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Dishy Rishi is only 5ft5 !!

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newcarcoming · 03/03/2021 23:36

He's dinky!!

He looks so much taller!!

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Youhavetoquitwhileyoureahead · 04/03/2021 09:45

"I don't particularly care what height he is but he obviously has a bit of a thing about it."

Maybe not surprising, given that many seem to consider it acceptable to make fun of men because they are short?

CandyLeBonBon · 04/03/2021 09:46

@ChelseeDagger

CandyLeBonBon

Please don't worry about your sons' future.

They already reference the fact that height is an issue because society 'deems' it that 'real men' aren't short, that height is somehow an indicator of virtuous qualities in a man and it's utterly sexist, toxic bullshit. Women need to stop perpetuating the notion.
Bluesheep8 · 04/03/2021 09:46

*Ffs what a nasty thread. My sons aren't especially tall although they may grow for a bit. I'd be really upset for them if women were mocking their height and saying 'ugh, never marry a short man'

That's really such a regressive, reductive , stereotypical and utter shallow thing to come out with. It's like saying never marry a redhead. Or never marry a black man. It's a vile attitude.

It's ok to have a preference. It's not ok to mock people for something they cannot change. How deeply depressing.*

Yep. Some awful comments on this thread.Hmm

Wondermule · 04/03/2021 09:47

@ChelseeDagger

sorry, pressed send too soon. ime most women who insist on taller men aren't very secure in their femininity. They feel that they need a tall partner to make them feel more dainty/womanly etc. Its why you often see beautiful, tall gazelle like women with men of their own height or even a tad shorter.
Like Sophie Dahl?

I’ve always thought short woman syndrome is more of a ‘thing’ than short man, although in a different way. They constantly bang on about being ‘petite’, hang signs everywhere like ‘although she is small, she is mighty’ or ‘good things come in small packages’ and are quite bossy/attention seeking in an infantile way*

*THIS DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL SHORT WOMEN BEFORE ANYONE STARTS. It’s just something I’ve noticed.

Wondermule · 04/03/2021 09:48

@Bluesheep8

*Ffs what a nasty thread. My sons aren't especially tall although they may grow for a bit. I'd be really upset for them if women were mocking their height and saying 'ugh, never marry a short man'

That's really such a regressive, reductive , stereotypical and utter shallow thing to come out with. It's like saying never marry a redhead. Or never marry a black man. It's a vile attitude.

It's ok to have a preference. It's not ok to mock people for something they cannot change. How deeply depressing.*

Yep. Some awful comments on this thread.Hmm

Yet posters go mental if anyone mentions men preferring slim women
CandyLeBonBon · 04/03/2021 09:48

Short man syndromereally does exist, Oxford University academics have found, after a study showed feeling smaller makes people paranoid, distrustful and scared of others.

Yes it exists. But why?

Most likely from bullying, offensive mocking and other unpleasant behaviour that leads to men under a certain height feeling 'less than'

It's an environmental syndrome, not a genetic one. Because, you know, society.

ChelseeDagger · 04/03/2021 09:49

CandyLeBonBon

Please reassure them, they won't end up with a plump, plain wife who requires their height to make up for her lack of feminine charms.

your sons, who I'm sure are lovely men will likely be rewarded with beautiful wives, trust me, it happens more often than not.

RMRM · 04/03/2021 09:49

No, I agree. It's bloody mad that we are still taking the piss out of people for how tall they are. I wonder how long this attitude will take to die out. It is deeply ingrained.

Jenasaurus · 04/03/2021 09:49

My manager is only about 5ft 5 but he looks taller too, its only when he employed 3 others who were 6ft+ I realised how short he is. I think its the power dressing that makes him seem taller, maybe the same with Rishi, and being slim too

TheDogsMother · 04/03/2021 09:49

@Oldat40

Never marry a short man.
Why would that be then ?
CandyLeBonBon · 04/03/2021 09:50

@Wondermule as I said, there is nothing wrong with preference. It's ok to prefer slim women or tall men. It's not ok to mock those who don't fit that preference. And personally unless expressly asked, I probably would keep my preferences to myself because I'm not an arsehole who thinks it's funny to mock people for physical features they can't change.

