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There is a paedophile living on the next road to me.

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Wellthisisjustfuckingbrilliant · 02/03/2021 21:40

Found out today through the medium of Facebook. Pleaded guilty to downloading cat A images and received a suspended sentence/put on the sex offenders register.

He lives almost next door to a play park.

At the moment there is plenty of pitch forks at the ready from the neighbours from what I can tell. But can anyone tell me seriously how this will be policed/monitored?

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huuuuunnnndderrricks · 03/03/2021 17:14

If you do I'm not worried , I don't let my kids wander round on their own and like others have said there is probably more than we ever realise near us . I'm amazed the County times ( if it's the one near me ) published his name and address!! Asking for trouble but I guess it's Sarah's law !

stampsurprise · 03/03/2021 17:14

What’s frightening is that somewhere someone is unknowingly marrying a paedophile right now.

Right now there is a teenager having sick fantasies as they grow into an adult paedophile.

It’s everywhere and could be anyone. Really chilling.

I agree with pp though that it’s best to know WHO and WHERE rather than them being underground.

TableFlowerss · 03/03/2021 17:15

Last thing- I was watching a show recently about undercover police trying to bust peadophile rings. These paedophiles were actively online trying to meet up with children, it was absolutely vile. Thankfully the teams intervened etc but thought of them actively preying on young girls.

It was really hard to watch and the officers deserve a medal for doing what they do in order to catch them

SugarfreeBlitz · 03/03/2021 17:29

The main one I hear about is people befriending struggling families. There was a married couple around here who befriended people who were struggling with kids going through puberty. The man was a known paedo, but living as a "respectable" married man.
Actually I know a few people were targetted by him locally and that hes been in prison three times that I know of. Each time they let him out he does it again and then has to move to a different part of the country. At least his wife has had the sense to leave him now.

AbstractHeart · 03/03/2021 17:35

I think the terminology is interchangeable and a man that is say 30 and sleeping with a 15 year old girl, would still be considered a paedophile, even if he’s had previously girlfriends etc... he may not be attracted to young children, but I don’t think many people would dispute he deserves the title of a paedophile, regardless of whether he fits the true description of one (a man that’s attracted to children only)

A peadophile is attracted to pre-pubescent children, not 15 year olds.

& no terms are not "interchangeable". Words have actual meanings, you can't just decide to change them to suit your beliefs.

TableFlowerss · 03/03/2021 17:54

@AbstractHeart

I think the terminology is interchangeable and a man that is say 30 and sleeping with a 15 year old girl, would still be considered a paedophile, even if he’s had previously girlfriends etc... he may not be attracted to young children, but I don’t think many people would dispute he deserves the title of a paedophile, regardless of whether he fits the true description of one (a man that’s attracted to children only)

A peadophile is attracted to pre-pubescent children, not 15 year olds.

& no terms are not "interchangeable". Words have actual meanings, you can't just decide to change them to suit your beliefs.

Omg what is your problem?

They may have specific meanings, but do you think the average jo in the street would say ‘No, the 30 year old sleeping with the 13/14/15 year old child isn’t a peadophile? Because they’re not young deemed young enough?!

Don’t be obtuse! I’ve seen the papers described the exact scenario, as above, and they do very much describe them as a peadophile!!!

TableFlowerss · 03/03/2021 18:18

I’ve just googled the definition and yes I accept you’re right, it does specify prepubescent children. I couldn’t see anything to describe someone that’s attracted to older children but I’m sure it has got a name.

But I still think rightly or wrongly, people use it as a general term.

SugarfreeBlitz · 03/03/2021 18:23

I didn't actually mention the age... but one of them was mentally not the age their body was.
Im not sure, maybe it's not the same as a paedo, but it was sexual abuse of a minor.

sporky · 03/03/2021 19:21

@TableFlowerss it's hebephile for people who are sexually attracted to older children/pre-teens/young adolescents.

You're right though, most people would use the term paedophile, it's a far more commonly known term and the term often used in the media.

tink09 · 03/03/2021 19:33

They will have a SOPO or a SHPO in place if they have been convicted. I will be interested to see what exactly has been released to the press and what is social media hysteria.
Working in this field, they will be subject to conditions and monitored by a specific team and probation officer.
What I would say is please report any vigilante behaviour with 101, they may assist with some community intervention. Unfortunately this person will need to be housed somewhere and this will be registered. They will have conditions about what they can access and where they can go etc. Online offences are very different to contact offences.

