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Azaylia Cain

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LetsGoChamp · 28/03/2021 21:23

I can’t stop thinking about this poor little girl. My heart hurts for her family. I know she’s not the only child fighting a life threatening illness but she’s all I’ve thought about today.

Sorry if this post upsets anybody that is familiar with this little girl.

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WhatssUpP · 15/04/2021 19:49

I just watched Azaylia's mums story right now where she was watching cocomelon and my lo was listening to the same
song as well and it just made me cry so much. I am from the bottom of my heart praying for this beautiful little baby to survive. I am praying for a miracle. The parents are so strong. I'm a stranger broken into pieces by watching their sm but the parents of this beautiful baby are doing everything from making more memories to raising awareness and are still going. I'm wishing and praying for a miracle and strength for them

tinathetalkingturtle · 15/04/2021 19:50

It's just devastating, that poor poor family.

I am beyond in awe of how they are remaining is positive and making every one of her minutes of life happy and positive. I would not be able to be that strong. I don't know how they are managing.

Ashley's updates this evening broke me. No one should have to go through that with their baby.

Eastereggfan · 15/04/2021 19:51

I've been so upset and have had periods of just crying. I feel embarrassed being so upset over someone I don't know and I don't mean than with any malice. I think it's just shocked me. I just think of them all cuddling together and the love they have for their daughter. I keep looking back at their stories and I know it will upset me but I still do. I just find it so so sad but the parents are just amazing.

tinathetalkingturtle · 15/04/2021 19:54

@Eastereggfan

I've been so upset and have had periods of just crying. I feel embarrassed being so upset over someone I don't know and I don't mean than with any malice. I think it's just shocked me. I just think of them all cuddling together and the love they have for their daughter. I keep looking back at their stories and I know it will upset me but I still do. I just find it so so sad but the parents are just amazing.
I feel the same, I think I'm a bit over invested and need to step back from it. A reminded of how cruel and unpredictable life can be.
Slatternforlife · 15/04/2021 20:04

Ashley’s stories tonight have me in floods. I’m finding it so hard to accept that nothing can be done for her, I cannot imagine how they must feel. They are amazing.

mrssunshinexxx · 15/04/2021 20:12

@Slatternforlife was just coming on to say the same thing. Can't stop crying
It's crazy how powerful our emotions are especially women and mums. I honestly love that little baby a complete stranger who I will never meet but she has captured my heart and touched my life I will never forget her or this journey I have followed.
Cruel cruel world she so deserves to live

ProbablyGryffindor · 15/04/2021 20:30

I too have thought about Azaylia and her parents all day.

It breaks my heart to think about their family. I’ve only seen photos, I don’t have the strength to watch any videos. Her parents have some sort of superhero strength to be providing the support and love that they are. I hope they realise what superb parents they are.

Azaylia is the most beautiful baby, life is so cruel.

Kate3150 · 15/04/2021 20:37

I’m so glad I’ve found this thread and to know I’m not the only one who has lost count of the amount of times they’ve cried this week over this story.
I feel so emotional about it and agree her parents are AMAZING, literally in awe of them both and although bless her heart shes had an awful start to life, how lucky she is to have them both as parents.
I will continue to pray and believe in a miracle for her 💜💜💜

Justfornothing · 15/04/2021 20:39

I've been following parents on Instagram and I can't stop thinking of them. I honestly don't know how they are doing it, I'm not sure I could. I can't get the Whitney Houston song - there can be miracles out of my head when mum was singing to little Azaylia and her little face, she looks so poorly now. It's just heartbreaking

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 15/04/2021 20:43

@Slatternforlife

Ashley’s stories tonight have me in floods. I’m finding it so hard to accept that nothing can be done for her, I cannot imagine how they must feel. They are amazing.
Me too!!! I can’t help but watch the videos even though they are the most heartbreaking thing I have ever seen !
CookieBlue · 15/04/2021 20:50

I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to listen to that Whitney Houston song again without thinking of Azaylia. That had me in bits.

Those poor parents are going through hell and back and they are still smiling, still dancing, still singing. I’m not sure where they have found their strength but like others have said, I am in complete awe of them. They are incredible.

Yapplepearora · 15/04/2021 20:54

She seems to have perked up somewhat today bless her

Wingingthis · 15/04/2021 20:56

Ashley’s stories this evening did it for me too. Absolute pure love he has for his daughter, it is beautiful. They both do 🤍 amazing parents what one lucky and loved little girl

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LetsGoChamp · 15/04/2021 21:12

I’m definitely a more emotional person since having DS, I try to avoid anything sad because I automatically relay it to ‘what if it was my child’. But whatever I’m feeling, I remember it’s nothing in comparison to Azaylias wonderful parents.

