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Tell me about the worst boyfriend you ever had and why?

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whatsnewpussycat777 · 11/02/2021 19:12

Mine was a year younger in high school and kissed like a fcking hoover.

I got slagged for that for like forever.

Grin
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whatsnewpussycat777 · 12/02/2021 09:10

Oh my word, we've all met some prizes haven't we ConfusedShock

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borntohula · 12/02/2021 09:11

Probably the one who was abusive in every way.

Hubblebubble75 · 12/02/2021 09:30

@TheVampiresWife

I had one who genuinely believed that aliens built the pyramids and their spaceships were still inside them. He also had a 'spirit guide' who he would chat to. We would be in company, say, at a friend's for dinner, and he would suddenly say 'Ah yes, the infra red is vibrating, tell them to come through' or something equally random to mid air (the infra red thing is a direct quote). The guide was called Darren (over 6000 years old incidentally, who knew Darren was a popular bronze age name) and they used to have private jokes - ex would often crack up laughing for no apparent reason, except there was a reason, and it was Darren's wicked sense of humour. I was always told the jokes were too intelligent for me and I wouldn't understand them so I never got to hear them sadly. Ex was also obsessed with cleanliness and would insist I bathed twice a day and did spot checks to make sure I was clean enough throughout the day, if not I was advised to have another bath because the spirits wouldn't like it and my dirt would mess up lines of communication.

For someone so other worldly he clearly wasn't above the temptations of the flesh because the man was a walking fucking gland. I once found half a packet of condoms in his bag when he came back from a weekend staying with his friend and he quite blithely admitted that he'd had sex 'with a few ladies' but I had no right to complain because the fact he used condoms proved he loved me and didn't want me to catch anything from them.

Last straw was when he told me he was marrying a girl so she could get British citizenship, she'd have to move in with us so it looked real and they'd have to go on honeymoon. But it was ok, she was paying him £2,000 and I could have £100 of it to buy myself a treat.

I was only 18 and had not a clue about anything - I was new to London and figured I was just being terribly unsophisticated for not being cool with it all. We were together for two years altogether. I can laugh about it now, almost three decades on!

This guy sounds a peach!
Ikora · 12/02/2021 09:30

I’m sure some people would have adored my BF. He was kind, loving and generous but he had to be with me all the time and I found it suffocating. When we were writing up our dissertations and he wanted us to write up together in the same room I realised I just couldn’t deal with it anymore.

Hubblebubble75 · 12/02/2021 09:35

One I really liked but when one night I asked is it in yet and it was ... it was half the size of a chipolata. He was a real stud in the office and all the girls used to go on about his big feet . He ended up being a cheat too!
The one who took off his steering wheel on the motorway and gave it to me

PopcornAndWine · 12/02/2021 09:58

@livefornaps

His cock was tiny like a chipolata and so he only liked to do it from behind, with me bent over a countertop and all I would hear was a sweaty and flaccid slap-slap-slap "UUUH, UUH-UUHHH!!!" and it would all be over in the same space of time that it took you to read that. Then he would whisper in my ear (he could barely reach my ear) "love to bum ya, baby". I should point out, we never did anal, he just liked to delude himself that he did. He would immediately flop out, it was always all too much for him, excitement-wise, so he would then pass out like anaemic fetus on the floor. I would have to prod him with my foot in order to revive him to get him to leave my fucking house - every time.
I think this wins Mumsnet Grin
SpiceRat · 12/02/2021 09:59

Probably not the worst as that story is too long. But this one was grim. He lived an hour train ride away. Never came to see me I always went to him. He was about 10 years older than me and didn’t work. Budding musician you see... seemed nice at first but his house was rotten. I cleaned it all up during weekends I was staying there, trying to be the “good girlfriend” (god I was so fucking cringey at 20). First thing that lead me to seeing he was a twat was one weekend he had a party after a gig his band played (a shitty awful rockabilly band in a crap pub Grin). I walked into the bathroom to find one of his married band members going down on one of his very young girl friends. He wasn’t bothered and told me not to tell anyone Hmm. Several more things like scrounging money, always asking me to ‘help’ clean etc. I had suspicions something was going on so checked his laptop one day. I found an email chain to his old friend who lived in another part of the country. Basically saying how they loved each other, said if it wasn’t for me he would move to be with her. Tried to say “I didn’t mean it like that, blah blah” ...I made that decision for him, I never got the money back I borrowed him to get his stupid fucking bass guitar fixed either. He was just vile. He was also had half a tooth that was tobacco stained Envy (not envy). He then moved to be with the “it wasn’t like that” woman a few months later.
Urgh wasted months if my youth and good figure on him Grin

crumptrump · 12/02/2021 10:19

Nowhere near as bad as some of these but I was with a moderately controlling guy for 2 years. He constantly put me down, always had to have his way, wasn’t happy about my achievements, would buy me tickets to things he wanted to see for my birthday, and would sulk about things like me incorrectly washing his pans or not being willing to be woken up for sex for days.

