Do you use ellipses?

[YouWereGr8InLittleMenstruators]

I absolutely bristle at ellipses.
I find it hard to see any justification for adults using these. Sure, there is a place for them in primary school suspense writing, but I fail to see how they in any way enhance adult written communication. At best, they leave something implied, rather than clearly expressed and suggest you have to 'figure it out'. At worst, they are passive aggressive.
I have a friend who uses them so weirdly, it makes everything seem like a subtle come-on: "Perhaps you could come over for a cup of tea..." or "I'm free all day tomorrow..." or "I'd go for the blue, it looks pretty on you..."
One parent on school SM group always seems to use them instead of full stops, each sentence punctuated by ellipses. Like a kind of stream of consciousness rather than actual communication: "Mr T mentioned it this morning... I think it could have been handled better... At least now, we'll all be on the same page... I'll see what George says about it later..."
I fail to see the appeal. Do you use them and if so, what do you think they add to what you are hoping to say?

No... hate them....

why are you asking ...?

A previous colleague signed off with his name and ellipses, as in:

Steve...

We used to call him dot dot dot

In general I think people use them in texts to indicate uncertainty...

I do not however, use expressions such as 'uber Pass-Agg'. Thankfully, she said, passive-aggressively.

@ThatsShitTryHarder

They are uber Pass-Agg.

I worked with someone high up in SOCA and their emails were full of ellipses, every sentence ended with ellipses, I thought it was a bit odd for work/official emails.

I’ve only known one other person do it on texts/SM, it was years ago now and I thought it showed how quirky/interesting he was, fuck knows why, he was actually a bit of a tear.

@NRCS

I like them for some reason ...

But sometimes I put too many ........

...

Steve... That is funny.
I'm glad it's not just me who finds them passive aggressive.
I am open to the idea that I may be missing a trick in terms of suggested usage. I just feel, and this probably sounds nutty, that ellipses constitute a sort of unsolicited effort-grab: like, you could just say whatever it is, but instead, you are going to make me figure out / engage emotionally with what you are not expressing.

I use them all the time but only for their proper purpose which is omitting a less important or less relevant part of a sentence when quoting something else.

I do, but I study maths

@HelloDulling

I do not however, use expressions such as 'uber Pass-Agg'. Thankfully, she said, passive-aggressively.

I had to think for a minute what 'pass-agg' meant even. Uber=taxi firm.

At best, they leave something implied That's what they are for.

Having said that, I can't see all that much point in people using them in random texts to family and friends.

On the other hand...

I do it for (pathetic) jokes with my family. Eg If I have backache, I might message my daughters ‘I thought today would be a good day to clear out the loft...’

Not very funny I agree!

TooMuchFaster, I teach primary, so see more than my fair share of excellent use of ellipses for tension-building purposes. They really bring joy to so many young writers
Weatherwax, I'm not sure if your post is ironic, but what you describe is an excellent example of passive aggressive usage. Ditto side-eyed smiley emoji.
Right, BeBrave, that's when I might use them.

Uber=taxi firm.

True, and if you’re using the word “uber” for emphasis there should be an umlaut over the letter u.

@BeBraveAndBeKind

I use them all the time but only for their proper purpose which is omitting a less important or less relevant part of a sentence when quoting something else.

Yep, me too!

I use them in the work group chat, and on here but can't say i have in texts or to family that much.

I overuse them and I annoy myself with it sometimes. 😂

BUT what really annoys me is people ending a sentence with .......... or no punctuation at all.

I do! My SM communication style seems to be irritating to many...!!!

Use them a lot when musing or looking for thoughts on something.

Pete told me the plan but I'm not sure its a good idea...

I love them....they sort of follow my train of thought.....so you can visualise my cogs turning......until the process is finished.

@Whatalottachocca

I love them....they sort of follow my train of thought.....so you can visualise my cogs turning......until the process is finished.

That sounded quite Haiku-like!!!

Maybe...
Maybe not...

@ThatsShitTryHarder

Uber=taxi firm.

True, and if you’re using the word “uber” for emphasis there should be an umlaut over the letter u.

I did not know that. Should I start using the word? I can't think where I would. If I said it in a conversation people would be .

I love them. Especially at the beginning of a text where you want to say 'and there's more' or 'oh, just remembered'.