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Could you kill someone?

229 replies

Mollyiere · 03/03/2021 22:23

I was just watching a programme where a man said something like "obviously we all the ability to kill inside us, it happens everyday". Hmm

Anyway - then I started wondering if I actually could do it. Could you?

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Jeremyironseverything · 04/03/2021 08:52

My whole being, recoils in horror at the thought, but I surprised myself once when I instinctively stepped in between someone attacking someone else. I just put myself in danger without hesitation and I never ever thought I'd ever do that, so who knows how I'd react in an emergency situation involving myself or my family.

I feel very strongly about killing/putting down, a beloved pet if they are suffering and feel the same about loved ones. I think I could do that, if there was no chance of repercussions. That would be done out of love though.

CrunchyBiscs · 04/03/2021 08:56

I shocked a friend by saying I have a heavy stick by the front door for if I felt seriously threatened and had also planned to hide the body and where Grin
I live in the sticks with no direct neighbours - hence the conversation about what would you do etc
This would be if I was home alone. I would hide the body to avoid going to court etc. having to explain why I brained a hapless driver wanting directions
But who would want to break in? (and obviously would be unlikely to come in front door) - no one nicks microwaves or tellies nowadays. I have some gold jewellery but not worth that much.

noeffingwayyyy · 04/03/2021 08:57

100% yes, if they were a threat to a loved family member or pet. I have a terrible temper and once unleashed (which is hardly ever) it knows no bounds. I'm not physically fit or very strong, so I'd probably need a gun though!

HollyBollyBooBoo · 04/03/2021 09:02

Certainly at the time of discovering the extent of my then husbands deceit and the devastating impact it was going to have on my life I could certainly have murdered him.

It was only the fact that he'd be dead and I'd be serving life inside therefore effectively orphaning my daughter did I not follow through!

Chimeraforce · 04/03/2021 09:03

Yes. If it's them or me I'll do my darndest to make sure it's them.

thosetalesofunexpected · 04/03/2021 09:04

Same here to protect myself and my family yes i would need definitely need to have therapy to help overcome the emotional impact of having a situation like this inflicted on myself or my family.

I think push to shove, I could do this for a good friend too,if they were in serious peril, harm , their life was endangered assailant.

Mysterian · 04/03/2021 09:06

It's the hiding of the bodies that I find hardest.

thosetalesofunexpected · 04/03/2021 09:12

@Mollyiere

I think anybody who has had the misfortune to come across Arseholes in their Iife can feel this way at times
I think I can amagine wanting to hurt them physically.

I think its natural to sometimes amagine/feel you want to bury the hachet into a Arseholes head

Not the other famous meaning to this.

Its just taboo somewhat not to say in real life you feel/amagine you feel like this.

You have to make a joke about it,to make it seem more palatable way of thinking.

HandyBendySandy · 04/03/2021 09:31

DH is a passive, friendly guy on the surface but he has barely suppressed rage underneath. He has said that he would be able to kill someone with his bare hands, he's had "red mist" visions since a child.

Me - I couldn't kill anyone, no. There are, however, 2 people on this planet that I would like to see slowly minced to death.

WhoWants2Know · 04/03/2021 09:32

As repugnant as it sounds, I think it would depend on how.

I could shoot someone, if I had a gun and thought it was necessary.

If I tried any other way, I think it would go wrong or I wouldn't be strong enough.

MaudesMum · 04/03/2021 09:33

I used to fish, and really struggled with the idea of killing them through a swift blow to the head - which is, in theory, much kinder than letting them die slowly out of water. On the one occasion where I couldn't put the fish back in the water, someone else had to kill it for me. I have also failed to finish off damaged mice that my cats have bought in. So, no, if there was any degree of premeditation involved, I'd not be able to do it.

RMRM · 04/03/2021 09:34

In defence of a loved one, yes. I don't think there's much danger of me turning into a serial killer though.

Spied · 04/03/2021 09:41

Yes but it would be through gunshot or poisoning.
I do not think I could use my physical strength/violence although if my dc were in immediate danger I'd try anything.