When I finally got up the guts to dump him what shocked me was how utterly devastated he was! Posting all over Facebook about how I’d dumped him, and how he wished he’d never met me. Then when I blocked him he begged me to unblock him. He took compassionate leave from work and continued to post quotes and statuses on Facebook ( I did not unblock him- friends would tell me) for months after about how strong he was in dealing with his heartbreak and how he would treat any future girlfriends like princesses. It was all so ridiculous and dramatic and after feeling bad about it for a few weeks i realised it was his own fault for being such a shit to me for 2 years.

IseeIsee · 12/02/2021 10:26

The worst was a guy who put me off a promotion saying I wouldn't be able to do it. Told me all my friends disliked me and he was the only person that cared about me. Called me overweight, and said I had a weird personality. I became afraid to have conversations with people because he said they would be laughing about me behind my back. Told me all his friends wanted him to leave me as he was too good for me. When I dumped him he wailed and threatened to kill himself. Everyone thought he was lovely. Really affected my confidence and I've never been the same tbh. This was 20 years ago. Only bad experience I had with a man.

Tootshoots · 12/02/2021 10:31

@Rainingagaininseattle

I had a boyfriend when I was a teenager who licked my ears out every time we kissed and I was too embarrassed to say how disgusting it was.
I'm sorry .....whaaaaattt Confused
ButterflyRabbit · 12/02/2021 11:04

@FancySomeChips

The one who dumped me for my best friend.

The one who was 33 and I was 17 (just).

The one who dumped me when I was pregnant.

The one who stalked my flat and I had to get an injunction against.

The one who turned out to be a kiddie fiddler and was probably with me just to get access to my kids (shudder, I will never forgive myself for that). Dumped him immediately- obviously- after he turned up on my doorstep with his support worker and revealed this nightmare.

The one who was living a double life and he messed up -arranged to meet us both on a night out.

The one that moved to Canada after telling me two days before.

I am the worst judge of character.

These are awful... But i want to know about the two-timing incident!
PopcornAndWine · 12/02/2021 11:08

@IseeIsee

The worst was a guy who put me off a promotion saying I wouldn't be able to do it. Told me all my friends disliked me and he was the only person that cared about me. Called me overweight, and said I had a weird personality. I became afraid to have conversations with people because he said they would be laughing about me behind my back. Told me all his friends wanted him to leave me as he was too good for me. When I dumped him he wailed and threatened to kill himself. Everyone thought he was lovely. Really affected my confidence and I've never been the same tbh. This was 20 years ago. Only bad experience I had with a man.
Sounds like we have the same ex!
BottegaBish · 12/02/2021 11:13

The gaslighting controlling abusive prick who dumped me the night before I'd paid to take him for a weekend away for his birthday (I was 19 he was 24) and then spent the whole weekend on the phone to another girl, tried to force me to have sex with him then told me he had cancer (which was a absolutely fucked up lie) and left me in a restaurant crying with no money to pay the bill. I put up with him for 2 years until the weekend away I never saw him after.

PattyPan · 12/02/2021 11:20

This is outing but when I was at university I went out with a guy who was an economics student with the opposite politics to me and was in the debating society - worst combo ever. We ended up being together for a year after drunkenly hooking up after a particularly heated pub argument and it was a whole year of arguing, him being patronising and telling me all my views were wrong and he was an all-knowing god. He was crap in bed too, unsurprisingly selfish, no idea why I stayed with him for so long!
It worked out well in the end though because a few months after we broke up we were at the same event and I was still feeling really crappy about seeing him so I got really drunk and hit on the bartender - who has now been my DP for 5 years Grin

blackheartsgirl · 12/02/2021 11:39

13 years with one
Rough as fuck, like spitting everywhere, couldn't control sneezes so used to spray snot everywhere. Sneezed on my friends wall once..ugh omg. Threw condoms out of windows at first..put a stop to that one.

Turned out to be a lazy, workshy that but I loved him yes yes I know. Had 2 kids with him but finally got away after he turned into an aggressive arsehole. Ohh he had all his tooth removed by 30..he had a phobia about brushing them, his teeth grew mould they were that bad. I KNOW. What the hell was I thinking.

Thankfully I'm with someone amazing now. With teeth.

SummerOfComedy · 12/02/2021 11:40

Many years ago I met someone Ina nightclub. He came back to the house with me (where I lived with family) and I invited him in.
I thought everyone was in bed.
He started to get amorous and began to undress himself. He was stark naked on the couch trying to get me to jump on him when I heard the front door unlock. He jumped up and ran into the kitchen,through the garden and into the shed. Still naked.
Mum and dad came in. I didn't know what to say. I stood there, fully dressed and tried to explain. My mum then gathered his clothes and walked to the shed were he was and explained to him that 'she had grown sons and had seen it all before' the door opened, he grabbed his clothes and came back into the house.
Next thing, he makes himself quite comfortable and chatted to my parents like nothing had happened.
After a while, I showed him the door and he asked for a date.
I just had to laugh.
😬

Beyondfedupnow · 12/02/2021 11:45

Some of these are awful. Luckily I have never had an abusive relationship, never really met a wrong un until a couple of years ago.
We parted ways after 18 months due to his pathological lying, I have never known anyone to blatantly lie so much. Respected local businessman too. Utterly bizarre.

