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Tell me about the worst boyfriend you ever had and why?

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whatsnewpussycat777 · 11/02/2021 19:12

Mine was a year younger in high school and kissed like a fcking hoover.

I got slagged for that for like forever.

Grin
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whatsnewpussycat777 · 11/02/2021 21:20

Erotic literature 😂😂😂😂

I'm in the mood for a sausage sandwich, is that bad? 😂

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whatsnewpussycat777 · 11/02/2021 21:22

@Letsallscreamatthesistene

Small dicks seem to be common here. Except my ex had an anaconda dick. That thing was massive. It was like a wall of flesh. Didnt stop him being any less of a twat though.
Wall of flesh 😂😂😂😂😂
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Holothane · 11/02/2021 21:26

Oh yes my ex had a tiny thing, said it didn’t matter it was tiny it how you used it, I used to howl at that he had no clu at all.

StressedTired · 11/02/2021 21:29

Had been living together for 6 months. When out one day we bumped into his ex, who he was clearly still obsessed with. He introduced me to her as his flatmate. We broke up there and then!

Namechanged2021 · 11/02/2021 21:29

My first boyfriend when I was 17 and he was 21. He was abusive, controlling and aggressive. He spat in my face, stole my phone, tried to turn friends against me. He made a scene at my Dad's funeral because he wasn't getting attention. He was a vile human being that I'm convinced is a psychopath.

TheVampiresWife · 11/02/2021 21:32

I had one who genuinely believed that aliens built the pyramids and their spaceships were still inside them. He also had a 'spirit guide' who he would chat to. We would be in company, say, at a friend's for dinner, and he would suddenly say 'Ah yes, the infra red is vibrating, tell them to come through' or something equally random to mid air (the infra red thing is a direct quote). The guide was called Darren (over 6000 years old incidentally, who knew Darren was a popular bronze age name) and they used to have private jokes - ex would often crack up laughing for no apparent reason, except there was a reason, and it was Darren's wicked sense of humour. I was always told the jokes were too intelligent for me and I wouldn't understand them so I never got to hear them sadly. Ex was also obsessed with cleanliness and would insist I bathed twice a day and did spot checks to make sure I was clean enough throughout the day, if not I was advised to have another bath because the spirits wouldn't like it and my dirt would mess up lines of communication.

For someone so other worldly he clearly wasn't above the temptations of the flesh because the man was a walking fucking gland. I once found half a packet of condoms in his bag when he came back from a weekend staying with his friend and he quite blithely admitted that he'd had sex 'with a few ladies' but I had no right to complain because the fact he used condoms proved he loved me and didn't want me to catch anything from them.

Last straw was when he told me he was marrying a girl so she could get British citizenship, she'd have to move in with us so it looked real and they'd have to go on honeymoon. But it was ok, she was paying him £2,000 and I could have £100 of it to buy myself a treat.

I was only 18 and had not a clue about anything - I was new to London and figured I was just being terribly unsophisticated for not being cool with it all. We were together for two years altogether. I can laugh about it now, almost three decades on!

Gcnq · 11/02/2021 21:33

Haha some of these are so grim!

I've only had three proper relationships and they've all had their failings but thankfully none have been properly abusive or completely sexually repressed.

My first boyfriend was a gamer. He gave all the "I love you" stuff but I basically had a relationship with the back of his head.
I was lucky to get any attention from him at all away from his computer and I was grateful for pot noodles in front of "Friends" for half an hour!

Second bf had a criminal father who'd spent a long time in jail while he was growing up. He'd managed to father 2 children to a woman who was then a single mother. He barely saw his children and repeatedly justified his neglectful behaviour by saying "well I grew up without a dad".

Thankfully my third and final relationship is great apart from your very normal and minor everyday problems!

Bettyboop82 · 11/02/2021 21:36

These stories are hilarious 😂

Soboredofcorona · 11/02/2021 21:39

A guy I was shagging kept insisting he was my boyfriend. I kept telling him he wasn’t. He’d get more and more involved with me, I’d say we should stop sleeping together and he said he’d back off.

This went on for a while.......

He lived with him mum and I told him we couldn’t live together if he was my boyfriend, until he had shown me he could be independent, as I knew he’d have me doing all the washing, cooking etc.

He told me he had moved out and was living in a flat share, told me all about his flat mates, how they annoyed him, their jobs etc. He took me to the block and pointed out his room, but said I couldn’t come in as they weren’t expecting anyone and were busy rearranging the flat. After a few weeks of excuses, he admitted it was all lies and he was still at home!

