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Azaylia Cain

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LetsGoChamp · 28/03/2021 21:23

I can’t stop thinking about this poor little girl. My heart hurts for her family. I know she’s not the only child fighting a life threatening illness but she’s all I’ve thought about today.

Sorry if this post upsets anybody that is familiar with this little girl.

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ballsdeep · 10/04/2021 21:03

I agree they should post what they want. I think they've had such a huge outpouring of love and support, they just want to share their precious baby girl. I am on awe of their strength . I pray to every higher being I am never in that situation but I don't think I'd be as brave as them.

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LetsGoChamp · 10/04/2021 21:03

It’s so hard to watch so I understand why you’ve felt the need to not look @ItsMeMarg but if it’s how they cope then I feel we should let them in any form.

Seeing them all so broken has truly broken me tonight. My candle is lit and I’ll be holding out every last hope for the worlds biggest miracle until it’s no longer possible.

I thank everyone on this post for sharing my pain. Especially the mothers who have gone or going through the same. It’s support I never thought I’d need.

I thank my lucky stars my boy is healthy every single day. Not sure I’ll ever stop squeezing him now.

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withpeaceandlove · 10/04/2021 21:03

@ChocBeforeCock agreed, I don't think I could be half as strong in their shoes & if they want to post then they should. It really is heartbreaking how much she's declined though, it seems so real after seeing her like that instead of her usual fighting smile. Truly awful.

Mugginyouleftrightandcentre · 10/04/2021 21:09

It's not something I'd personally post but I'm guessing it could be their way of coping, trying to keep some form of normality to prevent them from breaking down completely.

I think this is probably it, particularly in Safiyya's case. I doubt they will share much more now though. Am thinking of them all tonight.

ItsMeMarg · 10/04/2021 21:10

But nobody has said they shouldn't post what they want? I specifically said that it was their choice to share whatever they want to - which they are doing.

I do feel quite strongly about being some sort of rubber necking voyeur though so have chosen to opt out now because I do think it's a little bit ghoulish to hang around waiting for .. what exactly? To see this little baby looking even iller? A death announcement?

It's all just horrible

Wingingthis · 10/04/2021 21:16

Of course they can post what they like, I didn’t mean that to sound judgmental or rude in anyway. I cant imagine what they’re going through, and if it helps them in anyway then of course they should post. My main point is I’m heartbroken for them and that’s all I really truly feel :( no judgment, no hate, just sympathy and heartbreak xx

Darbs76 · 10/04/2021 21:21

It’s all so sad. Their decision entirely to post those videos should they wish. This is the reality of childhood cancer and leukaemia.

Crunchiedelight · 10/04/2021 21:31

I’m so glad I’ve found this thread. I’ve been following their story for the last few months and I’m absolutely heartbroken for them. I’m not a crier and have never been invested in someone’s life that I don’t even know but this has had me in tears several times over the last few days, I’m just so devastated for them. Such a beautiful, strong little girl and they really are amazing parents. The pain in their eyes. I have a little boy of a similar age too and I just can’t imagine how awful this must be.

kate288 · 10/04/2021 21:35

I've been feeling the same, so heartbroken for her mum and dad, they really are exceptional parents. I've followed her journey from the start, such a beautiful and inspirational girl. As hard as the recent videos have been to watch, it is beautiful to see the amount of love being poured into her, all she has ever known is to be loved and I hope that is of some comfort to her wonderful parents. I'll be hugging my little one extra tight tonight.

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LetsGoChamp · 10/04/2021 21:36

@ItsMeMarg oh go away

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idrinkchocolatemilk · 10/04/2021 21:42

Life is so cruel. Don’t tell me there is a god when there are murderers and rapists walking the streets living a healthy life whilst these innocent little girl has suffered almost her entire life. How could you possibly stay strong whilst waiting for your child to pass. It makes me so angry. That poor family

Morris125 · 10/04/2021 21:46

So glad I can come to this thread to talk about this. I’ve been so upset, I started following the story around November time when they did the donor appeal but I know Ashley Cain from reality tv before then anyway.

I think it’s just so sad because they kept battling through the impossible, getting the donor seemed like a huge milestone and that all could be well with time for it all to be snatched away from them, it’s devastating.

I’ve got a daughter with a heart condition and she has been in intensive care but thankfully is doing well but I can understand the hospital life. But compared to their degree of stay, we were lucky on reflection. It really puts things into perspective.

My partner keeps having a go at me for looking at the photos and videos but I want to be updated. Yes it’s upsetting but I’ve been watching throughout and I can’t just check out now. I also agree that today’s footage did almost shock me at how much Azaylia has deteriorated but I also see this as raising awareness for such a horrible disease. I don’t agree with people that say they shouldn’t share because they have done this throughout their journey and perhaps find comfort from the massive army of followers behind them all. It’s hard hitting for sure but so many people have come to love that little girl. It is the reality of their situation and i for one will keep watching even if it does break my heart, she is truly such a beautiful little girl and will continue hoping for a miracle 💕

ItsMeMarg · 10/04/2021 21:47

@LetsGoChamp why? I don't understand that. I defend your right to be over invested if that's what you want to do.

