What now makes you uncomfortable that didn't at the time

[drinkingwineoutofamug]

As a teenager I like listening to a certain rock band.
Just found their album on iTunes, downloaded and listened.
I was shocked. One of the songs - sung by grown men - ' she's a 13 yr tease , with bleach blonde hair. Let me eat your cookies , let me see your cookies '
Sat in the bath gob smacked. When I was 15 , this never made me question.

Has anyone else come across something that as a younger person it never crossed your mind but now it's a wtf moment

@Rowofducks

My mum had me at 16 and my dad was 30. I never thought anything about it growing up but now I have a 16yr old I would be horrified if she came back saying she was pregnant by a man that much older.

I used to love the Eminem song Stan but listened to it recently and I know it’s meant to be funny but it still made me feel very uncomfortable.

Is Stan meant to be funny?

For me it's the MASH tv show.

In the MASH movie Burns is a terrible bully & senior officer whom Hawkeye & Trapper plot against. Their conspiring makes sense because Burns has legit power he abuses.

In the TV show, Hawkeye & Trapper serially bully Burns who becomes increasingly pathetic over the series timeline, week after week. And it's supposed to be "funny". I did laugh then, but Creeps me out now.

When I was 13 I went on a PGL holiday and snogged one of the instructors. He was probably about 19. I was so flattered but looking back? Very weird. It was my first kiss too.

@FurrySlipperBoots

Daddy-Long-Legs - the novel. It’s a study of grooming a vulnerable orphan. Yuck.

Yes, it is proper creepy!

Gigi, Thank heaven for leetle girls.

A bloke in his early 20's wanting to have sex with me despite knowing my then age. I was 12 coming up 13.

I was flattered at the time because he was very handsome, I thought he must see me as quite grown up and mature for my age.

I saw the dirty bastard on Facebook the other day (I'm 27) and it all came back to me. Insidious creep.

@ drinkingwineoutofamug

No the one by Brian adams , the other guy. About a girl he didn't know her name, but it was a night to remember

Do you mean December 1963 by the Four Seasons?

Carrie-Anne by The Hollies.

Also, You're Sixteen, You're Beautiful And You're Mine - several versions by different singers. If it was meant to be a boy who was also 16 or thereabouts singing it, it would have just been 'Wow, you're beautiful and you're going out with [ordinary-looking] me' - why ever would he have even thought to mention her similar/identical age?

Mid 90s we had an old male PE teacher at an all girls school who used to stand with his full body up way too close behind us to show us how to swing a tennis racquet. Lots of girls thought it was great that he was “hands on” showing us what to do.... it didn’t sit right with me so I called him a dirty old man and got sent out of his class to do a different sport and was just considered a trouble maker.

@Thants1

I’ve never mentioned this to anyone before but recently started thinking about it and realised that it might not have been what it seemed. When I was a teenager I was sexually active from around 14 and went to the GP to get the pill thinking that would be sensible. He advised that I went on the contraceptive injection so every 3 months I went to see him to get it and he would make me undress my top half so he could feel my breasts to check for lumps. I’ve never heard of anyone having to do this. Would be Interested to hear if anyone has any opinions on it?

I don't think this is right - I've had the injection for almost 20 years and never yet had to undress top half, only get my bum out for the needle. Also only had it from GP about once every three years - usually it's the nurse on duty who does it. for you, that sounds a bit off.

Oh no, what's wrong with 'Summer of 69'? I almost don't want to know, I love that song!

The song isn't actually about the year 1969...It was a summer of love though

A truly extraordinary number of the already mentioned items and more.

Because I'm deaf, it's only been relatively recently that I've seen captions for a number of well known songs or for films/comedy shows. I'm genuinely aghast at times. A lot of TV series that I remember people raving about when they were broadcast are pretty much unwatchable.

The casual acceptance amounting to social support of domestic or intimate partner violence and the dearth of support for those affected by it (still appalling).

The open knowledge of the level of abuse in children's homes (or the ones for Wayward Boys and Girls) and the sheer indifference by those with any power to do anything about it and the powerlessness of those who did know and care.

