I cant cope with the crying anymore

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She is 5 months. I've done nothing but worry and fret and rock and shush and I've nothing left.

I believe there's a difference between osteopathy and cranial osteopathy - I've had the former (which I swear by) but I've heard the latter is nonsense 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I believe there's a difference between osteopathy and cranial osteopathy - I've had the former (which I swear by) but I've heard the latter is nonsense 🤷🏻‍♀️

I've had both. I had osteopathy for eight months for a back injury and it would provide a few days relief then I'd start to decline again. I was also seeing a maternal psychiatrist for PTSD and she referred me to a cranial sacral therapist. The CST told me to expect to need around six sessions but I was healed by the fourth one. No back pain plus my mood was so much better.

After that I started taking my children whenever they had injuries or more than mild illness. It worked like magic. They'd fall asleep on the table and be so calm and sleep so deeply for the next few nights.

Once I went while recovering from a broken arm and while I was there she said she felt a lot of blockages in my body so she'd work on those. I hadn't mentioned feeling flu-like at the time (gosh that seems so bad now in this covid era) and oh my goodness the symptoms started to lift, I slept very deeply that night and by morning I felt well.

So I swear by a good cranial sacral therapist.

I stand corrected! Glad it helped you

Osteopathy was a life saver for me as I had PGP in both my pregnancies and I don't know how I would have coped without the sessions I had.

I also took DC2 for a few sessions with an osteo after she was born, as we had some feeding issues (not tongue tie, we ruled that out) and I was surprised by how much it helped her too.

I thought osteopathy was totally made-up /dodgy too but I ended up taking my dd out of sheer desperation just to see if it would work ... the change was amazing, so many of her symptoms just went.

@CatherinedeBourgh I'm reassured that you've said that. I brought up reflux with mine today and she said that DD seems a lot happier than the reflux babies she treats. She wanted to see a feed so I did and then she took her for a bit, DD brought up a tiny bit of semi digested milk but she wasn't bothered by it at all. She was also flat on the table and only got upset when she couldnt see me

I thought that 2nd ones 'just got on with it'. Apparently not.

We had another bout of hysterical crying tonight and I'm now in the middle of the 2nd. I hold her upright for an hour after she has fallen asleep and she went from soundly asleep to hysterical crying in about 30 seconds. Arched back, knees up. I rock her with her dummy and that relaces her but then she tenses up again. I gave her gripe water but she choked and sputtered on it.

I now no longer eat dairy or eggs or drink caffeine.

I've nothing left.

Oh, I'm sorry OP. It is so very hard. I've been where you are. It just seemed to get better on its own in the end. Was it reflux? 'Colic'? Boredom? Overstimulation? Oversupply? Not enough milk? Allergies? God only knows, but I drove myself mad trying to fix it.

It got better when he could sit up, maybe when he was weaned too. But that could have been a coincidence. It was gradual, but it did happen. I was better when I stopped trying to fix it, I think. He's quite an emotional person (delightful but sensitive) now he's all grown up and I look back and wonder if there really was something I missed, or if he just sometimes screamed the house down because he had an itchy toe or something equally trivial!

Hang in there. You can do this.

Thank you. I'm asking myself the same questions.

We cried together tonight.

Will she sleep on your chest whilst you are lying down? It’s not ideal but sometimes that is enough comfort for them.

She will sleep on her side on top of my arm. She woke every hour last night and tonight had started off worse.

How exhausting! I’m sorry I don’t have any suggestions but I’ve been there with my first baby. He would only sleep on me and woke very frequently. Does she wake to feed and then resettle in the night or is it more crying in the night?

Sending you a huge virtual hug OP.

My second was exactly the same and I was a mess. We tried everything (including the cranial osteo) and nothing really worked. We got to about 5 months (I was in bits by then) and he just started to have better days until he pretty much grew out of it. I really wish I'd had more/better help from my GP/HV but they were utterly useless.

Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s really tough.

Just wanted to come back and say thank you for the fennel tea suggestion- it's been 2 days and last night we had the usual post bath tears but then she was a happy baby!

Still trying to get her to put on weight which is a worry and she is waking many many times a night but it all feels more survivable today.

Good news. Personally I would try the gripe water again too. Perhaps before the crying begins. It will hopefully be a distant memory this time next year.