Any parents experienced with teens and escort sites

[Hectorshousewasfab]

Friend has found her daughter using an escort site to earn money. Still at school, just turned 18 and lives outside the family. Mother is devastated and school want police involved.
Has anyone had any experience like this they can share? Daughter seems oblivious to dangers and just says she wants to be financially independent.
Can anyone share any experience of this!?

If memory serves me correctly, my friend shared a flat with another girl in the same work.

The relationship with this landlord is worrying. The age difference is massive. There are quite a few things to untangle here. Definitely speak with that charity for a start. They will know a heck of a lot more about what they're talking about than we do.

In a way, this landlord/boyfriend might be good for her if he's not the one who has got her into it in the first place, in that he might support her to get out of it. It might also be the case that he is the one who got her into it and is now threatening to out her to keep control over her. There's a lot that's unknown about the situation and every path into prostitution seems to be unique. Every experience of it is also unique.

In an ideal world we wouldn't judge people for choosing this work, but in reality, she will be judged if it's found out. Oxford won't take her if rumour hits their desks and I would worry that if the landlord is prepared to speak to her Mum about it, then I wouldn't trust him not to try to scupper her chances at uni in order to keep her vulnerable and close to him.

If we were all a little more 'woke' about this, things wouldn't be this way, but we have a long way to go in that respect.

I hope she gets out of it and has a wonderful carefree time at uni being a broke student.

Hmm. I used to work at a top independent girls’ school. We would have had serious concerns about one of our students living by herself away from her parents. We would have raised safeguarding concerns on that basis alone. In fact, we’d probably have refused to take her in that situation. But sex work? She’d be out. We’d have asked her to leave.

If it’s a ‘top school’ then they’re all getting top grades. This girl wouldn’t stand out. We certainly wouldn’t have been supporting this situation.

(Also, which of the top indies are not boarding? Apart from those in London?).

What Walking and Curious have said above makes me all the more certain that the fewer people who know about the girl's activities, the better. As nobody can stop her, it does no good. If she wants help she will ask for it.

Send her a link to OnlyFans instead.
Similar money if she's good at it with less physical risk.

Thank you everyone for all the helpful input and taking time to reply. Hopefully this will all work out well!

@Curioushorse Hmm. I used to work at a top independent girls’ school. We would have had serious concerns about one of our students living by herself away from her parents. We would have raised safeguarding concerns on that basis alone. In fact, we’d probably have refused to take her in that situation. But sex work? She’d be out. We’d have asked her to leave.

No no. In this definitely real story that totally happened, the mum raised the issue with the school and the school said, "Hey mum. Back off, right? Stop trying to control her life. Let her grow up, yeah?"

I mean, OP said so. And who could doubt that?

[quote Hectorshousewasfab]@Kindlynow
So today school told parent this is out of pastoral remit and it has to be reported to police.
The landlord situation, if what’s she’s telling me is true developed after she moved in. He thought he was in a relationship but then discovered her list of clients and Dd told him what she was doing. He took her to be tested for STD and she tested positive so at that point he contacted mother and arranged a private meeting in which he told her everything about his intimate relationship and her Dds sex work.[/quote]
What s the relationship between mother and landlord? Is it family friend?
So landlord tells mother then just carries on ?

I don't 'get' how this information fell into the mother's hands. If I was her daughter, doing that, I would do everything possible to prevent my parents knowing!

Regarding a sixth former living away from home, I do know someone who owned a small, furnished rental property and, when it became vacant, allowed their 17 year old daughter to live in it. The school said nothing - it was a good school too, reputable.

The little house was near the parents and they kept an eye on their daughter while she lived there.

@Maggiesfarm

I don't 'get' how this information fell into the mother's hands. If I was her daughter, doing that, I would do everything possible to prevent my parents knowing!

Regarding a sixth former living away from home, I do know someone who owned a small, furnished rental property and, when it became vacant, allowed their 17 year old daughter to live in it. The school said nothing - it was a good school too, reputable.

The little house was near the parents and they kept an eye on their daughter while she lived there.

The landlord/boyfriend contacted the mother if I've understood it correctly.

Weird. I wonder why he felt the need to tell mum.

@Maggiesfarm

Weird. I wonder why he felt the need to tell mum.

Either because he's jealous or he wants to manipulate the mother into cutting her off or he's a cunt.

Probably all three.

Sorry I can’t go into any more details but really thankful for all the insights and help received:)