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My baby is trying to kill me

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ChattyMc · 28/03/2021 02:26

They have to sleep at some point right??? I keep telling myself this. Just a little but longer and then he HAS to fall asleep.

But he's still looking up at me wide eyed and screaming if I have the audacity to try and put him down.

We went for a drive, and he snored peacefully in his car seat until we stopped at which point when he just resumed said awakeness.

Have now resigned myself to the fact that he may actually be trying to finish me. I'm not sure of his motives yet.

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HopeWish · 28/03/2021 09:13

My 7 week old baby only sleeps well if there is white noise playing. I have an app that you can play different types of white noise/droning noises (like fan or vacuum cleaner) from. I put it on and put the phone in the corner of her crib. May help?

hellywelly3 · 28/03/2021 09:17

My youngest never slept it was my punishment for being a smug mum of 2 good sleepers. Just do whatever you have to do, it’s shit there really is no other word for it.

JSL52 · 28/03/2021 09:19

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AndAllOurYesterdays · 28/03/2021 09:23

We threw money at the problem and bought a sleepyhead which we laid in the centre of our bed so she would know we were close. Best £90 I've ever spent. Also white noise helped (it had to be really loud).

BigFatLiar · 28/03/2021 09:34

Wake your husband and tell him its his turn.

TimeIhadaNameChange · 28/03/2021 09:39

Don't think my dd lasted a full minute in her crib! She spent a couple of nights in her pram cot (ok for overnight) but I soon gave up and co-slept. A year on and I still do. We both sleep really well.

Imnotbent · 28/03/2021 09:40

If it's reflux Infacol, cycling legs and massage will not help, they might work to bring wind up but you don't want to do anything that will bring the acid up. If the comfort milk is not working take him to the GP for some medication. And as others have said keep him upright.

EarringsandLipstick · 28/03/2021 09:41

Please nobody do this

Why? It's safe once guidelines are followed.

WombatStewForTea · 28/03/2021 09:44

Cosleeping is perfectly safe if the save sleep 7 are followed.

Sleepyheads on the other hand are not unless you're supervising ie not asleep yourself

ImFree2doasiwant · 28/03/2021 09:46

I also used a sleepyhead, wish I'd got onefor my first child.

And yes to safe cosleeping. I was pretty certain I eoukd never do it,but I caved in at 7 weeks with my first, and did it from birth with my second. I was breastfeeding so didn't have to get up at all.

YawnyOwl · 28/03/2021 09:49

Another one for cosleeping! It's the only way I get any rest. 8 months and not in the cot yet Grin

Toomanymuslins · 28/03/2021 09:49

@EarringsandLipstick

Please nobody do this

Why? It's safe once guidelines are followed.

Using your arm as a pillow isn’t in the safe guidelines, though.

Co sleeping is often suggested on here but I must admit I’ve never understood the difference between safe co sleeping and baby in a next to me crib. Might be missing something.

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ChattyMc · 28/03/2021 09:50

It's my punishment for smugness too I think. I honestly thought he was getting into a routine last week. This week just went all down hill!

I'm far too scared to properly co sleep. We do our own sort of version of it.

He has a Moses basket where the sides are a bit flexible (so you can sort of push them down and then spring back up when you let go).

He sleeps in that next to me on the bed and I hold the side down and soothe him until he goes to sleep (HA) and then slowly let the side go back up once he is so I can sleep knowing I'm not going to squish him! Also I cant sleep without a cover over me so it means I can put that over me once he's safely in his basket.

He finally went to sleep last night (this morning) at about 4am but we are awake again.

Fingers crossed for lots of naps today at least 🥴

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ChattyMc · 28/03/2021 09:56

@Imnotbent

If it's reflux Infacol, cycling legs and massage will not help, they might work to bring wind up but you don't want to do anything that will bring the acid up. If the comfort milk is not working take him to the GP for some medication. And as others have said keep him upright.
We saw the GP and spoke to our HV and all have agreed they don't think he has AF.