LilyRose88 · 12/02/2021 11:52

There's three. First one was the guy I married when I was pretty young. He gave up his job to retrain, lied about being eligible for a student grant, sponged off me financially and cheated on me when I was pregnant.

The second one was an abusive alcoholic. He was violent and nasty when he had had a drink.

The last and final arsehole I ever had a relationship with was a narcissist with a very average penis who thought he was very well endowed, and told me so regularly. He was pretty bad in bed too. For some unknown reason he managed to get me to agree to him moving in with me after 6 months, at which point he promptly had a nervous breakdown (allegedly) and gave up work. This became a pattern throughout our five year relationship. He was a controlling abusive dickhead who blamed his behaviour on an ever expanding portfolio of mental health issues and breakdowns. To this day I am convinced that he had no mental health issues at all, he was just a controlling arsehole. I finally managed to end the relationship four years ago and look back at my time with him with a mixture of disbelief and horror.

Berline · 12/02/2021 11:56

I was 20, he 25 so not a dodgy age gap but big enough for me to think he knew better. We dated 4 years.
He was still at home and unemployed. I was young so it didn't bother me too much. He'd go quiet for months for no reason, sex wouldn't happen. I thought there was something wrong with me!
One time we were supposed to have Sunday lunch round my mum's and he just turned and left on the steps.
He'd also on occasion make really inappropriate comments which ended up with me upending my drink on his head.
But he was very sweet. He dumped me but would still come round to see me for a few months afterwards.
I bumped into him a few years ago and to be honest I still felt quite fond of him.
Turns out he's diagnosed autistic. Properly diagnosed not just him saying so. His life has been disastrous: forever unemployed apart from the short-lived job, moved in first woman whose self-esteem was low enough to take him in. THIS relationship disastrous.
He's still a sweet guy and now I understand him better, we've become good friends, but as a boyfriend? Absolute rubbish.
I help him keep his messy house under control and he cooks me nice meals.

ttigerlilly · 12/02/2021 12:00

The one who came back from the pub drunk, pinned me down and gave me a black eye, then went out for dinner at his mates straight after.
Delightful man. My life's biggest regret is doing nothing about it - I loved him so much that I wanted to protect his reputation, and I was young and clearly in denial. The only person who was hurt in the long run was me. Pretty sure his current girlfriend is either making the same mistake as I did or doesn't have a clue what he can be like.

DNHandTNS · 12/02/2021 12:03

A narcissistic abuser who was addicted to prostitutes and cottaging for gay sex, yet managed to convince most people that he was an upstanding member of society and that it was me with the problem.

I dumped his sorry ass years ago.

thosetalesofunexpected · 12/02/2021 12:03

@Namechanged2021

Your ex boyfriend sounds like a right Arsehole shit individual !

God he even created a scene drama at your Dads funeral !
Fucking head case !

He should be locked up really.

Glad you got rid of him for good.

orlaquiver · 12/02/2021 12:10

I was 16 he was 21.
Dumped me on my birthday, Valentines Day, day before important exam.
Would tell me how all his male friends slagged me off and all the female friends would try in on with him. (So I would never talk to them and find out all the bollocks he was telling me)
Would tell me he would pick me up from places and just go no contact leaving me stranded (before mobile phones)
Would tell me he would pick me up from job that finished in early hours and then turn up telling me he was over the limit. I would have no choice but to get in the car.
Would tell me he ran over cats for fun
He later went to prison for drink driving and putting someone in a coma.
He was a knob and 20 years later I still regret that he was my first boyfriend.
I remember how it ended when I let myself in and found him in bed with someone else. He denied right in front of me that I was his girlfriend and said I was just a nutter. He also said - if you are going to hit me do it now.
I didn't.
I left it 5 minutes until he wasn't expecting it, then landed the only and most perfect punch I have ever thrown in my life.
My dad who is the quietest most gentle man who never swears ever saw it from the car. He leant out of the window and shouted -YOU DESERVED THAT YOU FUCKWIT !!!!!
I recall getting back into the front seat and he just turned to me and said,
Well done my love xxxx

cricketmum84 · 12/02/2021 12:19

There was an awful one before I met my now DH. He hated my family, hated me smoking or having a glass of wine so he drew up a chart of the times and length of time I could go see my parents and if I "behaved" he would increase it the following week as a treat. Dickhead here actually went along with it.

He came down with a migraine every time we were seeing my family, family events etc so we always had to leave after an hour.

He was a grade A wanker.

hellswelshy · 12/02/2021 12:33

I have so many I haven't time to tell you about them all, but put it this way..I had lost faith in men till I met my lovely dh and I'm holding on tight to him! I put some of it down to bad behaviour in their 20s, something I was guilty of too. But a few of them I feel so cross I stayed with them so long, what a waste of time Angry

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