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Azaylia Cain

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LetsGoChamp · 28/03/2021 21:23

I can’t stop thinking about this poor little girl. My heart hurts for her family. I know she’s not the only child fighting a life threatening illness but she’s all I’ve thought about today.

Sorry if this post upsets anybody that is familiar with this little girl.

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earthyfire · 16/04/2021 01:39

I have deliberately tried to stay away from the story as much as I can because my emotions have been so heightened during the pandemic that things like this play on my mind. It's just so sad. :(

kirinm · 16/04/2021 07:36

I know her little face looks so tired and possibly swollen but it is so lovely to see her playing with her teddies and dancing.

mumof23188 · 16/04/2021 08:25

The videos yesterday had me in tears. I just couldn’t stop. Her parents amaze me. They’re absolutely amazing. Watched their stories from last night this morning and was so lovely to see them dancing and her little arms waving around enjoying it ❤️

RedcurrantPuff · 16/04/2021 08:29

I don’t follow the story on social media and only heard about the story last week but I was so shocked a poor little baby could have gone through so much in such a short life. It’s so desperately sad.

Slatternforlife · 16/04/2021 08:47

It’s comforting to know she is surrounded by her favourite things, the people who love her and she loves, happiness and music and smiles. I don’t know how they’re doing it but it’s such a lovely incredible thing to do for her. No sadness, just love and happiness for her

MumToBe1980 · 16/04/2021 11:16

I'm so glad you started this thread. I have been following Azaylias journey for a while and have been praying for her to get better. I literally find myself crying about this every time I think about it. My husband says not to look if it upsets me but I keep wishing for an update to say they can treat her. Watching the stories of her dancing and playing is heartbreaking. I can Ashley is broken, Saffiya is amazingly positive, they are brilliant parents. I hope this little babe is comfortable and enjoying this time too. My girl is 18minths and this has made me appreciate every moment with her. Sending all my love to this family

kirinm · 16/04/2021 11:19

Azaylia has seemed more "awake" / aware over the last day or two hasn't she? Maybe that has always been the case but we've not seen it. She is such a gorgeous baby.

wouldukissafrog · 16/04/2021 11:23

Been following too although I wish they would now stay away from social media and enjoy quiet special family time. I worry they will regret not having that private time

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LetsGoChamp · 16/04/2021 11:35

@wouldukissafrog

Thankfully this isn’t your child and therefore what you wish doesn’t even come into it. This thread is not about what we all think they should all do.

Having another day with my DS today, lots of playing, snuggles and we’re off out later to see DNs. Feeling grateful for today! Thanks all for checking in so often. I love that a lot of us have connected to this story and are here for support if we’re teeing down. We love you Azaylia!

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Caneloalvarez · 16/04/2021 11:55

@wouldukissafrog they won't regret it. Those videos are so precious and they want to show the world how loved Azaylia is. Remember we are only seeing a tiny snippet of their day.. Ashley's last update was over 10hrs ago and I'm sure there were many quiet moments with just the three of them. I'd say having the media following their journey is probably helping them to stay so strong!

OllietheOwl · 16/04/2021 12:47

@wouldukissafrog out of the 1,440 minutes of a day, they show us about 2. They have plenty of private time with their baby.

wouldukissafrog · 16/04/2021 12:54

I'm not knocking them for their decision at all! I just hope they remain happy with their decision to spend the days as they are, we all know you can't get them back

I wish them all the best, it's such a sad situation

kirinm · 16/04/2021 13:39

@wouldukissafrog I think her most recent post explains it. They find comfort in sharing and knowing so many people care.

