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How would you deal with this absolute clanger?

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La12 · 10/04/2021 16:27

Long story short, managed to view an Instagram story of someone who I was trying to discreetly stalk and now I have to see them every day. Too late for me to do anything about it, completely inappropriate crush on this person, absolutely dying inside. How do I style it out? Completely pretend it didn’t happen? Try to avoid talking to them ever again (not really do-able, but I can try). Stupid fat thumbs!

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jellybe · 10/04/2021 16:31

If you know them and they have Instagram why does it matter if you viewed their story? I don't understand why it's a big deal?

Bluntness100 · 10/04/2021 16:32

Um what? So what if you viewed their stories?

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La12 · 10/04/2021 16:32

I don’t really know them that well, I don’t follow them. I just chat to them in passing every now and again.

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KurtWilde · 10/04/2021 16:33

Don't really see why it's a problem tbh

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La12 · 10/04/2021 16:33

As I say, it was an attempt to discreetly stalk them...

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Arbadacarba · 10/04/2021 16:33

You don't need to do anything - as pp said, what does it matter? Carry on as normal.

TheWaif · 10/04/2021 16:36

Unless they know you're trying to discreetly 'stalk' them it doesn't really matter. You could just say you were on Instagram looking up people you know. It's not that shocking a thing to do.

Definitely don't mention it or act differently!

Aquamarine1029 · 10/04/2021 16:36

Why is this even a problem? They post stories for people to look at. You looked at it. Am I missing something? Trying to "style it out", whatever that means, will only serve to make you look weird and awkward.

SleepingStandingUp · 10/04/2021 16:38

You're totally over reacting.

Unless tb y fancy you back, it won't even register in their brain that you've seen it. If they do, they're unlikely to think "oh she must have been stalking me cos they want to shag me". In the v unlikely event they notice AND comment then they're the one being odd

Original poster
La12 · 10/04/2021 16:40

I do tend to catastrophise things. Thankfully, your responses have made me realise I’m over thinking (as per usual!)

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KurtWilde · 10/04/2021 16:42

Honestly OP unless they mention something don't even give it brain space. And even if they do mention something it's easy to say oh I was just clicking on random stories

MrsSDK · 10/04/2021 16:43

Comment and style it out?

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 10/04/2021 16:43

Do you mean you aren't friends with them or connected on Instagram so they would know you went out of your way to look up his name and account and view the story? If so, I did that once. I sent a friend request and then when I saw them said I sent you a fr but had to view your story to make sure it was you first, there's a lot of weird accounts on Instagram!

WonkyCactus · 10/04/2021 16:44

OK, ignore PP who clearly have no idea about Instagram - this is a DISASTER! I would be extremely Hmm if someone who I knew but who was not even following me looked at my stories. Either follow immediately or never be tempted to stalk them again. They will probably block you now anyway.

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La12 · 10/04/2021 16:45

SnipSnipMrBurgess, yes- that’s the issue!

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mynameiscalypso · 10/04/2021 16:47

If they have an open insta account, they're fair game.

Mixitupalot · 10/04/2021 16:47

Must of mumsnet don’t get get social media, it’s the devils work!

I would be mortified, in fact I sympathise because I did this just last week.

You know you can block them straight away for 24hr and they won’t know you viewed their stories?

LawnFever · 10/04/2021 16:50

@mynameiscalypso

If they have an open insta account, they're fair game.
Yeah exactly! I’d just follow their account, if you see them all the time anyway that’s totally normal
EmergencyHydrangea · 10/04/2021 16:50

I don't understand the drama here? I don't give a fuck who looks at my insta stories. If I did they wouldn't be public

KurtWilde · 10/04/2021 16:51

I've had Instagram for years and use it multiple times per day. Tons of people who don't follow me either view my story or send me a message request. Honestly can't see the issue here. If your account is public then as PP said you're fair game.

MissingTheMoonlight · 10/04/2021 16:52

I never look at who views my Insta stories so he might not either.
Not a big deal!

rjacksmiss · 10/04/2021 16:52

Use this next time 🤣

insta-stories.ru

GreyhoundG1rl · 10/04/2021 16:52

Does it notify you when someone looks at your Instagram?

Bluntness100 · 10/04/2021 16:53

@Mixitupalot

Must of mumsnet don’t get get social media, it’s the devils work!

I would be mortified, in fact I sympathise because I did this just last week.

You know you can block them straight away for 24hr and they won’t know you viewed their stories?

What? I constantly view other people’s stories, friends of friends, colleagues etc. I’m not remotely mortified about it. Why would I be? He or she doesn’t know the op was trying to ,discreetly stalk”. All they know is they are just one of many who viewed it.

How patronising to say actually on social media, the people on here don’t understand social media. Eh yeah we do, 😂😂😂

Bluntness100 · 10/04/2021 16:53

@GreyhoundG1rl

Does it notify you when someone looks at your Instagram?
You get little thumbnails showing who viewed.
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