Handhold please - DD4 at A&E

[CautiouslyPessimistic]

Brand new 'big girl' bed today, mid sleeper with a den underneath. Twice today she's hit her head standing up under it. The second time we weren't in the room to see it but about 15 minutes later she got a brief nosebleed and then produced an enormous blood clot out of her mouth.

We rang 111 who weren't concerned but said they'd have someone call back for 'home management' advice. We kept her up for two hours but no one had rung so I let her go to bed. 20 minutes later they call and ask me to wake her.

I've never seen her asleep like that - we had to turn on the lights, pull off the covers, shake her and basically shout her name to wake her up. She's now gone to A&E with DH and I'm sitting here like a lemon watching my son's baby monitor with nothing to distract me from the panic.

Fuck that fucking bed. It took me a day to put together and I fucking hate it now. Jesus Christ I was terrified when we couldn't wake her, I think my heart stopped.

Distract me? Reassure me? I feel completely powerless and out of the loop.

Hope she is home soon good that they are checking it out

Will never forget trying to coax my ds1 down the stairs (he was 20 months- I was heavily pregnant) and he slipped and literally forward rolled himself all the way to the bottom of the stairs. I

Just want to say, please ignore posters’ completely unfeeling and unhelpful comments about the bed! Accidents happen in all sorts of ways and you couldn’t have predicted it! Handhold, and really hope you get some news soon. All the best

Scary time, especially as you cant be there with her. I'm sure shes treating it as a big advebture and hopefully will be home soon to tell you all about it.

Thank you everyone - I can't tell you how much this has been helping. I'll definitely keep the thread updated. DH has just sent me a picture of them both looking very bored waiting, which has made me feel much better.

Accidents happen don't beat yourself up over it OP.
I have 3 DC's and all three have had bumps to the head at some stage. 2 of them in a&e. Foreheads with bumps the size of golf balls, one of my DC's faceplanted running down a hill with silly disney princess shoes on.
And afterwards fainted while she played with the toys in a&e while waiting to be seen. I won't lie it was very scary at the time but the medical staff were calm, professional and had seen it a hundred times before. We were on our way home just a couple of hours later with nothing more than a bottle of calpol and instructions for someone to sleep in her room for the night.

These things happen , I think the idea about the foam is a good one . It’s always scary when it’s a head injury but they are thankfully very rarely serious . My mum accidentally slammed a car door on my sons head when he was about 2 and we spent ages up A&E with him throwing up but he was fine . Hope they are home soon .

My DD slipped and fell on solid stone flooring. She hit her head and had a nosebleed so in a blind panic we took her straight to A and E where the Dr asked if she'd had a cold recently and she had. I can't remember the explanation but it fit and she was absolutely fine.

DD now 7 also has a mid sleeper which DS 2 has banged his head on many times. It's full of kallax storage and toy boxes so he has less opportunity now! Hope she's home and well soon.

Sending love your way OP. This must have been terrifying for you.
Very pleased to read your most recent post, that she’s looking very bored and is waiting; so soon she’ll be home and you can squeeze her tight and set fire to the bed in the morning

Jokes aside, foam is a great idea.
And whilst tea is great, try something sugary alongside it for the shock. Look after you too, my dear!

Humans are more robust that we can imagine otherwise we wouldn’t survive for so long. So I am sure she is fine but sending you support it’s such a hard time when injuries happen ((

You're all lovely ❤️

Accidents happen OP. When I go under the kids den's I stand up a smack my head too. Does my nut in.

She's in the best place now.

I HATE head injuries before bed.

Hand hold , not your fault.

Ugh, I really feel for you. As a distraction army tale, my DS fell in the bathroom and went headfirst at speed into a tiled boxed-in pipe and split his head open down to the bone. He was taken to hospital in an ambulance, stitched up, given loads of checks and sent home (with a swollen and stitched head, rapidly bruising). They told me to check on him every 90 minutes in the night to see if he was “groggy and/or grumpy”. What do you think an 8 year old with stitches/painkillers/ a thumping headache is like if you try and wake him up every hour and a half??!! I’d say “groggy and grumpy” just about covers it! He did say at one point “Mum, why are you shining a torch in my face? Stop it!” (the hospital recommended it) and at that point I thought he was probably ok. So you may have a nervous night, but good luck!