PawPawNoodle · 03/03/2021 20:21

@tink09 They will have a SOPO or a SHPO in place if they have been convicted

This is not true, they aren't automatic.

Mif4 · 03/03/2021 20:29

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tink09 · 03/03/2021 20:41

@PolPotNoodle in our area we apply with every conviction and in fact requests can be made to the court to issue with out a conviction.

Following a conviction an automatic registration will be made on VISOR and conditions are in place as to what is expected of an individual. This will include address, who lives in the property, place of work, bank details etc.

TableFlowerss · 03/03/2021 22:10

[quote sporky]@TableFlowerss it's hebephile for people who are sexually attracted to older children/pre-teens/young adolescents.

You're right though, most people would use the term paedophile, it's a far more commonly known term and the term often used in the media. [/quote]
Thank you sporky, I knew there was a name for it but I would have never remembered it. I done a quick google before but it wasn’t the easiest.

TableFlowerss · 03/03/2021 22:11

@Mif4

Sadly he will be one of many. They are like rats. Your never more than 3ft away from a rat. Glad people are aware of him. The least he deserves. He shouldn't get right to privacy now.
So true. You don’t see them but you know they’re there 😥
wizzywig · 03/03/2021 22:31

Not excusing the offence at all,.please remember any person under 16 cannot consent to sex. So there could be posters here who had underage sex with a boyfriend who was 16+. And we wouldn't view them as paedophiles/ hebephiles

SugarfreeBlitz · 03/03/2021 22:42

I know a girl who had to marry in a country where it is legal to marry your stepdad. He'd abused the poor girl as a young girl/teen and was controlling her as an adult. She was his ticket to normality and his badge of respectability. He did not love her, but used her to help him gain access to families. She now has a dog, which I imagine to be a thousand times better than a husband/sicko that used to be your stepdad- and he is in jail. I just don't know why they let him out as he's preyed a few times on families with kids. Sicko!

yaboo · 04/03/2021 00:12

I think the statistic is 1 in 32 men, so... they're everywhere. How will he be monitored? Erm... he probably won't be. There's that many of them, they can't watch them all.

He'll be on the sex offenders register for a specified amount of time. He has to notify the police if he changes address. He'll have to surrender his passport OR tell the cops if he's planning a foreign holiday. He'll have to let the cops know if he starts seeing a woman with kids, that kind of thing. But that's probably about it.

He may (will probably have) have a sexual harm prevention order imposed by the courts, which means 'conditions' can be imposed upon his life. For instance, he may be ordered to stay away from schools, or parks, or the local arcade, depending on his offending pattern. The SHPO may impose conditions on his computer and phone use, for instance, and he may or may not have to tell them his phone numbers, or let them look at his laptop if they visit him, or never delete his browsing history, or not be able to have TOR or use encrypted comms channels, but it depends on the conditions of his SHPO. Do the cops check? It depends. Some police teams monitor them better than others. They can call at an offenders house and do spot checks if they want to, but there's no cast-iron way to check he's doing as he's told. Can he have six phones and seven laptops nobody knows about? Sure. Unless they boot his door down and search his house thoroughly, (and his Mums house, and his best friends house, and maybe his work place) they'll never know. Will he have a probation officer, or somebody calling on him at home regularly to check he's being 'good'? Highly unlikely. Not unless he's considered a 'serious' high risk, and a few kiddy pics on his comp is just the thin end of a very ugly dirty wedge. If he's got previous for dom V offences, 'contact' offences (has actually touched kids with his own hands), etc, he can be moved up the risk scale, but he's probably deemed 'low-risk' and not being monitored too closely. That's just how it is. If he's found in breach of his SHPO he can be recalled to jail, but they have to catch him at it, first, and that isn't so easy if he doesn't want to get caught.

sorry state of affairs, ain't it?

AbstractHeart · 04/03/2021 07:36

@wizzywig

Not excusing the offence at all,.please remember any person under 16 cannot consent to sex. So there could be posters here who had underage sex with a boyfriend who was 16+. And we wouldn't view them as paedophiles/ hebephiles
Also a 15 year old boy who texts a dick pic to his girlfriend can be prosecuted for distributing child pornography.

Child sex offenders are a broad group.

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