Bryan Adams would have been 9 in the Summer of 1969. It's definitely not a song about sweet romantic love and the activities described most certainly don't correspond with what a 9yo would have been doing.

Definitely the Mandy Smith/ Bill Wyman situation. She was 13 when they started!!! I am a similar age to her so didnt seem too bad at the time, though his crinkly old face made me retch a bit. Now I think how could he?! Filthy perv

Wonder what he thinks now looking back, as he has daughters

Definitely PE.
This was the 90's and we weren't allowed to wear tracksuit bottoms, we had to wear short gym skirts and no cycling shorts underneath as they were "restrictive"
To play netball, really?
The showers too, we all hated them and had to have our names tIcked off a list to be excused if we had our period.
WTF?

'Porridge' gets of lightly when we do the revisionist thing of 70's T.V. programmes, incredibly racist to the character of McClaren, and homophobic to the character of Lukewarm.

Although it's not that old, I think the 'Big Bang Theory' is on very dodgy ground with it's treatment of the Indian character. It might be going for 'edgy', but it's just plain racist most of the time.

Away from that..I can't believe people used to smoke at their desk at work, and in the past 10 years I've noticed going for a drink at lunch in the middle of a working day has almost disappeared.

@RedcurrantPuff

Smoking

I’ve never smoked but my dad smoked like a chimney. No one went outside to have a fag back in the 70s, our house and me and my sister must have been absolutely stinking. I love my dad and he was an amazing parent in every way except this but I’d totally judge someone now who smoked like he did round kids. Thankfully he stopped over 20 years ago before I had my own kids.

Same for me. I developed asthma in my 40s; I'm sure it was due to all the passive smoking I did as a child and teenager.

My Dad gave up smoking after two family members died from lung cancer.

@butterpuffed

Bill Wyman [Rolling Stones] seeing Mandy Smith from when she was 13, married her at 18. And for an added twist, her mother married his son.

Yes! I was quite shocked by this at the time (would have been about 20 I think) but it seemed to be quite accepted

@Ameanstreakamilewide

I used to love Bobby Womack.

What’s Bobby Womack done?

Or did, given he’s been dead for a few years.

This might not go down well, but I saw an episode of Fawlty Towers recently and the physical abuse of Manuel, coupled with racism, was quite shocking to see. And then there was the verbal abuse of Mrs Fawlty. Perhaps it was a particularly bad episode. I just didn't find those parts funny.

Phantom of the Opera - I found the whole story very creepy. Same with beauty and the beast.
And the movie Big or any of those child/adult body swap movies. Always found it very wrong when they inevitably ended up in a scene where the child in an adult body ended up in a romantic situation.

@Gobbeldegook

I used to be a massive lost prophets fan. The fact I ever spent any money funding the bastard makes me wretch. Sick fucker 😡

Oh god, me too. Loved them, saw them live and it was the best gig I'd been to as a teenage girl. Now....urgh. Vile man. And I just can't believe that non of the band mates had any clue at all.

Many of the early songs by the Stranglers were vile, but the one that really stood out was Bring on the Nubiles, which sickened me from the first time I heard it:
"I want to love you like your dad and be your superman..."
and descends to explicit paedophilia.
How it was ever recorded, even in those days, I do not know. It is depraved and disgusting.

Ewan McGregor's schoolgirl girlfriend in Trainspotting

Can you believe that my Saturday job from 13 years old was working for my mum's estate agency business, showing potential buyers around empty houses!

So a customer would ring the office to book an appointment and pick me up from the estate agency office steps.
I'd get in the car with this stranger, with the keys to an empty house and off I'd go.....
An hour later the customer was excepted to drop me back.

No mobile in those days either!

(Sadly, pre Suzy Lamplugh)

I find it weird looking back that in the 80s there wasn’t even a no smoking area in McDonalds. The thought of anyone smoking in a restaurant or cafe now seems completely alien but to not even be able to sit in a designated space where nobody was smoking in a fast food restaurant seems insane.

And coming home from every night out absolutely reeking of cigarette smoke. It was just part of going out to smell like that when you crawled into bed.

I found the gym knickers thing really wrong even on the late 80s when I started secondary school and had to wear them. I couldn’t believe that it was an accepted thing.