It's definitely trapped wind, he eventually let's out lots of trump's and it settles him right down.

We tried gaviscon just in case at the GPs suggestion before the comfort milk which did absolutely nothing but make him constipated, we were told to stop using it as they didn't think it was reflux.

Eventually he gets the wind out and it helps. It's always been a terrible burper so it gets trapped after his feeds Sad it takes me hours sometimes just to get even the tiniest burp.

I always keep him upright to feed and keep him upright for at least 30 mins after too.

He isn't always like this, he has good days and bad (more good these days to be fair but when it's bad it's bad!!) Poor thing Sad

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DarkMatterA2Z · 28/03/2021 09:58

Really loud background bar noise? You can find some online that you can play on repeat.

When my DC was very little, they used to zonk out for ages whenever we took them into a very noisy pub. So I ended up doing that a lot in the evening and meeting friends, rather than staying at home miserable. Obviously not an option atm Sad.

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ChattyMc · 28/03/2021 10:00

@DarkMatterA2Z

Really loud background bar noise? You can find some online that you can play on repeat.

When my DC was very little, they used to zonk out for ages whenever we took them into a very noisy pub. So I ended up doing that a lot in the evening and meeting friends, rather than staying at home miserable. Obviously not an option atm Sad.

I'll try bar noise! He does seem to like it when people are talking around him. He usually has womb noises playing at night which helps but nothing would do last night it seemed.
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Abraxan · 28/03/2021 10:04

Co sleeping is often suggested on here but I must admit I’ve never understood the difference between safe co sleeping and baby in a next to me crib. Might be missing something.

Some babies need touch too, and simply won't settle in a crib.

We even bought a bedside dot after the first few weeks of no sleep. It's amazing how a supposedly immobile tiny baby can still manage to move over into the bed all on their own!

I needed sleep, so do sleeping was our answer. It worked for us.

Toomanymuslins · 28/03/2021 10:06

Yes but safe co sleeping recommends a clear space for baby. So that’s what I’m not sure about.

DarkMatterA2Z · 28/03/2021 10:09

Something like this did the trick for us:

I had something similar playing in my flat for hours for around 3 months when my DC was very small. Nowadays, the police would be visiting to check out reports of illegal parties Grin.

RachelRoth · 28/03/2021 10:11

I was once so desperate i got in my son’s cot and slept there. My knees regretted that in the morning. But i wasnt tired.

Helpsmearresult · 28/03/2021 10:13

I know you have probably tried this but have you tried gripe water? I also put dentinox colic drops in my baby's bottle.

I do feel your pain mine was exactly the same, even on comfort milk. Mind you I did also change from cow and gate comfort milk to aptimal comfort milk which seemed to also help

It does get better, mines now 6 months and whilst we do have odd nights, and mean like once or twice a month, where she's up and down every 3 hours with wind, it's miles better than it was at 1 month.

I know it doesn't feel like it will get any better and it doesn't help much me saying it does, but hang in there OP

starsinyourpies · 28/03/2021 10:14

@Ozgirl75 weren't you petrified of squashing them in your sleep? I love the cuddles too but this sounds really dangerous!

Helpsmearresult · 28/03/2021 10:15

Oh and try this white noise off a popular video app. Search for

Colicky baby sleeps to this magic sound

Worked wonders and still does on those nights and naps where nothing else seems to work

UnderHisAye · 28/03/2021 10:16

When my son was like this, I would lie as still as I could and tell myself 'this is still resting, this is still resting, this is still resting'.

Pure shite of course but it made me feel a teeny bit better Grin

orangejuicer · 28/03/2021 10:26

[quote starsinyourpies]@Ozgirl75 weren't you petrified of squashing them in your sleep? I love the cuddles too but this sounds really dangerous! [/quote]
Apparently not if you follow guidelines. Hmm

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