Told to respect someone who screamed at me

[Wouldgivetwostars]

I’m going to be vague with details.

I was bawled out by a consultant (male). His manager (male) told me I should be more respectful of his station and stress level and pretty much bow and scrape to him to prevent it happening again. His words were “as a woman, Consultant feels you don’t respect him enough”

As a woman.

I was so struck dumb I didn’t know what to say and now I’m kicking myself.

I’ve documented and my line manager is aware. I won’t be in a room with him on my own anymore, he came into my office the other day and I said “good afternoon”, he literally looked at me and completely blanked me.

I want this person gone and do have some say in this (we are peers level wise). I’m dreading my next run in with him

@SelkieBeag - totally agree!

@Kdubs1981

Get to HR. Imagine what he does to others with less power

Be careful though. While his behaviour is disgusting, if he is a key person for them it is likely you will be moved, not him. I speak from bitter experience.

The thing is, we have TWO problem people....
the Consultant and the Manager. The Manager should have told the Consultant to GTF as soon as “As a woman” came out to play, also that screaming was not acceptable behaviour in any professional forum.
Do we trust that the Manager is reporting this accurately?
BOTH the Manager and the Consultant need to be reported to HR as this has been handled abysmally.