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My wedding faux pas

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MusicMenu · 05/05/2021 17:00

It was years ago, I wonder if the bride cared enough to still remember?

I was unexpectedly invited to a wedding of someone I was part of a mutual interest group with. Both of us, I'd say were on the fringes of the group, not particularly friends, hence my surprise.

Anyway in the days leading up to the wedding, just making conversation and pretending to be more excited about the wedding than I was, I asked what colour the bridesmaids were wearing. "Pink". In my head that meant pastel pink, although there's no sensible reason why I thought that.

Seperately, I was deliberating over what to wear. As it wasn't the kind of wedding I wanted to spend £££ on, it came down to a black and white dress or a fuchsia dress I already owned. I ruled out the black/white on because, wedding (yes inspired by another thread).

On the day I turned up in exactly the same colour as the three adult bridesmaids. It was just a coincidence, but OMG I'd specifically asked what they'd be wearing only days before.

I've hardly seen the bride since and I often wonder if this is why! Would you have been very offended?

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aibutohavethisusername · 05/05/2021 18:47

I hope this isn’t offensive. It happened to me when I went to a wedding and I wore the same colour as the bridesmaids. I hadn’t asked what they were wearing.

2tired2bewitty · 05/05/2021 18:52

Absolutely would have not have noticed if anyone was wearing the same colour as my bridesmaids, dusky pink in this instance. Exact same dress maybe, but not colour

Chatanooga1 · 05/05/2021 18:54

In the 80s my then partner got married to a woman that no one likes. She was quite horrible to her husband to be and we had no idea what he saw in her.

It transpired he has got her pregnant and was doing the ‘ right thing’ in his eyes, although we didn’t know this until after the wedding.

His mother my partners aunt was given the task of telling his side of the family that the bridesmaids were to be egg yolk yellow and no one was to wear a yellow dress.

Back then it was unheard of to demand what people could or could not wear so I did as I was told and bought a lovely navy dress.

Then I bought an egg yellow bag and shoes and a navy and hat! It was the 80s! 😀

I couldn’t give a stuff what she thought!

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MimiSunshine · 05/05/2021 18:59

@Chatanooga1

In the 80s my then partner got married to a woman that no one likes. She was quite horrible to her husband to be and we had no idea what he saw in her.

It transpired he has got her pregnant and was doing the ‘ right thing’ in his eyes, although we didn’t know this until after the wedding.

His mother my partners aunt was given the task of telling his side of the family that the bridesmaids were to be egg yolk yellow and no one was to wear a yellow dress.

Back then it was unheard of to demand what people could or could not wear so I did as I was told and bought a lovely navy dress.

Then I bought an egg yellow bag and shoes and a navy and hat! It was the 80s! 😀

I couldn’t give a stuff what she thought!

Your partner married a woman he knocked up, and you went to the wedding? And his mum was also his aunt?

I’m lost 😆

RandomDent · 05/05/2021 19:04

This thread has taken an interesting turn...

TheWaif · 05/05/2021 19:08

Yeah, I read the bit about the partner's mum/aunt about three times. Whet?

Drbrowns · 05/05/2021 19:08

My sil wore the same colour dress as the bridesmaids by mistake to a wedding we went to. She kept getting asked was she a bridesmaid and being offered drinks by the guests. The bride and bridesmaids where giving her daggers all day 😂. It was a genuine mistake though.

Ellmau · 05/05/2021 19:08

Maybe she means business partner?

Aprilshowersandhail · 05/05/2021 19:09
Wink182 · 05/05/2021 19:10

I think it must have been her partners brother

LadyFlossieParkingson · 05/05/2021 19:12

Same haha...your partners wedding when he married his cousin?

My own wedding....makes me cringe... a friend bought us 12 bottles of wine...random... after a few proseccos i said open the wine let everyone have some...

That guest must have felt like some sort of caterer...

In fairness i didnt even like red wine at the time and i know he got them cheap through a suppliers but still...wish now i didnt do that!

VenusClapTrap · 05/05/2021 19:15

I once wore a vintage cream silk dress trimmed with lace to a friend’s wedding. I honestly don’t know what I was thinking. Shock

The bride is a very laid back person, fortunately, and it was a very relaxed wedding. Nobody mentioned it and it was only years later that it occurred to me what a massive faux pas it was. I’m still friends with her, and she’s married to someone else now.

SwedishK · 05/05/2021 19:22

@Wink182

I think it must have been her partners brother
That still doesn’t make sense with the mum/aunt thing. Surely they would have the same mum. We need this sorted out asap, or I will get nothing done tonight.
Archiduchesse · 05/05/2021 19:27

@Chatanooga1 Can you come back and explain please! Smile

GlitterBicuits · 05/05/2021 19:28

Where's Jeremy Kyle when you need him?

gottastopeatingchocolate · 05/05/2021 19:28

I'm guessing partner's cousin. (Misses point of thread)

MusicMenu · 05/05/2021 19:35

I have a friend who met her husband at his engagement party...

Must be business partner?

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TheresNothingIWantMore · 05/05/2021 19:40

I got my bridesmaids dresses from Debenhams and one of the guests showed up in the exact same dress! 10 years later and we still remember but harbour no ill will! (and didn't at the time)

Smartiepants79 · 05/05/2021 19:48

It is a rock you take if you buy your dresses from the high street.
You have to choose them knowing it’s a possibility!

SnoozyBoozy · 05/05/2021 19:49

I assumed they were part of a wider friendship group, so he married egg woman and pp was invited, then divorced and got together with pp.
Maybe it was the partners's mother AND aunt who asked people not to wear egg yellow? (I'm far too invested in this!)

AppleAppleAppleApple · 05/05/2021 20:00

What’s egg yellow?

honeybuns007 · 05/05/2021 20:01

@Chatanooga1 Please elaborate!

DramaAlpaca · 05/05/2021 20:06

I turned up to a family wedding wearing the same colour as the bridesmaids. I could see the bride was slightly irritated, but it was actually her own silly fault - I'd asked her what colour they were wearing so I could avoid it and she wouldn't tell me, said it was a surprise.

Marmite27 · 05/05/2021 20:07

One of DH’s close friends. Asked him what colour the bridesmaids were wearing. He said pink.

I bought a sage green dress from coast. Turned out to be the same bloody dress as the bridesmaids. I offered to go home and change, the bride graciously declined as we’d miss most of the reception.

There’s a photo of the bride, bridesmaids and me as interloper somewhere. I put a note in their invitation to our wedding with words to the effect of ‘if she wanted to return the favour’.

I still cringe, but I’m their DD’s godmother and DH isn’t godfather so she must really have been ok with it Grin