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There is a paedophile living on the next road to me.

169 replies

Wellthisisjustfuckingbrilliant · 02/03/2021 21:40

Found out today through the medium of Facebook. Pleaded guilty to downloading cat A images and received a suspended sentence/put on the sex offenders register.

He lives almost next door to a play park.

At the moment there is plenty of pitch forks at the ready from the neighbours from what I can tell. But can anyone tell me seriously how this will be policed/monitored?

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PawPawNoodle · 03/03/2021 10:15

He will only be on a SHPO if the court directed it - which I think would be unlikely wity the minimal information you've given.

Registered sex offenders are not just child sex offenders, this includes practically anyone convicted of a sexual offence. Communities aren't awash with paedophiles specifically.

Regarding parks - He wouldn't meet the criteria for a condition banning him from play parks etc based on this conviction alone.

stampsurprise · 03/03/2021 10:16

@Kittykat93

Theres probably a paedophile in nearly every street..you just dont know about it. Most of them havent been caught. At least you know so you can be aware. Keep your kids safe and theres not much else you can do.
This.
Ironytheoppositeofwrinkly · 03/03/2021 10:20

Something turns my stomach about people on a parenting site falling over themselves to say that sharing a convicted paedophiles address is 'disgusting'. They lost all their rights when they decided to act on their fucking disgusting impulses and they deserve no privacy or protection ever again.

sporky · 03/03/2021 10:23

@PandemicAtTheDisco then it's quite misleading to suggest most schools have removed staff for this type of offence. This type of misinformation can be quite worrying for some parents.

CorianderBee · 03/03/2021 10:23

@Pepsipepsi

My local Facebook page today has posted a newspaper link to a 19 year old facing charges for "making Cat A images". Full name, address and village given. Surprised it had that much detail as he hasn't been sentenced yet, just in court.
That might be contempt... I'd be contacting the paper about that tbh
BigFatLiar · 03/03/2021 10:24

Yep, try not to panic. Every community has its share of sex offenders, drug dealers, thieves, burglars, thugs, abusive parents, abusive children and just about any problem you can name. Fortunately for most of us we don't have to deal with the bad bit of them normally just the pleasant public face.

PearlescentIridescent · 03/03/2021 10:24

I would not trust social media one iota.

I am in the process of putting in a request with the police to find out if there are any in my area. I will use this information only to protect my children and to be honest I always operate on the idea that I don't know and therefore trust anyone around me.

BigFatLiar · 03/03/2021 10:26

Wasn't there an incident some time ago of people attacking a paediatrician because they thought it was the same as a paedophile?

rainbowdashsneeze · 03/03/2021 10:26

@TheChip

I find it odd that they would be placed so closely to a children's play park.

Are you sure what you have seen and heard on Facebook is true?

Only the most high risk offenders who have served a prison sentence wouldn't be allowed near a play park. He hasn't been sentenced to a custodial sentence so he will likely have lived here prior to being convicted of the offence.

There is a big difference between an internet offender and a contact offender. I wouldn't worry too much just keep an eye on your children when they're at the park.

gamerchick · 03/03/2021 10:29

Whenever there is vigilante activity in my area I ring the police and let them know.

sporky · 03/03/2021 10:30

@PearlescentIridescent

I would not trust social media one iota.

I am in the process of putting in a request with the police to find out if there are any in my area. I will use this information only to protect my children and to be honest I always operate on the idea that I don't know and therefore trust anyone around me.

Best you'll get out of that is a number, how will that help you?
sporky · 03/03/2021 10:32

Only the most high risk offenders who have served a prison sentence wouldn't be allowed near a play park. He hasn't been sentenced to a custodial sentence so he will likely have lived here prior to being convicted of the offence.

Not necessarily true. Restrictions should be relevant to their MO.

PawPawNoodle · 03/03/2021 11:29

@sporky

Only the most high risk offenders who have served a prison sentence wouldn't be allowed near a play park. He hasn't been sentenced to a custodial sentence so he will likely have lived here prior to being convicted of the offence.

Not necessarily true. Restrictions should be relevant to their MO.

It is necessarily true. The condition is either on a probation licence or a SHPO and relates to specific concerns. If there are specific concerns about a person going to play areas (and near schools and swimming pools) then the condition is included but not in a blanket manner for all sex offenders. A specific concern would relate to a person being predatory in their behaviour, taking pictures themselves of children in public of a sexualised manner or having committed contact offences (and even the latter doesn't mean they'll be restricted).

