Any parents experienced with teens and escort sites

[Hectorshousewasfab]

Friend has found her daughter using an escort site to earn money. Still at school, just turned 18 and lives outside the family. Mother is devastated and school want police involved.
Has anyone had any experience like this they can share? Daughter seems oblivious to dangers and just says she wants to be financially independent.
Can anyone share any experience of this!?

Even if the girl is still at school ?

[quote Timeforabiscuit]@KurtWilde you can be an adult, and also be very vulnerable. Age makes you vulnerable in different ways if your 18 or 98, that's why it's taken into account.

And you don't pay council tax if your in full time education, so I don't know what point you're trying to make.[/quote]
OP hasn't said that this woman is vulnerable in any way.

I was living on my own at 18 years old and I'd have been furious if my parents started getting involved in my personal life.

@Hectorshousewasfab

Even if the girl is still at school ?

Yes afraid so.. She is an adult in the eyes of the law. Her education status makes no difference. If she's being exploited it can be reported to the Police but its not a social care issue.

@Timeforabiscuit thank you !
I’m trying to help my friend who is at her wits end because there is little support or intervention. This started happening when Dd was 17 and it now transpires her landlord has been accepting sex for rent. It’s an awful situation. Girl is v academic with a place at a top top Uni starting in October but is now thinking to give up her place.

It certainly could be a police matter and is worth reporting but unless she agrees to and accepts help it cannot be forced upon her unless she lacks capacity.

How old is the landlord?

I thought you said parents pay all costs? So why is sex being exchanged for rent money?

@Kindlynow so do you think school want police involved purely to eliminate coercion?
Owise why involve them?
Friend just wants her Dd to realise how dangerous and risky this all is and wanted school pastoral to talk to Dd.

She's sex working, at 18, when she is financially being supported by parents, in full time education and the school are concerned about coercion.

At what point would you be concerned?

@Bramble88 that’s precisely the issue. All Dd has told mother is that she wants to be financially independent. She’s at a top Indy school and money isn’t an issue.

Sorry OP I wasn't trying to be unhelpful I was just pointing out (and have experience in), the fact that at 18 she really is classed as an adult and unless she accepts the help there's not much her parents can do.

I was living alone at 18 and most certainly wouldn't have taken kindly to my parents interfering.

How is the landlord accepting sex for rent of the parents are paying the costs

@MindTheBumps

How is the landlord accepting sex for rent of the parents are paying the costs

That's a good point.

@Embracelife he’s 43

She’s using a Sugar Daddy website

@MindTheBumps parents transfer money to girl not to landlord for rent

OP if her parents pay all costs how is the landlord accepting sex for rent? Surely her parents would be paying him directly?

The landlord situation and escort sites are two very different issues, did one lead on from the other?

I can see why the school recommended police.

Sorry X post I see they pay her not the landlord.

Completely understand your concern but I can't get the police to go round and visit every person I know who is making a shitty choice... If she's genuinely being coerced then the police can look into it but they are unlikely to do anything whilst the young lady is maintaining all is well I'm afraid.

School sound like they don't know what they are talking about if they want social care involved so I wouldn't be trusting what they are suggesting. They are better off monitoring, encouraging her to speak to trusted adults at school and allowing her to share worries as and when she has them. School have safeguarding leads that can do that keep safe work. If she is being financially exploited then offering her safe routes out of that environment (I.E. Can she return home if she needs to?) may help.

@Kindlynow
So today school told parent this is out of pastoral remit and it has to be reported to police.
The landlord situation, if what’s she’s telling me is true developed after she moved in. He thought he was in a relationship but then discovered her list of clients and Dd told him what she was doing. He took her to be tested for STD and she tested positive so at that point he contacted mother and arranged a private meeting in which he told her everything about his intimate relationship and her Dds sex work.

I can see the mother on the verge of a breakdown but have no solutions. I feel my suggestion to inform school has made things worse so hoping someone has a suggestion at what the next step should be!?

I guess I’m asking because I feel so awful that my suggestion of talking to school has not provided the Mother any support or help I hoped it would offer. If anything it’s going to worsen communication.

@SylHellais sorry please can you translate