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A worried rant - someone keeps making false accusations against me

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LittleFlame · 08/04/2021 16:28

Just that really - not entirely sure what to do, but need to vent somewhere. Have NC as previous posts have mentioned the area I live or personal details.

We moved into our home three years ago. The first year went perfectly. In February last year, we got a letter from the council saying someone had made a noise complaint. We're not especially noisy and only share a wall with one neighbour, who is lovely and would have spoken to me directly. On further digging it related to a one off, loud late night party and screaming arguments in our garden. As it happened, whoever had called it in mentioned a specific date. We were at a wedding 200 miles away.

In April we had another letter saying we were putting building waste in our recycling. We weren't. Waste inspector from the council came round and again no problem.

In July, someone called the family services team at the council and said DH was mistreating our 1 year old DD - again, named two times where he was screaming and swearing at her in the garden, she was dirty and crying. I had a call from them while I was at work. They didn't mention specific dates but "last week" - we were on holiday. We chatted for a bit, I offered for them to come and see DD if they wanted but they said it wasn't necessary and closed the file.

In October we were woken up at 7am by an ambulance. Someone had called to say our child was in urgent need of medical treatment (unspecified). She was perfectly well and fast asleep. We woke her up, paramedics looked her over, were happy that she was well and OK and left. They said they knew the call hadn't come from us and the age of the child didn't match DD's age.

Three hours later, the police turn up. They've been called because someone said we turned away an ambulance and our child was sick. They saw her, were happy, and left. They did say they might have to refer onto social services but it has been 6 months and nothing further has happened, so I assume they didn't.

Last week someone called the fire brigade while DH had lit our firepit in the back garden so we could sit outside while it was chilly.

I really, really don't know what to do. We have an inkling of who it might be but no actual evidence to do anything legally - at this point if we sent a harassment warning, they could counter with the fact we have no actual evidence. I don't think the police could or would do anything. It feels like we're being targeted in our own home and it's escalating, sending emergency services to our house over and over seems mad. I'm dreading every day at the moment in case yet another thing kicks off and I don't know how we stop it.

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SheldonesqueIsAlmostHuman · 08/04/2021 23:26

. I once believed that someone who could be such an arsehole must be unwell.

The chap who made my life a misery was well enough to only target me.

I wanted to believe he was struggling or unwell but he really was just an arsehole.

lavenderlove · 08/04/2021 23:31

That's actually really scary! I would be worried that one day it's going to be a report that you can't prove wasn't you. Hope the police call you back tomorrow and you can make a log with them. Even if the calls made to them/ambulance were anonymous and they can't take it further, at least it's logged for any future accusations.

SuperintendentHastings · 08/04/2021 23:34

OP my sister had something very similar happen a few years ago and she suspected it was their neighbour across the road. My sister went to speak to her on the pretence of 'just asking if you'd noticed anyone hanging around or anything that might help the police in their investigation, we've kept a log of all the incidents. It looks like the police will be able to trace some of the calls, so that's great isn't it'. The woman was barely able to speak to her she was shitting herself. They had absolutely no trouble afterwards and the neighbour moved soon after.

I'm not suggesting this as the best course of action (the police is for sure), just relaying the story really. Certainly, when this woman thought there was any inkling that my sister was 'onto her', it all stopped.

MeadowHay · 08/04/2021 23:36

This is awful to read and I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Please do report it to the police. Also think about your own wellbeing and how it's affecting you as well, do you need any support with that? Could Victim Support help maybe? I can't believe people do things like this.

Calmyertits · 08/04/2021 23:46

Its using professional bodies as a form of harassment. Abusing the emergency services, hoax calling and being a down right cock womble aswell.

allmycats · 09/04/2021 17:06

Use the police on line crime reporting. You can write everything down and keep a copy. This way there can be no error where you say 1 thing and at the other end of the phone they write it down incorrectly. I had to use this system recently and had a response within the hour, even though the on line form said 72 hours. You will also be able to use the copy to scan to the other emergency services so that each one has exactly the same info.

pws1 · 09/04/2021 17:56

Yep - they are not just harassing you, they are tying up the emergency services. The Police do not like that. Good luck and stay positive, that will annoy them!!