I have worked with sex offenders who have committed contact offences against their own children and they aren't restricted from play areas because that is not how their offending behaviour occurs.

ohwaitthatwasme · 03/03/2021 11:35

@TheChip

I find it odd that they would be placed so closely to a children's play park.

Placed? Placed by who?

Why would anybody be 'placing' him Confused

kissmarch · 03/03/2021 11:44

@Ironytheoppositeofwrinkly

Something turns my stomach about people on a parenting site falling over themselves to say that sharing a convicted paedophiles address is 'disgusting'. They lost all their rights when they decided to act on their fucking disgusting impulses and they deserve no privacy or protection ever again.
Fucking this, x100.

Once you commit once of the most heinous crimes there is, you lose your rights to protection.

If vigilante groups want to do his windows in or whatever - so be it. I can’t believe there’s people saying they’d contact the police to report that.’

If he’d just been accused without proof or conviction and been named and his address given in the paper, then I can see the outrage. But he is guilty. Paedophiles don’t deserve rights or protection.

PearlescentIridescent · 03/03/2021 11:45

@sporky please do not spout stuff that isn't true and spread misinformation. A disclosure under Sarah's law requires careful consideration and then a face to face meeting with police in most cases, as well as an agreement to maintain confidentiality. They are hardly going to do that and then provide you with 'just a number' are they.

I don't care for social media pedo hunts. I find them distasteful and disingenuous, done for the wrong reasons and again, how on earth are you going to prove accuracy when this information is closely guarded? It makes literally no sense.

sporky · 03/03/2021 11:46

@PolPotNoodle I think you've misunderstood. I said restrictions should be relevant to the MO I.e not only high risk offenders who have been to prison would be excluded from a park Confused

PearlescentIridescent · 03/03/2021 11:46

Reading your other replies I honestly don't think you know what you are on about @sporky Confused

sporky · 03/03/2021 11:49

@PearlescentIridescent

Reading your other replies I honestly don't think you know what you are on about *@sporky* Confused
Police won't just tell you how many sex offenders are in your area from a CSODS application so no, I'm not spreading misinformation.
PearlescentIridescent · 03/03/2021 11:51

@kissmarch I'm incredibly protective of my kids. I would never let them play alone and am risk averse with them. I keep my guard up and am even applying for information through Sarahs law so I can be aware.

I still find pedo hunts online distasteful. I remember seeing a documentary about so called vigilante peodphile hunters and it said how pedos themselves will join - perhaps as an excuse to be in possession of materials or to make contact with others that can then be passed off as "baiting"?

And again the point atands about verifying that information. I do not trust other people to make those calls for me. I will source my own information and I will always find it turns my stomach to have the facebook hounds baying and crying "pedo".

PearlescentIridescent · 03/03/2021 11:52

@sporky yes you are you're now saying something different. The process is long but it is still literally to find out if there are sex offenders living in your area. I literally don't know what you are on about.

icecreamgirl94 · 03/03/2021 11:56

Unfortunately it’s probably a lot more common than you think, and they have to live somewhere.
There was recently a lot of hysteria on my local Facebook page about a recently convicted paedophile, people just couldn’t believe someone like that could possibly live in our town. Amazingly none of them seem to be aware that a prolific poster on the group is also a convicted paedophile who got out last year, his wife took him back and he’s carrying on as normal, and advertising kids toys for sale on the site Envy (not envy). I went to school with his youngest daughter so I’m not sure why he has so many modern kids toys to get rid of. I messaged the admin in case he wasn’t aware of the situation, he read the message but never replied. I guess the argument is, once they’ve served their time, can anyone really stop them continuing with their day to day life?

sporky · 03/03/2021 11:57

From your first post I thought you meant a freedom of information request, which is different. CSODS is a different process and is not "literally to find out about sex offenders in your area" it's about people having contact or intend to have contact with your child(ren).

TableFlowerss · 03/03/2021 12:01

@Ironytheoppositeofwrinkly

Something turns my stomach about people on a parenting site falling over themselves to say that sharing a convicted paedophiles address is 'disgusting'. They lost all their rights when they decided to act on their fucking disgusting impulses and they deserve no privacy or protection ever again.
I completely agree!
PearlescentIridescent · 03/03/2021 12:02

@sporky which includes third parties for example a grandparent, neighbour or friend.

My statement regarding finding sex offenders in your area was flippant. My point was the request can be used if you have concerns to ask police to disclose information.

You said it was a number that would be provided. That's not correct. That was my point.