Invite from twins

[WineIsMyMainVice]

Hi. My DD is friends with a twin in her class. (The twins are boy/girl).
Their mum has sent out an invitation for a picnic in the park type celebration for their 9th birthday. Should I bring a gift for the brother also? Or is it fine to just take one gift for DDs friend?

zing well if they were siblings and not twins, then you’re right my child would only be in class with one of them but the family would still get 60 gifts across both parties so my point was really about that

Probably not, as they would be non-identical, but you hopefully get the general idea.

@IndecentCakes

Shared gifts: It's nice to not have to share just once, sometimes. We shared a uterus, parents, a bedroom a birthday and a face

That made me laugh 😂

DD was best friends with a twin (identical girls) in primary school & I always bought 2 gifts for parties.

I think it is grabby for joint parties to expect two gifts.

the costs of a party (even shared) are much more expensive than the amount the kids receive in gifts so if you really must play the game of comparing costs, think about it properly

Why should they contribute twice as much for a party the parents paid half the cost for?

My twins had very few joint parties, they did a weekend each different themes, different venues, they had a joint family dinner on their actual birthday.

I didn’t want them to feel they had to have joint things, that includes gifts, presents, friends, cake, etc

The twin Mum who said “two gifts” just why? Do they really sit there and count up who gave what to who?

Wouldn’t bother me if no one gave gifts.

Thanks for all your comments.
I really don’t mind getting 2 presents, but it isn’t even a ‘party’ as such. It was a “It’s the twins birthday so if anyone is free to meet at the park to celebrate with a picnic” type of invite....

I've really learnt a lot too. I can see the 2 separate gifts thing better now. And totally get it for parents and other family. One jumper between 2 twins doesn't make sense, I agree. I suppose I was thinking that whenever I get invited to a party I bring a gift suitable for sharing if the child has siblings anyway. I recently brought playdoh for example. I suppose with budget concerns I can see a logic to one decent present instead of 2 lots of cheap tat (and 60 lots of tat for the parents to deal with if it's a class party!) but I will try to find ways to make each child feel special.

So the person who didn't ask to be invited has to make the kid feel special on their birthday, but not the parent of said child who chose to do a joint party

Sorry, my quote didn't appear on the previous comment, but was in response to this:

"They already get classed as one person for so many things, perhaps they can both feel a bit special on their birthday?"