How long into the relationship did your parents meet your partner’s parents?

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Just that really!

DP and I have been seeing each other just over 5 years and our parents haven’t met each other yet.
A friend was flabbergasted the other day when it somehow came up in conversation.
I’d never really thought of it before. We hadn’t kept them apart on purpose, just that they live in different areas and neither me nor DP has had a big party or anything to get everyone together.
I guess if we got engaged they could meet at the engagement party?

About a year before the wedding, 7 years after we got together!

We've been together 12 years, married for 3, they've never met. His family didn't bother turning up to the wedding, so fuck them!

During our engagement dinner that we had just so they could meet.

That was about 3.5 years into our relationship.

I think they might have met when ds was born, so we had been together about 3 years. Not since though 22 years later.

I've been with dp for 9 years have ds6 and dd4 and ours have never met I don't feel it's that weird tbf they live far apart anyway perhaps that makes a difference

7 years in and they’ve not met. DP’s parents are wet fish and we’re not particularly involved in each other’s lives. His sister hadn’t met our daughter who is 7mo and doesn’t seem to want to.

We’re planning on marrying soon with just us, the kids and my mum and sister in attendance.

2 nights before our wedding

At our wedding.

We'd been together 6 years.

Once before our wedding when the dads were measured for their suits, on our wedding day and that was it in 25 years together

My parents and in laws grew up together!

I am so shocked at these replies. My mum met my MIL about a year after we started going out and since then they regularly see each other at all our family gatherings, nights at restaurants, Sunday lunch, Christmas and Easter dinner some years, my mum and MIL ring each other, send birthday cards and presents, meet for lunch by themselves and visit each other’s houses...27 years of this now! They even talked about holidaying together with us but I dodged that one.I thought that was normal. Obviously I’m the odd one out!

A couple of years in, it was on my 25th birthday as we all went out for a meal, and then we did the same for dhs 25th a couple months later.

But they've probably only seen eachother a handful of time since then. More since we've had ds.

Been together 21 years but they have only met once, at our wedding seven years ago. And they barely spoke to eachother even then! I very much doubt they will ever meet again.

Ours met the night before our wedding. That was the only time.

For context - we were older getting married (36 and 40), there are no DC and they lived 150 miles apart. No reason for them to meet really.

On our wedding day.. almost 9 years in!! Hahaha. I had my reasons though.

3 years in.

My 2 sets of grandparents got on really well and went on holiday together quite a few times.

6 years, we have a DD and they've never met. In the early days I was quite keen to introduce them until DBIL got married and DP's mum made some horribly bitchy comments about his new wife's family. After hearing that I'm not going to introduce them, I guess they'll meet if/when we get married. Amongst my friendship group its not uncommon for partners parents never to have met in long term relationships.

On our wedding day.

Our parents live in different countries and they only met for the first time about a week before our wedding which was 9 years after we first met.

Never!

Mine never met.

We have been together for over 25 years, but they lived in different continents and for various reasons, it wasn't easy for either side to travel. We did separate marriage celebrations in both countries. FIL died when DH was a child and MIL passed away five years ago, so sadly, it will never happen now.

I think around 3 years. Our Dads both got on really well and had a lot in common (and were born within two weeks of each other) so would often meet up on Sundays to go to car boot sales. Our mothers have never socialised, they’re very different.

Our sons are in their 20s. We see their girlfriends’ parents quite often, or did do pre-Covid, and get on really well with both families.
With our oldest son we already sort of knew his girlfriend’s parents before he and his girlfriend got together as they shared halls at university so we used to see them there.
Our younger son had been with his girlfriend for a year before I suggested that it might be an idea for our families to get together. I didn’t think he’d agree but he and his girlfriend were all for it so arranged for us to meet at a restaurant and we got on really well.

I was with my partner for 14 years & they never met - but I guess we didn't have the wedding!

My father (mother died when I was a child) lived in the US and my in-laws in England. They never met.

My father died 10 years ago so it will never happen. My sister is my only sibling and they've not met either even after 25 years of marriage.

Small town. DF had worked with DH's DF years before so they knew each other. His DM & DF (and he) also frequented my DM's shop.
DH and I grew up 3 streets away from each other but didn't meet until I was 18 (he's 8 years older) when DM stopped him in the street when I was with her to chat about the uni he had been to and I was about to attend.
As a couple they met to go out for a meal before the wedding and when they were invited to our house for Christmas or DH & DS birthday.