What excuse can I give for being in hospital for a couple of days?

[EuroSpark]

Please don't flame me! I'm having a facelift later this month which is going to require a two night hospital stay, after which there's going to be bruising for a while.

I don't want anyone to know except family so what can I say to friends about my hiding away? Work isn't a problem as I've taken annual leave but my friends know I have this leave coming up. They'll know I'm not actually away anywhere so what can I say?!

Thank you.

well surely they will notice? Are you going to lie and say you use oil of Olay face cream? Absolutely it’s none of their business of course. So why do you feel the need to tell
Then anything?

Good for you. Doing something you really want to do, for you. And saving up for so long. Bravo.
We all spend our money differently. Mine is on solo holidays in the sun or with a friend.. but good for you. Don’t let anyone rain on your parade. And honestly, be proud and say why you’re going in. Own it.

Do you need to tell them anything? Unless they're literally watching your house, won't they just assume you're busy / seeing other friends of they don't see you every day?

@Templetreebalm I'm having tightening of the smas layer and some fat transference to replace lost cheek volume and to help combat the horrible "face sliding to the floor" look! The effect will hopefully be the sort of effect you get if you pull the skin on your face tight and up. But not too tight or too up!

I had my boobs done and said it was gynae related

[quote EuroSpark]@Templetreebalm I'm having tightening of the smas layer and some fat transference to replace lost cheek volume and to help combat the horrible "face sliding to the floor" look! The effect will hopefully be the sort of effect you get if you pull the skin on your face tight and up. But not too tight or too up![/quote]
Oh ok will google
Is it expensive?

Thank you so much for not judging/flaming.

@Templetreebalm - for me, yes. I'm a bit embarrassed to say how much!

TBH I would spend the money on some decent therapy to help you with your self esteem.

Saving for six years for a procedure which you say isn’t going to be noticeable is unlikely to resolve the issues you clearly have with your own self worth.

[quote EuroSpark]@Templetreebalm I'm having tightening of the smas layer and some fat transference to replace lost cheek volume and to help combat the horrible "face sliding to the floor" look! The effect will hopefully be the sort of effect you get if you pull the skin on your face tight and up. But not too tight or too up![/quote]
'Hopefully' being the operative word there OP.

What if it is too tight or too 'up', even if only for a couple of months?

I honestly think your friends will care a lot less than you think about what you do with your own money to your own face.

But they may care a lot about being told a pack of lies.

@OnlyInYourDreams a good facelift shouldn't be noticeable to the extreme. That's an unhelpful comment too

Dental treatment? Would potentially explain any swelling or bruises. Or pretend you're having treatment for snoring, if that's not too embarrassing. I had a dp who had this and it did slightly change the shape of his face.

[quote EuroSpark]@Templetreebalm - for me, yes. I'm a bit embarrassed to say how much![/quote]
Dont feel embarrassed!

People are deluded if they think that a facelift isn’t noticeable. It most definitely is, and the truth is that people will speculate for far longer than they will comment if they’re just told the truth from the outset.

If the OP just tells the truth people will likely comment along the lines of OMG, a facelift?” And will then probably comment after she’s had it done and that will be that.

If she doesn’t say anything there will likely be whispers of “she looks like she’s had surgery done to her face.” And they will always wonder. And if it starts to drop again, because cosmetic surgery won’t last for life, then they will comment again, years after the OP had even had it done.

If these are decent friends the OP should feel confident enough to tell them that she’s having the surgery. IF they’re going to judge then she’s probably better off without them.

And. Stand by what I say about needing some help to resolve her self esteem issues, because surgery alone is highly unlikely to be the magic bullet she hopes it is.

If these are decent friends the OP should feel confident enough to tell them that she’s having the surgery. IF they’re going to judge then she’s probably better off without them

I agree. And lying to friends always backfires in the long run.

@OnlyInYourDreams

People are deluded if they think that a facelift isn’t noticeable. It most definitely is, and the truth is that people will speculate for far longer than they will comment if they’re just told the truth from the outset.

If the OP just tells the truth people will likely comment along the lines of OMG, a facelift?” And will then probably comment after she’s had it done and that will be that.

If she doesn’t say anything there will likely be whispers of “she looks like she’s had surgery done to her face.” And they will always wonder. And if it starts to drop again, because cosmetic surgery won’t last for life, then they will comment again, years after the OP had even had it done.

If these are decent friends the OP should feel confident enough to tell them that she’s having the surgery. IF they’re going to judge then she’s probably better off without them.

And. Stand by what I say about needing some help to resolve her self esteem issues, because surgery alone is highly unlikely to be the magic bullet she hopes it is.

Goodness what a drama! Considering we will be wearing masks for the foreseeable I would just go with " lost weight" No ones business other than the OPs

Wisdom tooth removal, they need to keep you in because they were more impacted / diseased than shown on X-ray - that covers the bruises if anyone does come around.

A female colleague of mine just says that it’s female plumbing problems. No decent person would ask for more details.

Can't you just something vague like "I have to go into hospital for a procedure"? Most people won't ask any further, but if they do you can then just say "I'd rather not talk about it".

Difficult wisdom tooth removal. Can require short hospital stay if done under general anaesthetic and would explain any bruising

I don't want to tell anyone because I feel embarrassed that in these difficult times I'm spending money on something many will see as frivolous. But I've saved for nearly 6 years now and I think/hope it's going to have a positive impact on my mental health.

@EuroSpark - you need to work on ditching the embarrassment of spending your own hard earned money. It really isn't anyone else's business what we choose to buy and if you're judged by your 'friends', they're not your friends.

I really hope it goes well and that you feel better about yourself. It would be helpful for you to work on your self esteem and being assertive in dealing with any adverse comments that may come your way post-op.

Good luck

As for an excuse - Covid will ensure you're left alone for 10 days minimum

Just say you're having surgery to fix a long term problem. If they ask just tell them it'd personal.

"Major dental work.". That explains the swelling, the bruising, and the pain that made you stay home.

Wisdom teeth removal as an excuse is all very well until you actually need your wisdom teeth removed.
I had all mine out and only stayed in one night. The bruising was all down my neck after.

FrozenVag
Good thinking, I had my wisdom teeth out years ago, with two nights in hospital. My face was black and blue after, even my dad was shocked when he came to collect me from hospital.