Is The Thumbs Up On Messenger Dismissive?

[EternalOptimist7]

Sometimes I have really made an effort with my posts & then someone responds with a thumbs up. I hate it! Does anyone think it’s dismissive or a bit lazy?

No, it’s an acknowledgement. Lots of people do it and it’s not dismissive.

It depends entirely on what you've written

I thumb up a lot. I don’t always have time for elaborate responses. Doesn’t mean I’m lazy or dismissing the message.

It just means you have read and responded. I use it often if I haven't time to write a long message.

No

No.
It’s acknowledging your post.

No. It's to acknowledge that you've read and agree with someone's post but they don't need to reply to you again if they don't want to.

Depends really - if you've just written a long, gushing message about how much they mean to you, or declared your undying love, then yes, a thumbs up is pretty dismissive! In most situations though, it's a handy way of acknowledging your message without going into pointless detail, particularly if the recipient is in the middle of something and can't properly reply.

Is this one of those things that most people think are fine but 'youth' have an issue with. According to my mum (who read it in the telegraph) a thumbs up emoji now means 'fuck off'.

I hate it too! Was just moaning about it the other day. It’s like a big load of cant be fucked. I’d rather someone said nothing.

I'm with you OP but most people don't agree (I have asked lots ) . I feel it's a polite middle finger . Bit passo aggro .... but I may have overthought this a bit too much

Bloody hell - it's on Teams as well. It's an acknowledgement/agreement. What the hell would anyone offended by it suggest instead?

Goodness - I can't imagine getting so worked up. What are people responding to that makes it so rude? I sent my husband a list of a few items I wanted him to pick up in the supermarket, and he sent back a thumbs up - great, I knew he'd seen it and was going to bring home those things.

I would use thumbs up as a passive aggressive fuck you but only in response to something snippy or unpleasant the only other time I’d use it is in response to something like “on my way” or “see you tomorrow at 5”

Imagine doing a big, wide, obviously sarcastic grin with nodding and a really enthusiastic double thumbs up. That's what the thumbs up emoji stands for to me!so yes I take it as a fuck you. I haven't worked in a proper workplace for years though so do accept it might have another meaning!

I had this discussion in work a while back, I find it really passive aggressive

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What?? I use it to mean I’ve read and acknowledged/agree with a message that doesn’t need a specific reply. My friends use it in that way too. Seems perfectly normal to me.

But what would we know, we’re old and use the cry laughing emoji too. Is this one of those weird generational things?

I think so @Ginandplatonic

Can someone just give an example though of the kind of thing that would make a thumbs up response passive aggressive? I've only ever sent it, and received it, in an acknowledgment-type context and can't quite imagine all these other scenarios that make it so offensive! I have, however, just received a lesson from my 13 year old daughter, on some of the emojis that have alternative meanings. Mind you, she said that most of the 'cooler' people she knows would send a thumbs up along with the long-eyed smiling emoji to indicate sarcasm.

Apparently, the skull emoji is very 2020!

@IstandwithJackieWeaver oh dear, now I feel old and out of touch! I can’t navigate all this irony/opposite meaning stuff! And I’m not that old. I’m afraid I will continue to use the thumbs up to mean, you know, thumbs up...

I suppose it depends on what you have written.

But generally no, I don't see it as dismissive, lazy or rude. It's generally an acknowledgement.

No, it's not dismissive. I take it to be an emoji for the old term "Ack" (meaning "read, acknowledged and understood").

Why can't people just write "ok"

How can that be too much effort for people ?

I find it passo aggro because they are basically ending the conversation. What do you reply to a thumbs up?