Philosophical question

[DeepThinkingGirl]

If someone bullied you , and stripped you of your basic rights when you were most vulnerable.

Let’s say, they starved you of food when you were under their care..

And then they became in a position of vulnerability and you had the key to help them.. let’s say that can’t get access to food without your continual support..

Would you do it ??

I’m in a similar position and it’s triggering so much ptsd in me. Part of me doesn’t wanna become them and take revenge.. basic rights are basic rights and tit for tat isn’t healthy despite being fair. . I just wish they could resolve their issues without my input as I don’t want to be reminded of their presence in my life.

But life is sooo shocking in that it sent them back to my doorstep and there is no other way for them to be helped without my input to save them..

Except I’ve spent the last couple of years praying for karma to hit them back

@goldielockdown2

Yes, you maybe getting a subconscious need met ( you're actually getting off on it - feeding your own drama lama).
Seems a bit hash but I did this once.
Once I realise I was trying to validate myself I in this way - I told myself how unhealthy it was.
Every time I felt the need to question myself I would calmly remind myself that ' There were better ways to process my feelings and would go off and do something I liked - and really enjoy it.
That always took the wind out the emotion

Give yourself permission to step away. Hell, I'll go e you permission if that'll help

Make a list of the worst things they've done, and every time they contact you or try to get you involved look at that list, and remind yourself what happened before.

We forget bad behaviour, because we don't want to dwell on it or hold a grudge, we file it away, and eventually forget, you need to actively remind yourself why you need to stay away.