What's the worst advice you've had from MN?

[Dinkydonkytonk]

I have personally received some good advice from this site, however with all the LTB! and other extreme reactions I want to know if anyone has had some truly awful advice from MN?
Or did you follow advice but it turned out to be the wrong decision?
Or did you really LTB but regretted it?

Oh god food threads

Peas are literal sugar bombs and are so unhealthy and how dare you feed them to your children

People seem to think kids (and adults) can live on a bread (whole meal and baked at home only) and water

Everything else is just sugar food

@Soubriquet

Oh god food threads

Peas are literal sugar bombs and are so unhealthy and how dare you feed them to your children

People seem to think kids (and adults) can live on a bread (whole meal and baked at home only) and water

Everything else is just sugar food

No carbs allowed 😂

I remember posting about hurting my leg, I’d done it a few weeks before. I had several pages of ‘it’s not an emergency’. Like an idiot I listened.
I had to have my leg plastered for 10 weeks due to rupturing my Achilles heel.
If I’d have gone straight away I could have possibly avoided that.

God, yes, never seen so much disordered eating as I have here. You can NEVER lose weight if you're not low carb. Just not possible. If you're veggie or vegan, you eat nothing but processed junk, meat and dairy are better. And yes, everything but meat and dairy or perhaps a few choice veggies are nothing but sugar.

@x2boys

Yes the legal advice ,I'm not a lawyer either so have no idea about the law but I wouldn't dish out" legal advice" honestly I have seen posters asking for legal advice and ignoring the ,actual solicitors giving advice because it's not what they want to hear and hanging on to the words of posters who have no clue because they are saying what the poster wants to hear .

The same with the medical advice offered here. Some of it is downright dangerous. Also the repeated advice to go to A&E to speed up a scan or test that a GP is arranging, not what A&E is for or often even able to do

[quote icecreamgirl94]@GoodbyeH thank you! She actually had the baby a few days ago, a little girl and they’re both staying with my dad for the time being. All going well so far.
@Learningtofeminist thank you! Yeah some very angry people turned up on the thread in the end, it’s weird how no matter how many times you make the situation so clear that a 5 year old would understand it, some people still choose not to see past the chip on their own shoulder. I got some helpful advice as well though so can’t complain too much. We’re all muddling through as best we can at the moment.[/quote]
@icecreamgirl94

Congratulations! Auntie Ice-cream

@x2boys

You have to take it all with a pinch of salt ,lots of posters state their opinions as fact even when they no absolutely nothing about a topic they state things they think should happen rather than what does I always cringe when the second wife posts something about the ex wife and or the kids from the first marriage because you just know the poster will be torn to shreds for having the audacity to be a second wife and the first wife and or the kids will always be in the right regardless of how unreasonable they might be being 🤣

I’m the second wife and have had this. The ex rang the passport office and tried to cancel the kids passports so they couldn’t come away with us a few years ago. However, somehow she came away looking like a saint and we came away as if we’d done something wrong! I just couldn’t believe the vitriol I got on that thread.

Lots of bitter people projecting I think @BigPaperBag ,on Mumsnet second wives/ step parents are always wrong as are the Dad's no matter what the circumstances!

Mum had found a gun under her sons bed she was desperate and wanted to do right thing all round
She was told to put it through the dishwasher ~ total crackers advice

@houserefurb I am aware of that, but the OP made it very clear that she had no money and a job she was about to lose and that she couldn't afford a child

@houserefurb I probably didn't make it clear on my original comment that I understand the advice can be medically correct and can help, but not great advice given the OP's specific circumstances which were mentioned in her opening post

I am not an employment law expert, but I have seen so much employment advice that is totally wrong.

Posters spout it with such a certain tone.

@rawalpindithelabrador

God, yes, never seen so much disordered eating as I have here. You can NEVER lose weight if you're not low carb. Just not possible. If you're veggie or vegan, you eat nothing but processed junk, meat and dairy are better. And yes, everything but meat and dairy or perhaps a few choice veggies are nothing but sugar.