Kate3150 · 16/04/2021 13:47

She’s such a little fighter. Her Mum’s posted that she’s had some food, bless her heart.
We’re all behind you, you’re amazing xx

holliem91 · 16/04/2021 14:07

@kirinm I don't want to speculate but I believe they are trying alternative methods of treatment too. I'm in the Facebook page which her grandma created and I'm sure she mentioned something on there about it. I could be wrong though. I'm still very much praying for a miracle for this adorable little girl.

wouldukissafrog · 16/04/2021 14:19

@kirinm I'm pleased it is - whatever gets you through such a tough time

kirinm · 16/04/2021 14:26

[quote holliem91]@kirinm I don't want to speculate but I believe they are trying alternative methods of treatment too. I'm in the Facebook page which her grandma created and I'm sure she mentioned something on there about it. I could be wrong though. I'm still very much praying for a miracle for this adorable little girl. [/quote]
I think Ashley's post today was sobering. He said the truth is theft is limited playing now and it's more napping and cuddles.

Kate3150 · 16/04/2021 14:52

Great to hear if they are trying alternative methods of treatment. I pray more than anything in this world you get better gorgeous girl x

goldielockdown2 · 16/04/2021 16:24

The family are nothing short of incredible. I'm so in awe.

But please guys, if this is affecting your sleep, you're crying at random or you find yourself constantly refreshing IG, there is nothing wrong with taking a step back for your own sake and your family's, in fact it is imperative for your mental health.

Cinderellashoes · 16/04/2021 19:51

Just to second what’s been said, qualified nurses have a hard time dealing with losses like these, palliation is one of the most mentally challenging types of nursing. If it is affecting you take a step back for a few days.

Cinderellashoes · 16/04/2021 19:52

And the family are amazing, and I send little Azaylia lots of warm wishes ❤️

DesperateHousewife2018 · 16/04/2021 23:17

[quote Caneloalvarez]@DesperateHousewife2018 lovely comments xx I didn't see him on Ex on the Beach, I only know him through the media coverage of this sad situation. He certainly does seem an incredible partner and a tower of strength for Azaylia. The video of the three of them was so touching, the way Safiyya looked at the two of them... It really got to me. Where they are finding their strength I don't know.[/quote]
@Caneloalvarez Thank you so much. I completely agree with you. They are both pillars of strength. How they are managing I will never know. Other posters may comment on why they are documenting on social media at this very difficult time, but I think you have to take every opportunity where you can. These are memories that will be saved forever and that should be shared with all who care.

In my (very humble opinion) Ashley and Sadiya also know they asked people for £1m to save their gorgeous baby and the target was smashed in less than 24h. They know people care. They know people are invested, emotionally and financially.

Ashley and Safiya are doing what is best for both of them right now and unless you've been in their situation I don't think we have the right to judge how they're dealing with it. I, for one, am glad they feel they can share and spread awareness of childhood cancers. They'll do much more good than bad by doing so.

Kate3150 · 17/04/2021 15:30

Just seen the heart and “A” they did in the sky for her 🧡.
I’m sat here in bits looking at the picture of the 3
of them looking up at the sky.
I’m still praying for a miracle for this amazing little girl and her family xx

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LetsGoChamp · 17/04/2021 15:47

I’ve just seen the update as well. I just want to go and give them all a big hug. Ashley’s recent post is really heart warming. I’m so glad she’s still here and gave them another day to be with her, making memories.

It must be the scariest thing in the world and after seeing them so ready to fight I find it so hard to see them talk about the idea of losing her or the fact they are scared now. My heart breaks for them every single day but I’m so glad they all know how loved they are.

Let’s go champ 🧡

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Kate3150 · 17/04/2021 16:07

@LetsGoChamp- I’ve never been touched by a story like I have this one and I know I’m certainly not the only one.
I remember when the go fund me page was set up for Singapore and I was so excited to see how quickly they raised the money for treatment. I thought “yessss, you did it”. Then to hear a few days later their world has come crashing down again. It’s just so cruel, they've had so much heart ache along the way, I just want a break for them. I can’t help believe a miracle will come their way and save this beautiful little girl who has already touched hearts around the world.
The whole family, Mum, Dad, Nan, Aunties etc are amazing, they really are. I can see where Azaylia gets her fighting spirit, come on little one, we’re ALL rooting for you 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