived together the last six. I am not close to my mum (dad died when I was young) and rarely see her. She and her husband are great friends with my sibling’s in-laws though.

Frogcorset · 07/06/2021 23:28

How odd and interesting these replies are! I always feel Mn is full of people who live very close to their parents and seem very enmeshed, but this thread suggests that if the posters are quite enmeshed, it is entirely separately, or it’s only with one set of parents.

I’m not wildly family-minded compared to many on here — we didn’t invite either set of parents to our wedding — but as our parents lived quite close to one another (in the hometown we left very young), I think they’ve known (and mildly liked) one another almost as long as we’ve been together.

Newchances · 07/06/2021 23:37

Like 4 months in, we took our mum's for lunch maybe a month later our dad's met too. Umpteen times since then. They live less than 20miles apart though

3LittleDucksQuack · 07/06/2021 23:39

I don't know maybe 6 months. They see each other regularly

SisterMonicaJoansHabit · 07/06/2021 23:48

It's been over three years, we have a mortgage together, his mum and my parents have never even spoken.

And I don't see it being likely they ever will. He's not into marriage and we aren't having children together. His mum is a lot older than my parents and very poorly.

Hen2018 · 08/06/2021 00:35

At our wedding

Floralnomad · 08/06/2021 00:44

Ours met just before our wedding , so 4 yrs into our relationship and then at the wedding . They lived about 20 miles apart but had absolutely nothing in common and were very different people .

SirenSays · 08/06/2021 00:48

Over ten years together, our parents have never met. I can't see why they ever would tbh. My parents never met any boyfriends parents when I was growing up either.

cravingmilkshake · 08/06/2021 07:25

2.5 years- our wedding day 😊

MysteriousMonkey · 08/06/2021 07:30

Probably met at our wedding (which was a year after we met) and then a handful of times in the last ten years. They get on fine but are not close.

Twocanplay · 08/06/2021 07:30

Don't think there's a need too once past a certain age..

TaylorStan · 08/06/2021 07:38

On our wedding day 2 years 4 months after we met. We were in our late 30's though. When I was younger my mum would meet my partners parents a bit earlier on. I suppose because I was less independent from my mum.

HappilyHadesBound · 08/06/2021 08:05

Sadly I'll never get to meet my DP's mum as she passed away before we met, but looks like my parents and his dad will meet the day before our wedding which will be a couple of weeks under 4 years into our relationship.

My parents live near us but his dad lives 3 hours away and he doesn't travel.

bigbluebus · 08/06/2021 08:13

About 2 months before our wedding when we all met for lunch in the city where (now) DH lived. They then met at the wedding and then 6 years later at my 30th birthday party. I don't think they ever met at any other time. We've now been married over 30 years and 3 out of the 4 are no longer with us so it's not going to happen again now. They did, however, exchange Christmas cards every year!

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