WhoWants2Know · 04/03/2021 09:41

In theory, if I didn't have to get my hands dirty, but just snap my fingers like Thanos and people would drop dead...

Yep. Mass murderer here. (Obviously I would be all knowing in this scenario and have no doubts about whether someone might be innocent.)

LordOfTheOnionRings · 04/03/2021 09:45

I read somewhere about this poor little girl (about 3) who got seperated from her family on a walk and a peadophile who happened to find her raped her. This wasn't long ago and in the UK.

I think if I happened upon that, I would have tried my best to kill him.

I would kill to protect my family, easily.

Dozycuntlaters · 04/03/2021 09:59

@ParkheadParadise I am so sorry, I cannot imagine your pain.

I have been mulling this over. A local boy aged 18 was killed last week, stabbed in the heart, he went to school with my DS. The kid that did it is now out on bail. I honestly think if he had killed my DS and was walking the streets I would kill him, and wouldn't care if I spent the rest of my days in prison for it. But of course, I don't know for sure but yes if anyone was trying to harm or did harm my child I think I would be able to kill them.

Cailleach · 04/03/2021 10:02

If it was to protect myself or someone else then yes, definitely.

Tigger001 · 04/03/2021 10:07

Yes, I definitely could.
I believe I could hide the body and get away with it as well ShockShockWink

Easterbunnygettingready · 04/03/2021 10:09

I used to lie awake at night mulling over how I could kill exh... Even pondered how prison would be. Worth it was my conclusion..

Wineisrequired · 04/03/2021 10:10

If someone was messing with my family or child then yes no hesitation. Might need counselling afterwards though.

DGRossetti · 04/03/2021 10:17

There was a fascinating documentary on this a few years back. Turns out humans really, really, really do not want to kill humans (despite anecdata) which was a problem for the military.

Luckily they found a way to disable our inbuilt dislike of killing so we can carry on having a go. But it was touch and go for a while. We almost had to give up war.

TotallyKerplunked · 04/03/2021 10:18

Yes. I often have fantasies and elaborate dreams about it and for disposing of the evidence. I think in another life I'd be a serial killer but in this one I'm not physically strong enough.

Mamamamasaurus · 04/03/2021 10:22

I sometimes ponder how I'd kill someone and not get caught. Like down to minute detail - what I'd do with the murder weapon (a lamb leg or an icicle) and what / who my alibi would be.

I doubt I'd actually follow through with that but I reckon I could if it came down to the wire (protecting my kids etc).

Ikora · 04/03/2021 13:34

No one really knows until an incident occurs. It is most likely that people could to defend themselves or in revenge for harm done to their children.

I have in my professional life had to deal with people that are diagnosed with psychopathy and narcissism. Terms that are bandied around on her far too freely. One was a convicted murderer and the other had tortured people though not killed them.

A world of difference between the two types of killing.

Women that kill often use implements or poisoning so it is seen as pre meditated, men can kill with their bare hands far more easily it’s obvious why, sentencing reflects this.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 04/03/2021 14:02

There was a fascinating documentary on this a few years back. Turns out humans really, really, really do not want to kill humans (despite anecdata) which was a problem for the military.

That reminds me of the old joke about the three candidates to join the SAS - two men and a woman. As their final challenge to prove they can unswervingly follow instructions from their superiors, however upsetting, they're given a gun and told to kill the person tied to a chair in the middle of a locked room. When they go in the room, they discover that the bound up 'victim' is their own spouse.

One man goes in, they hear a loud wail from outside as he sees his wife and he instantly realises that he could never do it. He unties her, walks out of the room with her and is told by the examiner that his application to join has been unsuccessful.

The second man goes in, an enormously loud gasp of shock can be heard from outside as he sees his wife. He sobs at the very thought of it, unties her, they walk out together and his application has failed.

The woman goes in, sees her husband and about a hundred dull clicks are heard by the examiner outside. He then hears the sound of ropes being untied and then hysterical screaming, before absolute silence. She walks out of the room and sneers "Call yourself the elites?! There's no way I'd want to join you bunch of muppets now. That gun you gave me was empty - you left me with no alternative but to beat him to death with the chair!"