You've posted in AIBU. I'm as entitled to my opinion as you are to yours.

ballsdeep · 10/04/2021 21:48

@ItsMeMarg

But nobody has said they shouldn't post what they want? I specifically said that it was their choice to share whatever they want to - which they are doing.

I do feel quite strongly about being some sort of rubber necking voyeur though so have chosen to opt out now because I do think it's a little bit ghoulish to hang around waiting for .. what exactly? To see this little baby looking even iller? A death announcement?

It's all just horrible

You don't have to look. Ashley has said himself that he just wants to give her a normal life for her last days, that he told Saffiya to have a shower etc and to fill her last days with love and laughter and make memories. I think unless you're in this situation you'll never know how you'd react. I just think they are doing what they need to do to get through this horrific time. Azayliah has tugged on the hearts of everyone. My own child is a few.months older and I can't stop hugging her and I've been thinking of them every single day. I hope they have the strength to get through this
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LetsGoChamp · 10/04/2021 21:54

@ItsMeMarg this post is about people sharing their sadness at an 8 month old girl dying. Not you putting your MN big girl pants on and coming out with the same tiresome lines on every AIBU thread. I posted here for traffic because I wanted support, it does not give you the right to come on this thread and tell everyone they’re over invested and rubber necking voyeurs, and not even directly because as is the MN trend you can’t because you want to seem clever. You’re not, please leave this thread and let the likeminded people support each other as we were before you came along and disrupted us. Thank you.

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MrsDSalvatore · 10/04/2021 21:57

@idrinkchocolatemilk

Life is so cruel. Don’t tell me there is a god when there are murderers and rapists walking the streets living a healthy life whilst these innocent little girl has suffered almost her entire life. How could you possibly stay strong whilst waiting for your child to pass. It makes me so angry. That poor family
This a thousand times over. It makes my blood boil. Not meaning to turn this into a religious debate but how could a God exist who lets kids suffer and paedophiles etc walk around unharmed. There's no sense to it
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LetsGoChamp · 10/04/2021 21:58

@ItsMeMarg and can I just add, it’s absolutely fine if it’s not for you or if this thread isn’t for you. But to come on and try to antagonise people, mostly mothers who are very obviously upset about such a sad public event, is really disappointing.

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LetsGoChamp · 10/04/2021 22:01

@idrinkchocolatemilk my thoughts exactly and yet I’m not ashamed to say I’ve prayed and am praying for her. Hypocritical of me I know but when there not much else you can do you’ll try anything.

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ConnieCaterpillar70 · 10/04/2021 22:06

It's so difficult to "look in on" with their social media, and I've chosen not to anymore. I'm from a different generation, I guess, and it's like with Kate Garraway's husband..... to me there are some serious consent issues when families share things like this.

But, as someone whose darling baby died, I also acknowledge the sheer terror, panic and overwhelming hysteria that being in this situation gives to people. You just can't even think, let alone logically. I've no right to judge them.

They're treading a path that no one wants to ever have to walk down. I wish them every strength imaginable to get through the coming weeks and months Sad

Haenow · 10/04/2021 22:10

I don’t think sharing photos and videos of a terminally ill child is ‘ghoulish’. They have limited opportunity to take these videos and why should they not share their baby?

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LetsGoChamp · 10/04/2021 22:14

@ConnieCaterpillar70 I’m very sorry for the loss of your baby.

I totally understand it isn’t for everybody, I almost wish I’d never seen it and then I wouldn’t be writing this thread. I don’t/can’t watch everything shared, not now I know what the outcome will be. But it’s so hard as she’s from the same place as me, so a lot of my friends also share posts and their own heartbreak so it’s hard for me to avoid.

The only good thing (and I use that term so very lightly) is the exposure of the illness and increase in donors. Their hard fought battle, I hope, will save other children, and that will be her legacy.

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ItsMeMarg · 10/04/2021 22:15

@Haenow I never said it was ghoulish for them to share the photos and videos. I was very clear that - in my opinion - it's a little ghoulish for some of the posters on this thread to be so invested in a stranger that they're constantly checking for updates and lighting candles.

and I stand by that.

amc8583 · 10/04/2021 22:19

I've been following them too and I don't want to even imagine how they are coping. It's every parents nightmare and I'm sure many many people are quietly praying or keeping them in their hearts to give them strength through this immensely sad time.

Llamasinpajamas · 10/04/2021 22:26

I’m glad I found this thread. I’ve been so preoccupied with this the last few days. So unbelievably sad for the parents and that beautiful little girl. I don’t know how they’re coping.

Letsbekindplease · 10/04/2021 22:38

Also very glad that I’ve found this. I can’t stop crying about her. I just can’t begin to imagine. I’m lying beside my partner as I type this and the tears are streaming. I also cried at work today. I can’t switch off from them all and after I saw the videos today, she is just so tired now. Just thinking of them all. Life is just so cruel and unfair.