Pushy kid - on my last nerve to be honest !

[DiscordandRhyme]

I feel like the biggest bitch here but Andes up with a particular girl in DD(8)s class just inviting herself to our house and being pushy when I say no, not today.

She'll come up with reasons why the reason I say she can't come doesn't matter. When she does come in she helps herself to food and drink and toys without asking me.

I also have a 5 year old and a 6 week old baby who naturally I'm spending a lot of time with.

I'm trying to be polite but firm but being firm is hard for me to do when it's met with resistance.

Her Mum doesn't seem to pick her up despite her just being 8 or at least she leaves by the time I see her. I used to talk to her Mum a lot when they came to the park but it's getting ridiculous now.

If we take an alternate route home she'll just knock and knock on our door.

As not to drip feed she has ADHD.

What's my best course of action/approach now? Feeling I'm close to being rude which is not me at all.

We had a child like this when DS was in primary school. He had the gift of the gab and could charm his way in then would eat all our food and when it was time to leave ask if he could take some food with him as well. Turns out his Mum wasn't even in and she didn't trust him with a key so he was expected to sit on the doorstep until she got back around 6!

What's an 8 year old doing walking the streets alone! I'd definitely report to the school.

Report to school and just say no. When she questions it you say, the answer is no, and that's the end of it, it's not up for discussion

That's what I say to my pushy 6 year old and then ignore and further conversation it eventually works

I too would be very worried about what’s going on and would definitely speak to school