He was obsessed with arsenal and spent all his wages on games and beer. He didn’t drive, as I did, he said he didn’t need to.

He was a good shag though........

Runmybathforme · 11/02/2021 21:46

@livefornaps

His cock was tiny like a chipolata and so he only liked to do it from behind, with me bent over a countertop and all I would hear was a sweaty and flaccid slap-slap-slap "UUUH, UUH-UUHHH!!!" and it would all be over in the same space of time that it took you to read that. Then he would whisper in my ear (he could barely reach my ear) "love to bum ya, baby". I should point out, we never did anal, he just liked to delude himself that he did. He would immediately flop out, it was always all too much for him, excitement-wise, so he would then pass out like anaemic fetus on the floor. I would have to prod him with my foot in order to revive him to get him to leave my fucking house - every time.
You’ve made my day ! I pictured it all in my mind. My only bad one was with a guy who was very well endowed. He’d already told me before we DTD that he was worried that I would hurt him as “ he was so big , and I’d be too small “ ! !! When we eventually got round to it, he really was as big as he said ( think girth ). I was careful when I was on top, but could sense he was being cautious. The next day, he messaged me to say he was worried I was “ too small for him, but it was ok because he had a device I could insert regularly to make me bigger down there “. Dumped him immediately, he then accused me of using him.
BlueLikeASmurf · 11/02/2021 21:49

He was a bit older than me and very cool for 1982 when I was 15. A bit of a goth with a trendy dyed black hair do. I was smitten. We liked the same music and got along really well.

Until our first date, which apparently required me to act as look out while he stole records from HMV and Virgin. Fuck that! I was more scared of doing anything illegal, and my parent's reaction to me being caught doing anything illegal, than my attraction to him. I legged it and caught the bus home, whilst he was in full on theft mode and happily shoving records into his bag, and never saw or spoke to him again.

Justtakeyourtime · 11/02/2021 21:51

Name changed for this because I have told this story before.

The poundstretcher shitter. Yes that's right, a boyfriend of mine took a shit in poundstretcher. In a carrier bag. The public toilet was a minute away.

This boyfriend was weird as hell. As for the poundstretcher story, he started crying because he needed to go. However the public toilets which were 2 floors up in the shopping centre were unsuitable in his mind, so in his words 'I will just have to find a quiet corner'. So he did. And left it there afterwards for some poor shop worker paid on minimum wage to find.

He also had a pathological hatred of onions and garlic. This went beyond the usual food dislikes. Everyone has something they dont like. However he would refuse to eat food if it had been cooked in something that had touched an onion even post washing up, wouldnt eat off a plate that had touched an onion so had his own plates, would run past the things in the supermarket , was extremely controlling about what I could eat. We went on a 4 night holiday to Paris and he filled his suitcase full of cans of beans and sausages and white sliced bread. Wouldnt let me eat at any cafe or bakery incase I contaminated him....

I dumped him after 6 months or so because I just wanted a bit of normality in my life and no more fucking beans and sausages or white bread

Norwayreally · 11/02/2021 21:53

Easy. He abused and bullied me for the entirety of our relationship. He was a ketamine addict, something I didn’t know until we’d been dating for maybe 2 months. He kept saying he’d quit but then just didn’t, sometimes I’d turn up to his house and he’d just be sitting in the corner staring at the wall and he wouldn’t realise I’d even gone for about 2 hours. He was in a ket hole. I’ve never taken drugs in my life so no idea what attracted me to him or why I stayed with him so long. I was young and lacked self esteem. He threatened to kill me a few times, held a knife to my neck, got quite vicious during sex sometimes, throttled me and basically just wore me down with incredibly subtle insults and remarks he masked as jokes.

When I finally left he proceeded to stalk me for months. Kept finding other phones including phone boxes to call me once I’d blocked him, posted letters through my door, turned up at my house a few times and just sat in his car to unnerve me then he started following me to work every day. He’d pull up alongside me and shout things at me or beep his horn. Eventually escalated because I’d ignored him for so long and he obviously couldn’t stand it so assaulted me in the street in broad daylight. I phoned the police, they cautioned him and I thankfully never ever heard from him again.

FancySomeChips · 11/02/2021 22:18

The one who dumped me for my best friend.

The one who was 33 and I was 17 (just).

The one who dumped me when I was pregnant.

The one who stalked my flat and I had to get an injunction against.

The one who turned out to be a kiddie fiddler and was probably with me just to get access to my kids (shudder, I will never forgive myself for that). Dumped him immediately- obviously- after he turned up on my doorstep with his support worker and revealed this nightmare.

The one who was living a double life and he messed up -arranged to meet us both on a night out.