But that's just me.

Oldat40 · 04/03/2021 09:51

Well of course it's each to their own but I would personally never (again) choose to date a short man. Nothing wrong with that.

nurseriess · 04/03/2021 09:51

He looks really tall and about 30 ??!!!
But he’s actually short and 40 !!!
If he did a post ‘how old and tall do I look’ on here we would have all got it wrong I think 🤣

CandyLeBonBon · 04/03/2021 09:51

@ChelseeDagger

CandyLeBonBon

Please reassure them, they won't end up with a plump, plain wife who requires their height to make up for her lack of feminine charms.

your sons, who I'm sure are lovely men will likely be rewarded with beautiful wives, trust me, it happens more often than not.

What's wrong with a plump plain wife? Why would that be a problem for them?
Wondermule · 04/03/2021 09:52

Quick straw poll. Tom Cruise or Stephen Merchant?

Bluesheep8 · 04/03/2021 09:52

Yet posters go mental if anyone mentions men preferring slim women

As has already been said, personal preference is one thing, saying "Never marry a....." is quite another.

CandyLeBonBon · 04/03/2021 09:52

@Wondermule

Quick straw poll. Tom Cruise or Stephen Merchant?
Neither
TheDogsMother · 04/03/2021 09:54

@Oldat40

Just speaking from personal experience. Marrying a short man was a mistake for me.
I'm sorry it was a mistake for you but was the problem because he was short or was it because he wasn't very nice. Surely unpleasant people can be any height ?
Oldat40 · 04/03/2021 09:54

Definitely not Tom Cruise. I don't fancy Stephen Merchant either but I'd go for him over Tom.

Wondermule · 04/03/2021 09:54

@Bluesheep8

Yet posters go mental if anyone mentions men preferring slim women

As has already been said, personal preference is one thing, saying "Never marry a....." is quite another.

Personal preferences are fine. But if you’re so secure in your tastes and your gorgeous 6’4 husband why come on a thread to mock other people?
ChelseeDagger · 04/03/2021 09:54

Well, most men given the choice probably wouldn't want one.

Men prize beauty above all else. A gross generalisation but history and science agrees with it.

beautiful, feminine women tend to be less bothered about a man's height as they don't require the juxtaposition of his height to add to their sense of femininity.

SaharaSavana · 04/03/2021 09:55

[quote Oldat40]@SaharaSavana Well if you had some you'd know that Oxford University have researched SMS and found:

Short man syndromereally does exist, Oxford University academics have found, after a study showed feeling smaller makes people paranoid, distrustful and scared of others. Scientists used virtual reality technology to reduce the height of volunteers travelling on a computer-simulated Tube train by 10in (25cm).[/quote]
@Oldat40 This isn’t a debate about short man syndrome or whether Oxford university researched it, are you really this dense?

It’s about you coming on with your vile attitude to say no one should marry a short man! all entirely based on your one bad relationship with a man that just happened to be short.

Wondermule · 04/03/2021 09:56

@ChelseeDagger

Well, most men given the choice probably wouldn't want one.

Men prize beauty above all else. A gross generalisation but history and science agrees with it.

beautiful, feminine women tend to be less bothered about a man's height as they don't require the juxtaposition of his height to add to their sense of femininity.

Interesting. My sister is very beautiful (she looks like Katherine Winnick’s twin) and her husband isn’t tall (not short either, probably around 5’8)

Now you mention it I can see this reflected in couples I know

Oldat40 · 04/03/2021 09:56

@TheDogsMother Of course. But in his case being shorter caused more issues for him. Pre-existing issues but they were exacerbated by his dislike of his height.

CovidKingfisher · 04/03/2021 09:57

@Ylfa

The whole premise of the OP is pretty racist isn’t it?

Huh?
Some posters have been pretty nasty about shorter men (not OP) who has mentioned race? Confused

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