Page 3 | Death is just shit isn’t it

Daisiesarecute · 2021-04-10T16:16:35+00:00

Was thinking about the Queen and how long she had been with PP and how all of that is just gone now. Obviously death happens to us all and they were very lucky to have been with each other for so long but isn’t it just shit how a loved one can just die and you just never see them again? They just cease to exist and that’s it, no more making memories with them or having a conversation with them

Xenia · 10/04/2021 19:04

Not if you get 72 virgins in death (ISIS) or have a billion years of after life or even your own planet with all your wives (fundamentalist mormons) or reincarnation etc etc.

Icenii · 10/04/2021 19:05

I like to think that when we die we become one with nature. Our body part of the earth from which trees grow and our energy, the electrical currents and heat, which can't be destroyed, is converted to the atmosphere. When the wind blows, it's made up off all those that have come before.

CeibaTree · 10/04/2021 19:08

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

I had lost 5 family members by 20 and a further 3 + 1 friend over the last 15 years- death isn’t very nice but I’ve seen tragic deaths and I’ve seen old age deaths. Subsequently I’m hardened to it and can’t get too upset over it.

I agree with you totally. I can't get upset about a stranger who died aged 99, who never went through losing a child or their spouse, and lived a pretty good life. Of course it'll be so sad for the family, but Charles and his siblings have been incredibly lucky to have both of their parents into their own old ages. I don't know of any 60 somethings let alone people in their 70s who have had both parents their whole long lives like the royal siblings.

babbaloushka · 10/04/2021 19:08

I'm so sorry for your loss picknmix.

When my friends DD died suddenly at 8, she had to be removed from a charity event after someone told her that her DD was "in a better place". It was the straw that broke the camels back, and she couldn't stand the insinuation that her DD was anywhere better than here, with her mum, where she was loved and cared for beyond belief. It's a loaded statement, so I mind to explain to people why it's not always a nice thing to say.

cptartapp · 10/04/2021 19:11

My DF died aged 54 years ago and then my DM was killed at 69 in a car accident. Here one minute, gone the next.
I often think she'd be absolutely furious! The accident wasn't her fault. As am I still, many years on.

Anycrispsleft · 10/04/2021 19:13

As deaths go, his was one to envy I would say. But it's always sad to say goodbye to someone you love. It's such an odd feeling, on the day they die, when you realise, for the whole rest of your life you'll never be as close to the person as you were today.

Sarahtrue11 · 10/04/2021 19:14

My Dad died. I still talk to him. I think they still exist

Bagelsandbrie · 10/04/2021 19:25

It is. And worse is seeing someone die of cancer. Or any traumatic death really of course. Because then you spend your life worrying about the end rather than just living.

maddiemookins16mum · 10/04/2021 19:34

It is the very worst thing, losing my mum has changed me forever and I know my only DD will go through the same at some point.

Cornettoninja · 10/04/2021 19:38

I think it’s a different kind of grief when someone has truly lived their life and has little left to accomplish or to finish. It’s a kind of peaceful completeness with no more ‘what if’s’ that matter. There is still sadness and emptiness for those left behind but it truly is softened by memories and ability to appreciate them even when you’re missing them.

Younger deaths are horrendously painful and ragged. So much possibility is lost and there’s always a sense that they should have had more. It’s unfair and hard to reconcile.

I’m sorry for all those who feel that sharp wound, it doesn’t go away ime but it does become more comfortable to carry and in time you can find an appreciation that you get to cherish what memories you have because it means you had the chance to love them. Given the choice of never knowing someone or having to grieve them but know them I know which most would choose. It’s bitterly hard though

Kittykat93 · 10/04/2021 19:39

I don't feel sad that a 99 year old man has died after leading a very privileged life, no. But death is shit. Just look at the news at the moment and that footballer Ashley cain's daughter...an 8 month old who's been battling cancer since 2 months old and is about to die..now that is horrendous and heartbreaking. All this hysteria over prince phillip I just dont get, sorry. My mum died at about half the age he was, I'd have given anything for her to live as long as he did !

Cipot · 10/04/2021 20:10

The family dynamic changes. The unwritten rules. That's what I didnt anticipate. People who behaved ok before don't any more. It can decimate a family, the loss of a person.

babbaloushka · 10/04/2021 20:28

@Cornettoninja

I think it’s a different kind of grief when someone has truly lived their life and has little left to accomplish or to finish. It’s a kind of peaceful completeness with no more ‘what if’s’ that matter. There is still sadness and emptiness for those left behind but it truly is softened by memories and ability to appreciate them even when you’re missing them.

Younger deaths are horrendously painful and ragged. So much possibility is lost and there’s always a sense that they should have had more. It’s unfair and hard to reconcile.

I’m sorry for all those who feel that sharp wound, it doesn’t go away ime but it does become more comfortable to carry and in time you can find an appreciation that you get to cherish what memories you have because it means you had the chance to love them. Given the choice of never knowing someone or having to grieve them but know them I know which most would choose. It’s bitterly hard though

I'd never really thought of it like that, but what a lovely sentiment. We miss them so because there was so much to miss, so much love.

VaVaGloom · 10/04/2021 20:39

Prince Philip will have been fortunate to have died in a private, quiet place with nursing staff able to fully support him and his family at every moment - the polar opposite from what many elderly people needing end of life care and their families experience (sadly I speak from experience )

FunTimes2020 · 10/04/2021 20:39

@Shelddd

Are you seriously feeling sorry for the queen?

Don't... Death comes to us all it's part of the human experience.

You sound unkind...

jessstan2 · 10/04/2021 21:17

@VaVaGloom

Prince Philip will have been fortunate to have died in a private, quiet place with nursing staff able to fully support him and his family at every moment - the polar opposite from what many elderly people needing end of life care and their families experience (sadly I speak from experience )

That's something for which to be thankful. I hope I go off in my sleep when the time comes, in my own home.