LittleFlame · 09/04/2021 21:14

An update for those that want it - spoke to the police today. They’ve given me a crime ref and are going to look into things. I don’t feel overly confident as the officer didn’t seem particularly bothered but at least I have it on record now.

A couple of people mentioned letting employers know. Luckily my manager already knew - I had a shit weekend the week an ambulance was called and we ended up chatting about it at the time as I was knackered from no sleep the night before. DH runs his own company so the only person they could complain to is him Grin

I’ve been rethinking the family services call since I posted and it’s jogged my memory - the woman definitely said they’d received an anonymous contact form through the website, so not sure how far that would be traceable unless the police decide they want to track IP addresses etc.

I was also thinking I could SAR the ambulance service maybe? The timelines for that call don’t really add up and they might give more weight to a potential harassment charge. I think it might have been a 111 call rather than 999. There was no real sense of urgency when they turned up. TBH I’m more preoccupied with going after the calls that relate to DD.

And for those that have mentioned it - I am definitely not going to speak to neighbours directly. If it is them I’m sure they’d have no problem making a harassment claim against me.

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TapeMeasureBlues · 09/04/2021 22:21

Well done OP. I think it's wise not to go speaking to the neighbours.

RainbowCrayons · 10/04/2021 03:56

Well done! I hope the police really do put their all into looking into this. It benefits them as much as you for someone to stop wasting the time of the emergency services.

VashtaNerada · 10/04/2021 04:47

Well done. Be persistent with the police. Harassment and stalking is taken seriously as long as it gets referred to the right team. If they fob you off because they have too many crimes to deal with, don’t take that to mean they can’t help at all. This should definitely be investigated as it’s a worrying pattern of behaviour.

Frannibananni · 10/04/2021 05:59

Park in front of her house more often and see if it escalates.

SheldonesqueWillHaveWeevils · 10/04/2021 06:53

I hope it gets resolved quickly for you Op Flowers

chatw00 · 10/04/2021 09:50

Sounds horrible for you all Sad

Have you chatted to the nicer neighbours to see if they've had anything similar? Might be worth sounding them out, particularly if they've lived there a long time.

IstandwithJackieWeaver · 10/04/2021 11:39

@Frannibananni

Park in front of her house more often and see if it escalates.
Why on earth anyone would suggest this I do not understand.
AWamBamBoom · 10/04/2021 12:02

@Frannibananni

Park in front of her house more often and see if it escalates.
What a stupid thing to suggest Very glad you've reported it OP, it's the not knowing what's coming next that is frightening The police were brilliant when I had a problem, I really hope you get it sorted soon
itsgettingwierd · 10/04/2021 12:08

I'm glad it's been reported to police.

You're right they may have issues tracing past events but if anything else happens you have a crime ref to link it to when you report that.

I hope you are wrong about them not seeming interested. Don't forget with crime ref you can email in a week and ask how they are getting in and any updates?

BluebellsGreenbells · 10/04/2021 12:21

They all seem to be a one off call to different agencies so at least the police could piece it all together and flag your address for further call outs.

BlackeyedSusan · 10/04/2021 12:30

The "nice" neighbours could have told the nasty neighbours a shocking lie about you which is why they have gone off you.

DogsSausages · 10/04/2021 14:07

Just let the police deal with it now, if they are in some way targeting your dd then the police should take it seriously.

Cherrysoup · 10/04/2021 15:43

You could speak to the neighbour directly. Come from the angle of ‘someone has been making these calls, and wasting the time of the emergency services, do you have any idea who might do it?’

Yeah, cause that will make them confess/stop. Confused

I echo contacting the Suzy Lampugh trust and keep the police updated. They can and will trace numbers for someone abusing the emergency number.

CinnamonCurls · 23/04/2021 08:21

Has it gotten any better OP?

Hm2020 · 23/04/2021 08:35

Wow this would really frighten me op, hope you get to the bottom of it and the police take it seriously.

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