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Invite from twins

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WineIsMyMainVice · 07/06/2021 08:23

Hi. My DD is friends with a twin in her class. (The twins are boy/girl).
Their mum has sent out an invitation for a picnic in the park type celebration for their 9th birthday. Should I bring a gift for the brother also? Or is it fine to just take one gift for DDs friend?

OP posts:
notacooldad · 07/06/2021 08:24

I used to take a gift for each child when Ds2 went to a party with the set if twins in his class.

AdelindSchade · 07/06/2021 08:25

I would say both

BunnyRuddington · 07/06/2021 08:25

I'd do both as well.

BelleBlueBell · 07/06/2021 08:26

If the invite is from both then take a present for both, if it's just from the child your child is friends with I think it's OK to just take one

doodlejump1980 · 07/06/2021 08:26

Of course you should. It’s both their birthdays!

lovelybitofsquirrell · 07/06/2021 08:26

Both

Tereseta · 07/06/2021 08:26

Definitely both!

doodlejump1980 · 07/06/2021 08:27

I speak as a twin Mum. When we go to parties, my boys each take a gift to give to whoever’s birthday it is.

BluebellsGreenbells · 07/06/2021 08:29

I have twins, I sent out party invites to their friends from one of them, I never expected or had room for two gift each from each attendee.

Take one gift.

BelleBlueBell · 07/06/2021 08:30

@doodlejump1980

I speak as a twin Mum. When we go to parties, my boys each take a gift to give to whoever’s birthday it is.
I know you're talking about the opposite situation but in the OP"s example would you want your house full of stuff from children who aren't particular friends with both your children and bought something for the sake of it

The very thought makes me a little queasy Grin

FelicityPike · 07/06/2021 08:32

Both.
A book each from The Works and a bag of sweeties isn’t much, and that’s a lovely gift.

SinkGirl · 07/06/2021 08:37

It’s a birthday party for both of them so yes take a gift for both.

People are weird with twin gifts - at times we’ve had two identical books, and one jumper between them 😂 I don’t care whether anyone gives them gifts or not (they have no concept of presents so they don’t care either) but sometimes it’s a bit odd.

I would personally take a gift for both if you can.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 07/06/2021 08:42

Ask the mum? They might have invited five friends each for example.

(I'm having a joint party soon for my two DDs in different years... Definitely not expecting presents for other child!)

HandsOffMyRights · 07/06/2021 08:44

As a parent of twins, I would say absolutely both! Take 2 gifts.

HandsOffMyRights · 07/06/2021 08:45

**(I'm having a joint party soon for my two DDs in different years... Definitely not expecting presents for other child!)

This isn't the same as twins.

MrsCrosbyNRTB · 07/06/2021 08:46

My DD is best friends with the girl in B/G twins. I always give a gift to both but then the parents are also family friends so that probably sways it!

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 07/06/2021 08:48

tricky
I know usually the expectations is to only give to the twin that the child knows (is same class at school).
so you can give to just one twin.

but, if financial state allows, it's better to err on the side of caution and give something to both when they are little.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 07/06/2021 08:48

I'd see this the same as any other party shared by two children.
My approach was:
If DC were friends equally with the birthday children, present of the same value each.
If friends with one, but know the other reasonably well, my then main gift for the friend, and a token gift for the other (eg a book from the works as PP mentioned).
One party we didn't know the other child at all so gave them a card but no gift.

The other option for twins is a game they could play together but parents of twins might say this doesn't go down very well.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 07/06/2021 08:49

@HandsOffMyRights

As a parent of twins, I would say absolutely both! Take 2 gifts.
that's interesting, the parents of twins I know have always stressed not to get anything for the other child because they have their own set of friends invited.
BertieBotts · 07/06/2021 08:50

I'd go by who the invite is from. If it says "Jane and John would love you to join us for our fifth birthday" bring two. If it says "Come to our birthday party, love Jane" (and not love John) then bring one just for the girl.

TokyoSushi · 07/06/2021 08:52

If you can afford to I'd take for both, no harm done and any awkwardness avoided!

Bluntness100 · 07/06/2021 08:53

I’d take both too.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 07/06/2021 08:55

As a parent of twins, I would say absolutely both! Take 2 gifts.

That seems a bit 'grabby' if a guest is only friends with one of the children though. So you pay for one party and want two sets of presents? Fair enough if the guest is friends with both of course, then I'd agree with you.

Dahlia444 · 07/06/2021 08:55

As a twin mum (B/B) I always specified on the invitation that one gift only would be great thank you. But typically in any party there was maybe only one person that would bring one gift, everyone else still brought two. Boys loved it to be fair.

Not sure that's much help!

Lullabymummy17 · 07/06/2021 08:56

A shared gift maybe?