(My DS has just gone to university, so no lasting damage!)

OP, there must be thousands of those cabin beds in use. 4 is about the right age, it’s 6 for bunk beds which are a lot higher to fall from.

Nope it’s 6 for midsleepers as well, my daughter has a midsleeper and it says ON the bed for ages 6 and above as do all the mid sleepers in Argos. It was an accident but let’s not pretend 4 is the right age.

@TawnyPippit oh your poor DS! That advice does seem to slightly be asking for trouble!

I've just gotten a packet of mini eggs out the cupboard and put some trash on the tv for the first time since they left so I must be feeling a bit calmer. Not sure anyone's getting any sleep tonight though.

Oh bless your heart ❤️ She will be absolutely fine...great that you have seen the bored pic ..good sign 😍

So you’re clearly looking for reassurance so my thoughts are - I’m sure she’ll be absolutely perfectly fine OP and you’ll be telling this tale for years to come.

She walked in to a frame. Walked do there was no force. I’m sure it looks nasty but there was no force to cause serious impacting from walking. Had she fallen off a climbing frame then the impact could have been significant from height but not from walking in to a frame. That’s why 111 wouldn’t have been concerned.

Obviously you’re worried about not being a he to wake her but she was probably exhausted and even if she wasn’t, that bang to get her head is no worse than a child falling or tripping up.

I’m sure your lo will be absolutely fine apart from a sore head so please try not to worry xx

We had terrible trouble trying to wake our DS up on one of the occasions in childhood when he hadn't hit his head. He had been playing with the back door key and it was missing from the door at lock-up time.

We tried everything - sitting him up (head just lolled) - talking - patting - pleading. He just would not wake! My DH ended up nailing the door shut.

(I often thought that DS should have worn his cycle-helmet all day. He cracked his head so often over the years. He's turned out ok though.)

If its any consolation my nearly 2 year old shoved a wooden drinks stirrer up his nose. It bled profusely and then he seemed to go unconsciously. The coffee shop called an ambulance and he was whisked into hospital and was fine. I don't know whether the shock sent him into a deep sleep. I'd normally put a caveat in this story to say seek medical advice but you already have..
The reason he got his paws on a stirrer was because I was busy making sure the hot drinks were out of reach. Little sod he was !

Unconscious* stupid autocorrect.

To add- my friend fell from a climbing frame about 15 foot high on to concrete (no health and safety then!) and she was totally fine! So try not to worry as kids fall trip etc up an down the country and live to tell the tale x

My son fell asleep straight after a head wound, he was 3 or 4.

And he was so difficult to rouse, I called 11 unsure if he was unconcious or had cried himself to sleep. But he was HEAVY and would not wake for anything.

40 mins till ambulance came and he was as bright as a button and completely awake.

We observed him for 24 hours and he was fine. Not sure on nosebleed etc but there were no clots. I think it was absolute exhaustion from shock, theyre only little.

Hope she's ok.

They're still waiting for the doctor. I feel so bad for her - she's normally asleep at 7.30. I have no idea how she's not fallen asleep on DH.

Big hugs!

It's so scary when they bump / hit their heads. Mine moved to the Ikea mid sleeper at 4, and knocked her head quite a few times on the underside trying to half walk / crouch.
Clumsy is her first, middle and last name!
Btw the age 6+ is for falling out of the top, more because they may be immature in understanding the danger, that's a call for parent knowing their own child.

Hope the chocolate is helping!

Aw yes bored and being kept waiting... both good signs. Hope you're feeling a little less anxious now,OP.

Oh OP what a day/night. One to add to family folklore in time. I hope your dd is OK.