Am I the only saddo that did a secret Valentine's card for my teen DS?

AndeanMountainCat · 14/02/2021 10:19

I got “mystery” Valentine’s card with £20 in it! Clearly from my mum. I’m 47.

Clymene · 14/02/2021 10:20

Well I haven't. Do you think that's a good idea? I can't see that it is to be honest

CatsAndDogsAndHorses · 14/02/2021 10:24

No, I wouldn’t.

I can’t stand Valentine’s Day. Waste of money. I sort of hope my dc see it that way as well. Can’t stand the way younger and younger children are expected to be involved (realise yours isn’t young).

Sorry!

ineedaholidaynow · 14/02/2021 10:25

My teen DS would hate that

LadyCatStark · 14/02/2021 10:26

No that’s really mean!

Myneighboursnorlax · 14/02/2021 10:27

I had a Valentine’s Day card from my parents one year as a teenager. They never admitted it was them, but I recognised their writing. I was so embarrassed that they thought I was so unlikely to get a card from someone in real life that they had to do one for me. I’m sure that wasn’t their intention but I felt awful.

Lollypop701 · 14/02/2021 10:27

Might have done one when they were in primary school...they don’t know though

PotteringAlong · 14/02/2021 10:27

Why would you do that, unless he knows it’s you?

Labobo · 14/02/2021 10:30

I did think about it as DS1 is in a LD relationship and things arrived in the post for him. DH and I always celebrate it and DS2 said he was feeling down as he didn't have anyone and it was impossible to meet anyone right now. But I thought how awful if I faked one and it got his hopes up and he started wondering who it was. Definitely wouldn't be the right thing to do for my DC but if yours sees the funny side, why not?

SoupDragon · 14/02/2021 10:30

Why would you do that?

I remember getting a secret Valentine one year and I was so delighted until I found out it was a joke from a work colleague. Crushing.

Stirmecrazy · 14/02/2021 10:31

I agree . I don’t like the idea . What happens if they think it is from a girl they like and then realise it is from you . They will be crushed
I know your heart is in the right place with this idea but it could go so wrong

AlwaysCheddar · 14/02/2021 10:32

Sorry but that is tragic and really embarrassing. He’s a teenager.

BunTooti · 14/02/2021 10:33

Awww I got both of mine a card and some chocolates. I always have done. They know it's me though. They roll their eyes but I know they love it

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KarensChoppyBob · 14/02/2021 10:33

I've done it since he was at late primary school. He doesn't make a big deal of it, I'm sure he does know it's me. I thought it was a nice thing! Family tradition- I did fir his sister but she's 20 now. Trust MN to make it An Awful Thing To Do .

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BearSoFair · 14/02/2021 10:34

No. My teen has a girlfriend at the moment but never did Valentines cards before they were together, he either would have been mortified or hopeful it was from someone in particular and in the end disappointed that it wasn't.

wizzywig · 14/02/2021 10:36

No!!

MumOfPsuedoAdult · 14/02/2021 10:37

Sorry OP this just makes me cringe - for you and your DS.

PatchworkElmer · 14/02/2021 10:40

I think it’s fine if it’s a joke and he knows it’s you. I can remember being sent roses from a florist which were delivered TO MY SCHOOL when I was about 14. They were blatantly from my Dad, I was being bullied horribly at the time and I know it would’ve come from a good place but I just wanted the ground to swallow me up. Plus a tiny bit of me hoped that someone (other than my Dad 😂) liked me enough to send them. And of course they didn’t, because everyone hated me.

AllMyPrettyOnes · 14/02/2021 10:42

@KarensChoppyBob

I've done it since he was at late primary school. He doesn't make a big deal of it, I'm sure he does know it's me. I thought it was a nice thing! Family tradition- I did fir his sister but she's 20 now. Trust MN to make it An Awful Thing To Do

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You clearly knew it was a weird thing to do anyway hence the thread title

PatchworkElmer · 14/02/2021 10:42

I’ve given 4 year old DS a card today (because he made one for us at pre-school and was so excited to give it to us). But it was very clearly from Mummy and Daddy. And I’ll stop as soon as I think he’ll find it embarrassing rather than fun.

Enko · 14/02/2021 10:43

I dont mind this at all. My friend told me her dad sent her a valentines card every year she is not sentimental but the last one he sent from his hospital bed is framed and hung up (she was in her late 40s and married many years) I think its sweet

SoupDragon · 14/02/2021 10:44

@KarensChoppyBob

I've done it since he was at late primary school. He doesn't make a big deal of it, I'm sure he does know it's me. I thought it was a nice thing! Family tradition- I did fir his sister but she's 20 now. Trust MN to make it An Awful Thing To Do

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Sending it every year since primary school is very different from what you imply in your thread title and uninformative OP. You call yourself a saddo nd use an embarrassed emoji implying you think it is wrong.

Now it's a "family tradition" which is not the same as a secret Valentine.

rhowton · 14/02/2021 10:44

Mine arrived yesterday from my secret love who has surprisingly similar writing to my mum but she assured me it wasn't her 😂

Yellowtopaz · 14/02/2021 10:47

@Myneighboursnorlax

I had a Valentine’s Day card from my parents one year as a teenager. They never admitted it was them, but I recognised their writing. I was so embarrassed that they thought I was so unlikely to get a card from someone in real life that they had to do one for me. I’m sure that wasn’t their intention but I felt awful.

My mum did this a couple of times and I know exactly what you mean, it made me feel crap.

BlackCatShadow · 14/02/2021 10:48

No, I wouldn’t do this. We will have a special family dinner with heart-shaped chocolate gateaux for pudding. It is a bit of a cringeworthy thing to do.