Death is just shit isn’t it

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Was thinking about the Queen and how long she had been with PP and how all of that is just gone now.

Obviously death happens to us all and they were very lucky to have been with each other for so long but isn’t it just shit how a loved one can just die and you just never see them again? They just cease to exist and that’s it, no more making memories with them or having a conversation with them

I know. It is shit.

But the alternative is worse imo.

I can't even bring myself to think about being without my mum, dad or sisters. It's too heartbreaking.

Yep. I still wish I could pick up the phone to my dad. What I would give to hear his voice again.

This

It's worse having no one. She was fortunate to live her whole life being loved.

The Queen has a strong faith, the idea that this isn't the end brings some comfort.
Sometimes death is a release, it doesn't mean that its not still sad but its preferable to life.

True. My DM died in Jan exactly 2 months before their 65th wedding anniversary. My poor dad, goodness knows how he is coping so well.

My great aunt and uncle received their telegram from The Queen for their 60 wedding anniversary.. They both died at 92 within 2 weeks of each other in separate care homes.

Worst thing ever ever ever... Nothing prepares you for it... people say 'stuff' that shows you that they have no idea of the devastating loss and heartbreak, regardless of the age of the person or how they died... I had no idea anything could feel so utterly bleak for so so long (and my loss was 'natural'/circle of life and all that... and there's 'good' stuff going on in my life... but I go to sleep, wake up, go through each day feeling like i've got a knife twisting in my heart)... Have been told it gets easier/we learn to live with it...And still 'incredulous' that that person has gone and I won't see them again (until we meet in the afterlife I hope - counting on that)

Painistheprice... Beautiful words... so true...

Whilst when a loved one dies it very sad, its also a fact of life. Everyone's going to die, and to live your whole life with someone and them make it to 99 is a pretty fantastic thing really.

I cant imagine living forever, and he clearly wasn't a well man. I cant imagine life was that enjoyable for him anymore

I think death is part of life and once people have lived a long life it’s okay for their lives to end but it really is shit that people can die young and well before old age. I can’t feel that sad for the Queen or Prince Phillip, he was 99 which is an age some could only hope to get to. It was however shot when I lost a parent in their 60s this year and the events Ashley Cain and his partner are going through losing their 8-month old is unbelievably shit. But a man age 99 dying? That doesn’t seem particularly awful to me.

@fudgefox

It's worse having no one. She was fortunate to live her whole life being loved.

This is how I feel. I'm sorry for her loss but she was lucky to have found a lifelong partner.

Are you seriously feeling sorry for the queen?

Don't... Death comes to us all it's part of the human experience.

Yes lost my brother to suicide 3 weeks ago. People who say 'it's a natural process blah blah' haven't experienced loss in the same way I think. The police woman said ' he looked at peace'. That's just bollocks really. Something people say that doesn't mean anything. He's not feeling peace. He's not feeling anything. Just dead. There's nothing so irreversible and so final.

Yes it is shit but life does go on afterwards. The Queen will have many good memories and her husband lived a useful, eventful and long life which will be a consolation to her, as well as her children and grands.

Are you an atheist, OP? The queen and Prince Philip both have/had a strong Christian faith. Death is certainly not the end, and the queen has the comfort of knowing they will eventually be reunited in the loving presence of God. Agreed, the temporary separation is very sad and painful, but at the queen’s age, it will not be for more than a few years.

I dunno. I was massively relieved when my dad died because he wasnt suffering anymore. I miss him of course but Id rather that than the suffering.

@Shelddd sorry but that's just callous. Of course death is expected when you are nearly 100. She's still going to grieve.

@picknmix1984 I'm so sorry. Suicide is incredibly cruel and hard to process. Hope you have support

I'm totally with you OP. Of course it was wonderful that they had each other but omg the sense of loss and sadness must be enormous.

picknmix1984

I'm so sorry for your grief, it's totally unimaginable xxx

Well yes it is sad to say goodbye but at 99 and when quality of life is over sometimes the person is ready to go.

Was thinking about the Queen and how long she had been with PP and how all of that is just gone now.

Why is it gone? Of course it's very sad for her and I'm sure she will miss him enormously, but the memories she will have of their 73 years together are just as valid as they were when he was still alive.

I think the Archbishop of Canterbury summed up Prince Philip's life perfectly yesterday in saying "there's something enormously impressive about a life that has been lived well and ended well"...

I used to be quite cynical about the subject of life after death etc until my Dad died a few years ago... Based on the things that have happened since and the signs I know is without doubt him I think it would be naive to say that there isn't some sort of continuation of life / energy in an obviously different format. Science states that once energy is created it can't be destroyed. The body is made up of energy so that energy has got to 'go' somewhere...

I'm lucky enough not to have lost anyone closer than a grandparent so far. My poor DH has lost his entire family except me and our children. I don't know how he's got through it really.

He had 99 years. They had a long marriage, all those years together, so much experienced and accomplished.

My son only had 27 years. So much more he could have done.