Handhold please - DD4 at A&E

[CautiouslyPessimistic]

Brand new 'big girl' bed today, mid sleeper with a den underneath. Twice today she's hit her head standing up under it. The second time we weren't in the room to see it but about 15 minutes later she got a brief nosebleed and then produced an enormous blood clot out of her mouth.

We rang 111 who weren't concerned but said they'd have someone call back for 'home management' advice. We kept her up for two hours but no one had rung so I let her go to bed. 20 minutes later they call and ask me to wake her.

I've never seen her asleep like that - we had to turn on the lights, pull off the covers, shake her and basically shout her name to wake her up. She's now gone to A&E with DH and I'm sitting here like a lemon watching my son's baby monitor with nothing to distract me from the panic.

Fuck that fucking bed. It took me a day to put together and I fucking hate it now. Jesus Christ I was terrified when we couldn't wake her, I think my heart stopped.

Distract me? Reassure me? I feel completely powerless and out of the loop.

I’m surprised 111 weren’t more concerned tbh

Well let’s be honest, the bed was a bad idea if 1. It’s too low for her to stand up in and 2. If she isn’t mature enough to avoid standing up in it and keeps injuring herself

Can you replace the bed with the old one?

Also I hope she’s okay and that she’s home soon - it al sounds very scary for you

Hope she's ok
Beds like that are usually recommended for age 6+

What a scary think to happen but In no way your fault - please don't blame yourself, loads of us have these beds with no problems. she's in the best place now and they will give her a good check over, sure she'll be home in the early hours all ok

@CautiouslyPessimistic you poor thing 💐

Can you watch something on you tube to distract yourself from the understandable panic that you are feeling?

Dd is in the best possible place at the moment. I suspect they will keep her in overnight for observation just to be on the safe side especially as she was difficult to rouse but I’m not a medic so I can’t say for certain. They will make the best call for her once she’s been checked by a doc.

Ah op it's so scary isn't it my 7 year old fell down a stairs (like only about 5 of them) in Jan and banged her head seemingly not seriously then projectile vomited everywhere and started going all drowsy...we were blue lighted to a&e in an ambulance. She was fine a few hours later..mild concussion for a few days but very mild..I felt I aged about 30years!

I'm here. Holding your hand. xx
My daughter fell down the stairs when she was a similar age, eyes rolled back in her head. I have never been so scared. It's terrifying. My daughter was very tired too, but then perked up very quickly at the hospital. kids are resilient. Have you had any news?

Oh fuck op m how awful for you all. Glad she has gone to a and e. Ime they are brilliant with children. I bet she’ll be home soon and it will be a story you tell for years to come.

Goodness. I hope she is OK. What a worry for you

@wingsnthat

I’m surprised 111 weren’t more concerned tbh

Well let’s be honest, the bed was a bad idea if 1. It’s too low for her to stand up in and 2. If she isn’t mature enough to avoid standing up in it and keeps injuring herself

Can you replace the bed with the old one?

Well that's helpful! 😳

For goodness sake, OP's worried sick about her little girl, she doesn't need your pointers about the bloody bed.

OP, that sounds terrifying. DD is now in the right place, and I'm sure all will be well.

OP how old is she?

Ignore the previous posters talking about the recommended age for the bed, accidents happen! I hope you’re dd is okay and home safe and well very soon x

Handholding op. Your poor dd. I'm sure she will be fine. But I am surprised by the response you got from 111.

Hope you hear soon and that she’s okay OP. I’m sure she will be.

Thank you everyone, I really needed to hear it isn't my fault. I feel so bad about it.

She's met all the things 111 check perfectly - no fluid or bruising, talking and walking normally, being her usually silly adorable self. It's just the blood and the difficulty rousing that's got them concerned, but they didn't call an ambulance or anything and DH says they're not being particularly urgent at hospital.

She's never had a den before so she's not used to having to crawl really low until you're well clear - she sort of stood up to a crouch and walked, and in doing that she's caught her forehead on the lip that hangs down a bit lower at the edge of the bed. She didn't mean to, she was trying to be careful.

Ah.. sorry.. I had assumed your 4th daughter and I think you meant she was 4 🤦🏻‍♀️

Tbh I wouldn't worry too much. They're just being super cautious because it's a 'head injury'.

Not your fault OP, you could not have predicted that. She is in the right place now... Big hug... hope its "just" a concussion and she'll be right as rain soon enough.

Yeah I’m sorry, that was insensitive of me. I would still say revert back to the old bed if the new one isn’t safe though - it can be all ready when she gets home and hopefully a practical task might divert your worries a bit whilst you wait for an update

DD2 had a normal single bed and smashed her forehead so hard on the frame she still has a dent now, 2 years later. Sometimes they are just determined to hurt themselves no matter what you do. Hopefully she'll be home soon and she will be a bit more careful where she stands up!

I understand the sheer panic. When one of mine was 2 they woke up unable to walk, having been walking already for some months. She'd fallen from a high chair earlier that week and 111 thought it could have been brain damage. We were blue lighted to hospital and she was absolutely fine. As pps have said she is definitely in the right place

Handhold op. It's not your fault. Obviously you wouldn't have bought the bed if you thought anything like that would happen.
I'm sure she'll be ok.

Aww bless her, I'm sure all will be fine they just need to do their tests to be sure. When my DS was little DH shut the car boot not knowing he was leaning into the boot to get something and he had a massive bang on the head, vomiting, drowsy, not making sense. After an overnight stay in hospital all was declared fine and he doesnt seem to have lost any brain cells in the incident although sometimes it is hard to tell

@CautiouslyPessimistic

“She's never had a den before so she's not used to having to crawl really low until you're well clear - she sort of stood up to a crouch and walked, and in doing that she's caught her forehead on the lip that hangs down a bit lower at the edge of the bed. She didn't mean to, she was trying to be careful”.

Given dd bumped her head on the lip could you use a pool noodle with a cut lengthways and attach it as a bumper so that it cushions the effect of any future collisions?

How scary, but I'm sure she will be fine OP. If it's at all reassuring OP I have a 4 year old who keeps having nightmares, she cries in them and the only way to get her to stop is to wake her up which can be almost impossible. We can talk to her, shout, put the light on, take her out of the room etc and she is still asleep.

Thank you everyone, these stories are really helping.

I hit my head so many times as a child. Once I jumped off a window sill to get down and instead leapt straight into the corner of the eaves. I basically propelled myself into a brick corner. I had to sit on the ground for 10 minutes but after that I was fine. I never told anyone it had happened either.

I know in all probability she'll be completely fine, but it doesn't stop the total terror, does it? I can't stop feeling like I should be doing something, and instead I'm just sitting here downing cups of tea and panicking.