I need help on this please tell me the truth and hit me hard with it guys !! Met a guy apparantley single , 50 years old im 41 told me he has slight depression , looks after his dad with alzheimers , works full time , has a daughter to a previous relationship which he is divorced from , met him last summer works near my house so walking by where he works got to know him anyway started speaking more 9 wks ago now at the beginning it was all going nice texting consistently but never a phone call not once has he called me in fact he never even asks anything about my life i had to tell him my surname to ask for his , anyway he told me he could never spend a night with me due to caring for his dad , bear in mind he has carers in 4 times a day which is fair enough i have been their done this with my own family member anyway i invite him in regularly after work for a cup of tea he was consitent the first few wks but then it started to fade saying things like oh il come & see you after work he never appeares , never lets me know hes not going to come when he says he will , then texts hours later saying he was at the hospital with his dad , he organised to cone and stay the night as his daughter & ex wife would stay with his dad to give him a break low and behold they caught covid and he lost his wallet so had no money to come anyway , i know guys hes a gaslighting billy bullshitter , what i find even stranger is that in the 9 weeks of seeing him we have only kissed he has never tried anything on with me i have mentioned it and he replied with we dont have time when i do get into see you i only have half an hour to an hour before i need to leave to head home their is no point major red flag , i have gave myself a time frame to get rid just to see if more things would unfold or improve which they have not its got worse . Met a few friends last week and intold them about him i dont have face book so they looked him up , here is a his profile picture of the daughter i knew about who may i add is desperate to meet me in a collage picture with a little boy about 2 which i had no idea about he has never mentioned a little boy to me anyway scrolling through he has posted a picture of the child at about 2 years old saying my boy this is dayed 2017 you cant really see anymore on his face book so im assuming the child is now at school maybe 5 or 6 and clearly doesnt get to see him this i find very strange as my own sons father doesnt bother with him , next lot some nights he texts for hours and for days hes so distant , lets me down constantly , i dont know where i stand with this guy atol i have tried to talk to him but qllnhe says is ah the old classic lets talk and fobs me off then says i dont blame you if you bin me you ar egetting nothing out of me i explained i like him and this way of getting to know each other slowly is better than rushing in even if i get half an hour or an hour a week well its something and with him being carer to his dad and working full time i understand it must be hard and also spreading himself thintonfit me in but i cant ignore my intuition i just feel hes telling massive lies and he is with someone also he also tells utterly nonsense stories like he has an en suite bathroom in a high rise flat , he takes motorbike lessons on a friday morning , he jhas his own office and pa he works as a labourer all last week he has been really off invited him in all week never appeared no texts to acknowledge me he has never had the courtesy to let me know thursday night i got a text at half 9 saying he was at the hospital with his dad his stoma bag fell off hope you are ok and hopefully i will get in tomorrow with a praying hands symbol knowing fine well he wont come in i didnt see the text til friday morning as i was asleep txt him back to say hope his dad is ok and him too and looking forward to seeing him text im i was out in the garden just come round the back just before he was due to finish work he never appeared surprise surprise !!! He hasnt even read my whatsapp messages and hasnt been seen since the friday morning whatsapp i sent he also says we have to whatsapp as his text messages dont work even tho he sent me a text the other week ( my brother is a doctor and sent me a link to send him with him being a care to his dad to help him with some covid things he was enquiring about ) so he clearly forgot he said about the text messages which was about 6 wks ago and his phone speaker doesnt work either btw , i know the answer to my questions and to this thread just need a bit of cut me to the bone advice ove gave him 2 months & tried to be diplomatic with him caring for his elderly alzheimers father and give the guy a chance but its a shit show disaster and it cant go on hes a cockwomble isnt he and an absolute gaslighter any wise words type away peeps