Today I got to be the mum I always wanted to be

[Mylittlesandwich]

Warning this will probably sound boastful and self-centred.

I always imagined myself as a specific type of mum. The reality was very different. I struggled to breastfeed and had terrible PND. Every day was survival mode. I didn't get to really start enjoying motherhood until DS turned 1. He's 18 months now.

Today however we went out for a mooch around the shops. I popped on my new (second hand) toddler back carrier which DS seemed to quite like. We stopped and had sushi which DS loves. I then popped him back into his carrier and he was so comfy he fell asleep. I caught sight of myself in a shop mirror and I just looked so happy and content. Like how I imagined I would feel. A couple of people commented that DS looked very comfy and the whole experience has just made me feel great.

Did anyone else have a moment when everything just seemed to click for them?

ah that’s lovely

That’s lovely OP - sounds like such a nice day for you both.

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Good for you. You’re not boasting at all, it’s a hard-won celebration. Wishing you many more happy, content days with your son

That’s really lovely OP. It’s a long old slog; it’s wonderful to have moments that feel special.

Happy for you op, remember this date. I wish I had the date of the moment I suddenly fell in love with motherhood. (don't worry, before anyone sicks in their mouth a bit, it's been up and down since then).

Oh that’s lovely OP and not boastful at all

I’ve always loved DD and have had lovely, enjoyable moments with her throughout her life but it’s only recently I have really enjoyed her company and looked forward to mum and daughter days out with her and she’s now 7!

This post made me happy ❤️❤️❤️

That's so lovely OP Glad you both enjoyed your day ❤️❤️

Not at all boastful and self centred. What a lovely day for you and your DS.

Aww fab!! That sounds lovely and not at all boastful. As a mum you have to celebrate the wins! 🙂

It doesn't sound boastful at all, this is lovely to read. I'm so pleased that you feel happy and content, it sounds like your DS feels the same way too.

That's fantastic.

Well done for coming through it and for recognising you have and enjoying your happiness.

Hopefully this is the start of lots of days like this

It's not boasting, it's lovely. I remember days when I packed my baby son up in his buggy and bused into the city, just the two of us, those were absolutely precious times to me because I lived with my wonderful parents but needed time when it was just him and me. He was an easy baby but I always felt inferior to my parents because they knew so much more about raising children but those simple days out proved to me I could and would cope. Ah now I'm crying remembering, he's in his 30's now but still my baby of course.

This is a lovely post OP! Happy for you

What an absolutely lovely post. I've had a similar sort of day today. DS is 17 months and a very high needs child. In all honesty I endured the first year rather than enjoyed it.

Today however I've managed to do some housework taken him out for dinner at the pub, he was very well behaved and he's had a lovely afternoon nap (a rarity as he hardly ever naps). I feel like today is one of the first days since he was born that I've actually felt like I'm doing it all right, it's a marvelous feeling and you absolutely should enjoy it.

That’s so good, I’m pleased for you 👍🏻

@Mylittlesandwich aww love your post and so happy you feel how you do. I get moments like that too, when everything is going smooth and falls into place it makes me feel so content and at peace being a parent x

This is so, so lovely op. Well done on getting to this point not easy to crawl out of those lows. Wishing you many more days like today

That's lovely, sounds like you had an amazing day.

That's so lovely OP!! And what's amazing is all the moments you got to come, like watching the first assembly and feeling your heart want to burst with pride! My first few weeks with DS were so hard, I felt like I'd been hit by a bus, but about six weeks in it clicked, we found our rhythm and off we went. Soak in the good times, before you know it they're out till one in the morning and planning to go to uni!

That is lovely OP. I have to admit between PND, anxiety and generally just having no clue what I was doing, it wasn't really until my eldest was 2 and his brother was born that I enjoyed being a mum!

Actually, there was a day when I was pregnant with DS2 and DS1 and I went to the shops. We had Maccies for lunch. I still remember that day. It was lovely.

Love this
Mine last week was ds (16) finishing school and looking like he’s achieved really well with his GCSEs. For context he has PDA (ASD) and oh my god I’ve had more thoughts about prison in his future than college 😆
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Sooooooo lovely to read OP. Glad you had a wonderful day.

I had PND a few years ago and know how difficult it is to live through it. I really enjoyed reading your post.