Plus if you eat more than half a bag of salad you’re a greedy overweight pig.

I am not an employment law expert, but I have seen so much employment advice that is totally wrong.

Advice that would make the OP's situation worse and end up with a dismissal in many cases.

Sell and move out of the house that I'd just bought, at the start of a pandemic.

The "you MUST be married before you do anything like live together or have a baby' posters get me. Especially when they all pile on some poor poster asking an innocent question about something completely unrelated. Marriage isn't the be all and end all. Yes I get that it's better for some circumstances but not everyone will be better off married.

@BeHappyAndSmile

The "you MUST be married before you do anything like live together or have a baby' posters get me. Especially when they all pile on some poor poster asking an innocent question about something completely unrelated. Marriage isn't the be all and end all. Yes I get that it's better for some circumstances but not everyone will be better off married.

Yes agreed - I do think MN does a good job of busting the 'common law wife' type myths that still unhappily persist and in firmly opening the eyes of the gullible/naive who are sailing happily off on the La-La land ship of 'I'll have babies and be a SAHM living his house with no names on the deed, no income, career prospects (I always hated my job anyway), pension, life insurance or wills, it'll be great! we're a modern couple, marriage is just a piece of paper, DCs are more of a commitment anyway, it'll all be fine, we'll never break up, nothing bad will happen and I'm sure he'll propose one day, he's 'traditional' after all la la la la I'm not listening to you nay sayers'.

But I do think it's swung a bit too far the other way and like you say posters are jumped on in irrelevant threads and berated for not being married like we're back in the 1950s. And god only knows what would happen if a man was fool enough to venture on here and admit he doesn't plan on marrying his partner even though they have DC.

As in most things MN it's the nuance that's lacking, both men and women can have perfectly valid reasons for not marrying even if they have or plan to have children, yes this can leave one party more exposed than the other in various ways (and not just the woman either, a mother can make it hell for the father to see his DCs if they're unmarried and he isn't on the BC), yes this can mean unfairness, yes choosing to be a SAHM can make you financially vulnerable but equally it can place a really high burden on the breadwinner, and if both parties are fully aware of the implications and have chosen this path then leave them be - or certainly don't derail their thread with your unasked for opinion on it!

@Avelandra

It wasn't to myself, but on a recent thread a poster was talking about their really severe endometriosis and if there was anything she could do as other treatment options hadn't been very successful. She mentioned that she was really struggling to work due to the pain, and was only managing to work a few days a week and hence was also really struggling for money. One of the replies recommended she have a baby to solve it

I have endo and had surgery.

After my DCs my symptoms went so it's actually not bad advice. I believe doctors do recommend that having a baby can help it.

[quote Avelandra]@houserefurb I probably didn't make it clear on my original comment that I understand the advice can be medically correct and can help, but not great advice given the OP's specific circumstances which were mentioned in her opening post[/quote]
Ah, that makes more sense. Yes, broke with possibly no job soon, have a baby! That'll fix it all.

A relative put their finger between my newborn baby’s lips (not great) but people on MN were telling me to call the police

Poster asking how to fix a clogged toilet & gets told to put all kinds of horrible things down it: lye, coke, washing soda... no one mentioned a plunger until a plumber turned up about 3 pages in.

Yes I have read those blocked toilet threads hilarious,a mop with a plastic bag over the mop head also works a treat if no plunger available 🤣

The constipation threads annoy the hell out of me ,there Will be an op posting about what sounds like faecal impaction and posters ,post all kinds of weird and wonderful advice ,I have a child with chronic constipation and faecal impaction is a serious and sometimes life threatening condtion a spoonful of prunes ain't going to magically cure it 🙄

I had to delete MN during the first lockdown due to the sheer hysteria against buying my first home. Posters said the market was going to crash, house prices go down etc and then the stamp duty holiday happened. So glad I went ahead before prices went up, deposits needed increased, banks refusing to lend etc