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How awful would your friend’s choice of name have to be before you said something?

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PlanterGents · 17/04/2021 19:18

DFriend is pregnant with a little girl that’s due and couldn’t think of a name the entire pregnancy (for boy or girl), so found out quite late that she was having another girl.

Anyway, I saw her alongside a few other friends today and she was saying how she really wants something soft sounding yet alternative and unusual. She then announced the bloody name and I was a bit Grin so laughed it off.

Everyone went a bit quiet and then someone else piped up that it’s her choice (the name). I said ‘that isn’t a name, it’s a common word’. Friend then smiled and changed the subject.

Have now had a text from friend that she really loves the name and hopes I’ll come round to it?!

Obviously this thread is completely outing so I’ve name changed so nobody can connect me to any other threads. I’m sure a few of our friendship group use MN, as I’m sure it’s come up before. So if you’re reading this, I’m sorry for upsetting you but I’m shocked! Sorry Blush

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ShortSilence · 17/04/2021 19:37

I’d have struggled to know what to say as well OP.

Pregnant women have some weird ideas (I include myself in that). “Maybe” she’ll snap out of it after the birth.

ShortSilence · 17/04/2021 19:37

@TerribleCustomerCervix

I’d be tempted to tell her that I’m sorry about how I reacted, but honestly it’s her baby and she doesn’t need me or anyone else to “come round” the name!

If she needs her friends’ validation so much maybe an unusual name isn’t the right one for her.

Agree with this
usernotfound0000 · 17/04/2021 19:38

DH loved the name Maybe for DD as an arrested development fan, obviously I vetoed him!!

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MolotovMocktail · 17/04/2021 19:40

Unless it was something like Chlamydia or Adolf I wouldn’t say anything, nothing to do with me.

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PlanterGents · 17/04/2021 19:41

I mean, Maybe she will. Maybe, she won’t Grin

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JosephineDeBeauharnais · 17/04/2021 19:41

We’ve got two nephews with awful / ridiculous names. The older one particularly is laugh out loud. When DBiL said the name in passing before nephew was born I laughed because I thought it was just a silly name they were using for the bump and thought nothing more of it. But no, that was the name. None of us ever commented on it again but it’s really hard when you have to say it because now we’re used to it, but the response of new people is always the same - total gobsmacked nervous laughter.

Whinge · 17/04/2021 19:43

@Gottalovesummer

Please talk her out of it.

Poor kid.

This //\

Poor child indeed. Sad

MargaretThursday · 17/04/2021 19:43

I think the only time you could comment would be if you can see an issue (eg initials spelling twat or something) that the parents might have missed.

Mmn654123 · 17/04/2021 19:44

@PlanterGents

I don’t want to give it away unless I have to, but I’ll try to be as discrete as I can!

The name is a common word, a one word reply to a question for example

Like ‘Maybe’
smallandimperfectlyformed · 17/04/2021 19:44

Isn't everyone going to sing Call Me Maybe at this child forever? I'm quite shocked other people weren't horrified by the name! I suppose the word is actually quite pretty sounding but who would want to be named after a non committal response?!

Arbadacarba · 17/04/2021 19:45

I'd stay out of it however terrible the name was.

Mmn654123 · 17/04/2021 19:45

Oh it is maybe!

Maybe baby, I got you oo oo

Mmn654123 · 17/04/2021 19:46

If she spells it weirdly it might work.

Though Mabel might work better

Kollamoolitumarellipawkyrollo · 17/04/2021 19:47

@TerribleCustomerCervix

I’d be tempted to tell her that I’m sorry about how I reacted, but honestly it’s her baby and she doesn’t need me or anyone else to “come round” the name!

If she needs her friends’ validation so much maybe an unusual name isn’t the right one for her.

Yes I would apologise for my reaction but not for thinking it is ridiculous. It isn’t a name she is giving herself or a name that is just not to people’s taste, it is a name many will react to I just the way you have and so I think it is fair to say what you think.
IggyAce · 17/04/2021 19:47

It’s unusual but not the worst I’ve heard, I work in a school so I’m not usually phased by a name. Plus my ds has a name that’s also an action.

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PlanterGents · 17/04/2021 19:48

Iggy Chase?

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doublehalo · 17/04/2021 19:49

She could call her Maybelline and then shorten it.

Nomorepies · 17/04/2021 19:49

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TheBabyAteMyBrain · 17/04/2021 19:49
I0NA · 17/04/2021 19:50

Tell her that Maeve is a better name. Or Mae / May.

LoveIsAllThereIs · 17/04/2021 19:50

I think stay quiet. Her baby, her choice. I think it's cute

Whinge · 17/04/2021 19:51

It isn’t a name she is giving herself or a name that is just not to people’s taste

Indeed. People who give their children ridiculous names should change their name instead. She isn't the one who will have to go through life explaining her name, hearing the jokes, constantly spelling it out.

Chilver · 17/04/2021 19:51

Maybe she will just be May?

theotherfossilsister · 17/04/2021 19:51

Told friend Thumbelina was awful (sure I have mentioned this before)

I think hope she was joking

doublehalo · 17/04/2021 19:51

Kath and Kim have some great ideas for baby names..