I cant cope with the crying anymore

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She is 5 months. I've done nothing but worry and fret and rock and shush and I've nothing left.

She's EBF. We've said she has reflux from very early on but doctors disagree.
I had egg yesterday, maybe that was it.
I'm so tired I could cry

Have you tried colic drops ?

You poor woman. You could be right about the egg. I am so sorry the doctors aren't helping. IME you have to keep going back before they take you seriously. Maybe video the crying.
Is there anyone else who can take her so you can sleep?
Sling sounds good. If it is reflux keeping her upright should help a little bit. How many doctors have you seen? What does your HV say?

Oh my heart breaks for you. This was me 6 months ago. If you think your baby has reflux and the doctor doesn't, insist on meds to try. I put it to the doctor that if it wasn't reflux the meds wouldn't help. Of course the effin meds helped. It didn't solve all our screaming but my good god it helped such a lot. Reflux is a shifting sand- that's a whole other thread. In short- go back to the doctor if you think it's reflux. Don't leave without a prescription- probably omeprazole. Goodluck. You are doing superb. You are doing superb. You are you are you are.

Thanks everyone
Dr did cave and give me omeprazole which we gave her for a week but gave her terrible aide effects. I phoned him back and he said that it was really silly giving it to her so we stopped
Its only now I learn that it often takes a couple of weeks.
I had her privately assessed at 4 weeks for tongue tie, said she didnt. Weight from 8 to 16 weeks barely increased, saw a BF consultant, said she did have a TT. Pumped 6 times a day to get my supply back and had it cut and here we are. Weight gain has picked right up (500g in last 2 weeks)
Been dairy free for most of her life.
Wasnt supposed to be like this.

What side effects did she get?
Yes, it does take 2 to 3 weeks for omeprazole to start working.

He didnt tell me that and I felt stupid giving her meds that made her tummy sore when the dr said she didnt have what they were for!

Sore tummy, v gassy.

I still have the tablets but dont know how much she should have for her weight. The dr literally sighed last time I saw him.

She is currently lying happily on her back on her change mat.

My Dd had ranitidine for reflux. She's 13 now so has the drug of choice changed?

She also had domperidone and they tried to get me to give her infant gaviscon but as EBF that was pointless

Try the medicine again but ask if there are alternatives. The ranitidine was increased as she grew. It was instant.

DD is cows milk intolerant and soya intolerant and was severely anaemic age 4 when I finally stopped the milk. She cannot burp at all. Never could and as a baby, vomited constantly.
She had hiccups constantly and still does.

Advise dummy, front sleeping, propping head of cot and sling.

She has a dummy. She only sleeps on her side over my arm.

Unfortunately they have recalled ranitidine because they were concerned it was carcinogenic (I believe)

A friend who is a herbalist advised me to drink fennel/ camomile/ mint tea insted of ordinary tea/ coffee. It might be worth a try.

Thanks I'll give it a go - I'm in decaffeinated but happy to try anything.

I go round in circles in my head with it all all the time.

Nothing you've eaten affecting your milk causing upset? Onions? Cabbage? Lots of beans?

Babies are born to naturally sleep in your arms. Imagine in cave times, it would save them from predators if they slept in your arms so she's trying to protect herself by crying in until you picked up.
Hug her, let her sleep on you. Her body needs yours to soothe. She doesn't understand what she's done wrong, each time you put her down.

@B1rthis she hadnt left my arms

Long shot but have you read about oversupply? You might have gone in the other direction since she can feed better and now being making her uncomfortable with how fast it’s coming out. One of my friends had it and only found out as the baby unlatched at the beginning of the feed and she sprayed all over the room.

Yes I wondered that but no spray.

Gripe water worth trying.

I had a gripey second baby who needed to be latched on 20 hours a day at the start, got it down to 10 hours by 6 months. Wouldn't co sleep, only if I was sat up. Nearly broke me and my husband (who would take shifts with a bottle and a sling)
It does get better but I would just do whatever you can to soothe the crying, sling, dummy or bf if you are. I have so much sympathy for you all, including your little one.

Once they can sit up they're generally a bit happier, not long until weaning now, and soon enough they'll be at school and you'll pine for another!

Can anyone hold her now so you can take yourself off for some sleep?

@NeepNeepNeep DH is going to take her for a nap so I can see the toddler for some proper time

Sorry if this is a really stupid question but does she stop when she lying in your arms? Or still crying and uncomfortable? I definitely second the suggestion of plenty of along time in the day. I’ve been told that can really help with wind

Along time should say sling time

She has every nap in the sling so at the ok would day she is in it for about 4 hours a day.

I've just fed her and can hear the silent reflux. Dr says to early wean.

Last night I couldnt comfort her but in the day I can, she just likes to be held.

Sorry, I know you are exhausted, but you didn't say what the side effects of the omeprazole were?
I am not convinced she was on it for long enough to help the reflux.