The one that moved to Canada after telling me two days before.

I am the worst judge of character.

AcrossthePond55 · 11/02/2021 22:21

I guess you'd technically say he was an ex as it was part of his 'I'm breaking up with you speech'. Very seriously he told me "Now, I know you're devastated because I've broken up with you, but I don't want you to be thinking of committing suicide over me". He. Was. SERIOUS!! As if!

He was a shit in other ways and I would have gotten over him soon anyway once he was gone, but that comment made any 'devastation' I felt turn off like a cold water tap!

He had a chipolata penis, too. I used to tell him 'it ain't the meat, it's the motion'. But that was a lie. There's no real motion if there's no real meat.

whatsnewpussycat777 · 11/02/2021 22:27

There ain't No motion if there ain't no meat 😂

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Regretsy · 11/02/2021 22:28

probably the one who had another girlfriend but professed to love me, turned up on my doorstep with suitcase and moved in (I was young!), then moved abroad to be with girlfriend. Sent me yearly christmas emails of longing for a number of years, culminating in him telling me he’d thrown his girlfriends goldfish out of the window during a fight and she’d called the police on him. Why he needed to tell me this I’ll never know, but it brought much hilarity to me and my friends. I miss those emails.Grin

TheNortherner · 11/02/2021 22:35

This thread made me peruse my dating life over the past 25 years and boy I have totally crap judgement, not one turned out to be a gem. Probably the worst would have to be the one i married Hmm

Whatwouldscullydo · 11/02/2021 22:52

I had one who was far to full on too fast. I was 16 I think 17 at the most. He was 26 I think. Far too touchy feely. I dont do pdas or holding hands. Go piss up a lamppost with the other dogs of that's what u want. Every time we went out he'd have to stop the car some where and shove his tongue down my throat. Terrible kisser. Hated it. Called far to often to. Had to get my mum to dump him Blush

Then there was another one who ghosted me suddenly and I never knew why it was weird. Wasn't serious didn't even bother me really, and although there was some initial chemistry , well let's just say it would have been better to be left imagining. Rather than find out there was nothing there to imagine.

I dont have much luck with guys really

NymphInYellow · 11/02/2021 23:52

Not the worst, not even really a boyfriend either, but still makes me laugh to remember. I'd been on about 3 dates with a friend of a friend, wasn't really feeling it, but friend was encouraging me to give him a chance. Met him after work one night and he's moaning about his knee hurting. Keeps going on and on about it, and eventually rolls up his jeans to show me the scrawniest white leg and hairiest, knobbliest knee I have ever seen. I knew then and there that I never wanted to see any other parts of him naked, so that was the end of that 😂

pumpkinpie01 · 12/02/2021 00:26

An absolute idiot who chased me for weeks , I was quite flattered and he was very popular so agreed to go on a date. Him and his wife had split up a year before after she cheated. She would not leave us alone and he was so so weak he never stood up to her. she put a cigarette out on his hand once as he was holding my hand, she punched him , damaged his car and he did absolutely nothing . I took her to court after she beat me up and he turned up to support her even thou her current boyfriend was there with her too !

Rainingagaininseattle · 12/02/2021 00:56

I had a boyfriend when I was a teenager who licked my ears out every time we kissed and I was too embarrassed to say how disgusting it was.

TheUnquestionedAnswer · 12/02/2021 01:31

I was about 16 and went out for a very short time with a lad my age. His mother came knocking at my door, accusing me of stealing money from her. Anyone who knows me, would know that would be the last thing I'd do. It was him of course, and he told her it was me. I didn't know anything about it. I think I'd only been to his house once.

SquizzaMama · 12/02/2021 01:43

When I was 15, I was dating a 23 year old. This was a LONG time ago. His family werent happy at all and it didnt occur to me until a lot later in life that this wasnt quite right.

We bought a house together when I was 18 and he was 26. But quite soon after, I found (broke into a suitcase) some evidence of him liking porn with teenage girls. Devastated. It had never occured to me...

He screwed me over emotionally and financially. We live and learn...

cherrypop86 · 12/02/2021 08:44

From the age of 17 to 20 I went out with this really boring guy who was the same age. He had a weekend job in the media that he was obsessed with and would sometimes volunteer to work 16 hours a day on days like my birthday and valentines day ( for free and no one asked him to). He told me he would never do oral sex as it wasn't something his grandparents ever did. We would get into bed and he would turn his back on me. Just really uptight and boring and thought he was better than other people when in actual fact he made my life a misery. I ended up meeting a horny Aussie guy and he made me see the world differently to put it lightly.

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