Would I be completely mad

[Mammymar]

To have another baby at 40/41. I'm happily married 15 years, together 22 years. We have 3dc aged 9,11 and almost 13. I'm a SAHM and we have our own home, financially secure. DH had a vasectomy when I had out youngest as we thought we were finished but both us us are broody the last couple of years. We go back and forward and I don't know what to do.

I would!

Lots of couples have a baby in their 40's, look how many get remarried & then decide to have a baby together as well as having children from previous relationships, if you are both on board, then go for it as long as you have a big enough home for a separate bedroom & can afford it.

@Ninkanink my reply was to someone who got in a huff about eating her time posting, as if the OP was duty bound to take her advice. I was just gently explaining that the OO had a perfect right to ignore anyone’s advice and that sometimes if everyone is telling you something you don’t want to hear it makes you realise how much you really want the opposite . So yes, it was very specific and yes, no need to jump on me. I don’t think it was at all relevant to your post,

OP, hope you make the decision that’s right for you. For some reason MN is often really anti people with 3 or more kids. You must follow your heart or make your peace with the family you already have. Wish you the best.

*wasting!!! Not eating. 😂

[quote Poorlykitten]@Ninkanink my reply was to someone who got in a huff about eating her time posting, as if the OP was duty bound to take her advice. I was just gently explaining that the OO had a perfect right to ignore anyone’s advice and that sometimes if everyone is telling you something you don’t want to hear it makes you realise how much you really want the opposite . So yes, it was very specific and yes, no need to jump on me. I don’t think it was at all relevant to your post,[/quote]
Ah fair enough, I obviously missed out on the context.

It’s no big deal - we’re all grown ups here and can take it or leave it I’m sure.