Do you use ellipses?

[YouWereGr8InLittleMenstruators]

I absolutely bristle at ellipses.
I find it hard to see any justification for adults using these. Sure, there is a place for them in primary school suspense writing, but I fail to see how they in any way enhance adult written communication. At best, they leave something implied, rather than clearly expressed and suggest you have to 'figure it out'. At worst, they are passive aggressive.
I have a friend who uses them so weirdly, it makes everything seem like a subtle come-on: "Perhaps you could come over for a cup of tea..." or "I'm free all day tomorrow..." or "I'd go for the blue, it looks pretty on you..."
One parent on school SM group always seems to use them instead of full stops, each sentence punctuated by ellipses. Like a kind of stream of consciousness rather than actual communication: "Mr T mentioned it this morning... I think it could have been handled better... At least now, we'll all be on the same page... I'll see what George says about it later..."
I fail to see the appeal. Do you use them and if so, what do you think they add to what you are hoping to say?

I think that (outside of their intended purpose) people are using them as a 'soft' full stop; it's a natural effect of full stops being too aggressive in informal messages for a lot of people, but sentences still needing to be demarcated

As with all kinds of punctuation marks, I like them very much when used appropriately! Someone who uses dot-dot-dots in a gentle elegant way to join up two related statements comes across to me as having considered (musing, as one pp said) the point. And it leaves a bigger gap between the statements than a little comma.

Disclaimer: I do love a solid semicolon... is there anything that can fully take its place?

While I’m on the topic, does anyone approve of ?!?!?!?! or ???!!! in a non-teenage, non-personal context?

It annoys me when people use more than three dots..........

I use them a fair bit. When I read them, though, I hear a Hammer Horror-esque: “Dan, DAn, DAAN”.

I use ellipses, probably too much. I use it in nuances like, "Dan said he'd have it done by Friday, and we know how that usually goes..."

I also use colons and semi-colons at times. I do like a good semi-colon.

Actually, I don't just use them for my maths. I just made a post on another thread with... to imply something!

Pet, one of each only after "WTAF": WTAF!?
*CuriousAboutSamphire", you have a really lovely username. I have admired it for years.

Love them.....
They are my favourite punctuation at the moment...

Oh god I hate them!!! I find it really sarcastic and rude when people use them

OnceMore, the aggressiveness of full stops!
"In 2015, leading language expert Professor David Crystal published the book Making a Point, in which he explained that the full stop has become an “emotion marker” used to signify anger or annoyance. ... Full stops, he said, can cause the message to be perceived as "cold, angry or passive-aggressive." (The Yorkshire Post, 24 Aug 2020)
www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-49182824
To me, they exemplify zen-like closure.

Yabu...

@YouWereGr8InLittleMenstruators

OnceMore, the aggressiveness of full stops! "In 2015, leading language expert Professor David Crystal published the book Making a Point, in which he explained that the full stop has become an “emotion marker” used to signify anger or annoyance. ... Full stops, he said, can cause the message to be perceived as "cold, angry or passive-aggressive." (The Yorkshire Post, 24 Aug 2020) www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/uk-49182824 To me, they exemplify zen-like closure.

It's certainly a thing where I work (corporate environment with a generally high standard of literacy) and I've adopted it too, esp with younger colleagues (old millennial here).

I taught my husband what they were called. They've now become a verb in our house.

'This bloody teenager is ellipsising me!' (When you can't get a straight answer, or are being ignored)

It's actually quite appropriate use of a bloody annoying grammatical thing.

If we are having a low level grumble, what are people's thoughts about the triple comma,,, please?

I do enjoy a good semicolon, but they're tiny to read on a phone. An ellipsis gives a more obvious gap (although they definitely shouldn't be used in all circumstances). I use a lot of em dashes — they're especially good because they're very forgiving. You're not sure whether to use a colon, semicolon or comma? Use an em dash!

I have to admit I've stopped putting full stops at the end of instant messages and texts, after being told it can look PA. I suppose just "Yes." does seem quite short.

I love them, also use semicolons a lot. Although, since discovering that it makes some idiots people uncomfortable, I've reverted to using full stops. Anyone ridiculous enough to be upset by the sight of a full stop deserves to be traumatised...

I like the nuance it creates. If you use full stop, it sounds like your thought stops there. But if you use ellipses, it creates continuity of thought process. But I maybe totally talking rubbish, since English isn't even my first language.

Sally, what do you think, though? I hate the idea of you being prevented from using a neat, effective full stop because this most basic of punctuation devices could be construed as passive aggressive. A bit blunt, perhaps; direct and to the point, but aggressive or even passive aggressive? Surely not if one's communication style is friendly and non-confrontational? How is this a thing that adults feel compelled to go along with?

@HelloDulling

They are uber Pass-Agg. Can’t stand them. I’m sure some people think they are fine...

I can’t stand pass agg.

@FlibbertyGiblets

If we are having a low level grumble, what are people's thoughts about the triple comma,,, please?

It means they've hit the comma button instead of the full stops due to fat fingers, while trying to do an ellipsis...

@gingerbiscuit19

Oh god I hate them!!! I find it really sarcastic and rude when people use them

Now multiple exclamation marks! Really. Is there any need....

I use them like a previous poster said.

So ‘we are only going to have one drink aren’t we...’
To me that means that we are saying we are only having one drink but we all know it’s going to be more. Whereas if it had ended with full stop or a question mark then it would have been more of a statement that I’m only expecting to stay for one drink.

I use them fairly regularly, but not too liberally. Sometimes I even use the proper symbol, instead of typing three full stops…