I can’t imagine ever forgetting her or this part of my life when my son is so young himself and how they have shaped me as a parent. I am definitely finding myself more loving, more patient and more grateful than before. It is such a shame that she herself will never know the impact she had on the world. I hope her parents will never forget it though. She will never be forgotten by many of us.

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Slatternforlife · 15/04/2021 21:15

I think she will have an amazing legacy. For such a tiny little soul she has made a huge mark on lots of people and I think what her parents are doing, showing the stark reality of childhood cancer and illness, has moved people into action/donation/signing petitions/registering on the bone marrow donation list etc who otherwise wouldn't have.

I just wish she could live to see it.

Slatternforlife · 15/04/2021 21:17

I also think all of us who have posted to say how much we appreciate our DC, how much it's made us realise how lucky we are, how much more patient we are etc (and it's okay that we won't always be as patient) is the right way to look at it _ Ashley has posted repeatedly to say you must appreciate every moment, every second and not take it for granted. It's a good thing to be taking away from this heartbreaking situation.

NicoleKidmanSuperFan · 15/04/2021 21:46

I was watching Ashley and saffiya's story over the last few days too but my heart can't take it anymore and I'm trying to just look at the pics instead as it's breaking me watching them especially that beautiful little girl.
Her parents are amazing and trying to make each second count and I really hope one day they get some massive reward for their efforts and I pray they meet their beautiful little girl one day when we are all gone from the world.

If you ever read this Ashley and Saffiya we all love you and your little baby and we're so proud of you. We're praying for you and we hope you know how loved you three are.

I said to my husband 'why am I feeling so sad for a lovely family I haven't met' and he said ' my love that is humanity, we are connected some way'.

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IHTC · 15/04/2021 22:49

Thank you so much for starting this thread. I also feel strangely invested in this family despite them being complete strangers. I will watch their stories and cry my heart out; think to myself that I need to step back but later find myself rewatching them.

I have a 7 month old baby girl myself and I think that itself makes this family's story hurt that much more because you have some sense of what they might be going through yet it's still unimaginable.

I feel so pissed off that this world is so cruel as to deal such a beautiful little girl and family such a shit hand.

Hannsmum · 15/04/2021 23:57

Same here. I keep deleting them from my insta search history that I'm not going to go back but then I go searching bcos I'm constantly craving for any update on her.

I burst into tears so randomly in front of my 3 and 7 yr old immediately she comes to mind. THey keep asking me whats wrong.

I have hardly slept the past few days -dont know how I got so invested in her story

all I keep seeing is Azalyias face,-so innocent,so calm through it all, Im in awe of her strength.

I'm desperately praying for a miracle .. desperately

HidingInTheFridge · 16/04/2021 00:14

They have uploaded a video tonight of Azaylia waving her arm to music, just a little something to warm our hearts x

DesperateHousewife2018 · 16/04/2021 00:31

I've been really struggling with this one. I need to preface by saying I'm not a mum because a lot of the comments seem to be tied directly to having a child and the feelings it brings up. I haven't been blessed yet, I've had some losses and I'm yet to be a mum.

I watched Ashley on Ex on the Beach. I didn't love him. I'll be honest. He seemed full of himself.

Having seen him over the last 9 months I take back all my previous judgements. He has become the man, the partner and the father anyone would want for themselves and their child.

I have set up notifications for both Ashley and Safiya on Instagram because as much as I don't want to see, I can't bear not to know.

I donated to the fundraiser for Azaylia's treatment and although I'm realistic a miracle isn't coming, I love seeing her dancing with her mum, dad, aunts, h does and grandparents.

Ashley and Safiya are absolute inspirations to me as a (hopefully) future parent. If I can ever have half their resilience, grace, dignity and strength,

DesperateHousewife2018 · 16/04/2021 00:33

I wasn't finished!

If I can ever have half their resilience, grace, dignity and strength, I know I'll be a great parent.

Sending all my love to the family.

Caneloalvarez · 16/04/2021 00:38

This beautiful baby has touched so many of us. I keep hoping for a miracle and saying prayers for her, something I haven't done in a long time. I've also been in tears over this and my husband said I shouldn't watch the updates, but that doesn't seem fair, it's not like they can just switch off what's happening... I keep thinking, what a completely unthinkable position they are in, this young gorgeous couple with a beautiful daughter and thousands of followers, having to share something so tragic, I'm sure they'd trade all the money and fame in the world to have Azaylia well again. It was touching to see her nanny and auntie there with them, I hope they are surrounded by love and support. They are so incredibly brave.

Caneloalvarez · 16/04/2021 00:46

@DesperateHousewife2018 lovely comments xx I didn't see him on Ex on the Beach, I only know him through the media coverage of this sad situation. He certainly does seem an incredible partner and a tower of strength for Azaylia. The video of the three of them was so touching, the way Safiyya looked at the two of them... It really got to me. Where they are finding their strength I don't know.

ComDummings · 16/04/2021 01:03

Aw the videos of her dancing are so sweet