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Surprise in your rose garden - Rightmove

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Chanandlerbong01 · 18/01/2021 21:51

Just browsing Rightmove earlier, glad I read the full description. Is this even legal?

www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/property-76868103.html

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Bluntness100 · 19/01/2021 16:01

@Swiftjogger

It’s all over the papers now and I feel so sorry for the relatives if they read the comments about it. It was the owner’s dying wish to be buried there and they honoured that.
I’m sorry, but I don’t. They should have done it discreetly in a corner area and fenced it off, done it nicely. And then reduced the price accordingly. Not bumped it up.
Swiftjogger · 19/01/2021 16:06

@Bluntness100 clearly you don’t.
I hope there are no grieving relatives reading any of the attempts at humour online.
It’s not their fault a Rightmove advert got picked up and sent all over gossip sites.

Bluntness100 · 19/01/2021 16:08

I’m being serious.

LegoAndLolDolls · 19/01/2021 16:33

@Puzzledandpissedoff

... had someone die in my house which is build on old chapel land so highly probably a graveyard before it was developed

Very possibly, yes, but at least an ancient graveyard doesn't usually involve the chance of a living family popping round to visit

Exactly. I knew all this before I bought it with intentions of extending. Having old unmarked remains moved isnt the same as a freshly buried body which was pre informed off in the exchange either.

There is house near me that someone was murdered in. No one is morally bound to buy it and no one has for five years since. Rightly or wrongly it upsets some people. Just facts of life

Catawaul · 19/01/2021 18:09

If a relative of mine wanted to be buried in their own garden I'd tell them not to be daft! It's sad looking at the photos. I bet he decorated the pink and yellow bedrooms, it looks like it was a lovely family home at one time.

SoupDragon · 19/01/2021 18:19

They should have done it discreetly in a corner area

The only corners they own are against the house.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 19/01/2021 18:42

The council should've said no. It's a fucking end terrace in Leeds.
If the family were keeping the house it wouldn't be so bad, but to have it on the market as soon as he's in the ground is just horrible.
They knew they'd be bloody selling it.

MaggieFS · 19/01/2021 18:45

What will happen if the house won't sell and the relations want to hold out for this confusingly high price? I guess ultimately anything will sell if the price is low enough? I feel sorry for the neighbours in the mean time.

gettingolderbutcooler · 19/01/2021 18:47

Ew. Yuk!

QueenOfPain · 19/01/2021 18:49

Do you think he did it deliberately because he didn’t want them selling his house and knew they’d have trouble after this disclosure?

Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/01/2021 19:09

I guess ultimately anything will sell if the price is low enough?

Very true, and as a PP said it'll probably be bought by a landlord who'll simply not mention this to tenants

As for relatives possibly objecting to this being talked about ... well, I guess that's the chance you take when picking a rather unusual path. After all the deceased didn't exactly bury himself, and unless the request was some kind of condition for something else I'm afraid I'd probably have ignored it

WinstonWolf · 19/01/2021 19:23

I find it really sad that we've become so disassociated with death that this is viewed with revulsion.

isseys4xmastinselcats · 19/01/2021 20:04

this one has made the daily mirror theres a feed on facebook

Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/01/2021 20:12

this one has made the daily mirror

That'll help with the sale of the house - not

WinstonWolf FWIW I agree about our disassociation with death, but isn't it a question of degree and societal norms? Shout me down if I'm wrong, but I can't think of too many other cultures who bury their dead immediately outside their own homes

ArosAdraDrosDolig · 19/01/2021 20:16

Does nobody else think it’s lovely to be buried in your own garden and return to the earth there, feed the soil and become part of the garden at the house you lived in all your life? And to become part of that while life goes on around you, children playing around you and barbecues happening etc?

I find it hard to understand why people think it’s an issue or why children playing above him would be a problem. It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

I don’t think the family would expect to come and visit his grave. If they wanted that they would keep the house in the family? I’m sure they realise they can’t keep intruding into someone else’s home.

Also sad how many people say they would ignore their relative’s wish. When they rusted you to carry it out and it’s what they wanted? I’m glad this deceased man’s family had more respect for him.

Death is part of life, why should it be kept separate?

ArosAdraDrosDolig · 19/01/2021 20:17

I also think the speculation is disrespectful to his relatives.

BoJoHoNo · 19/01/2021 20:39

Does nobody else think it’s lovely to be buried in your own garden and return to the earth there, feed the soil and become part of the garden at the house you lived in all your life? I can see where you're coming from, but if I was set on this and had a small garden, I'd ask to be cremated and have my ashes scattered there rather than being buried.

Bluntness100 · 19/01/2021 20:56

@ArosAdraDrosDolig

Does nobody else think it’s lovely to be buried in your own garden and return to the earth there, feed the soil and become part of the garden at the house you lived in all your life? And to become part of that while life goes on around you, children playing around you and barbecues happening etc?

I find it hard to understand why people think it’s an issue or why children playing above him would be a problem. It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

I don’t think the family would expect to come and visit his grave. If they wanted that they would keep the house in the family? I’m sure they realise they can’t keep intruding into someone else’s home.

Also sad how many people say they would ignore their relative’s wish. When they rusted you to carry it out and it’s what they wanted? I’m glad this deceased man’s family had more respect for him.

Death is part of life, why should it be kept separate?

If it’s a huge several acre garden where someone could be buried in am area that’s discreetly done, it’s fine.

Smack bang in the middle of a tiny garden on a run down terrace, nope, I don’t think it’s lovely at all. And it’s not about the dead person after they are buried, no one wants to be having bbqs or have their kids playing football on some previous owners grave.

I can’t believe you think it’s lovely, I certainly don’t.

Bluntness100 · 19/01/2021 21:00

@WinstonWolf

I find it really sad that we've become so disassociated with death that this is viewed with revulsion.
Death is seldom pleasant, having someone you’ve never met buried mere feet from your back door and smack bang in the middle of your tiny garden is not something many people will view with anything other than discomfort.

The odds of rhem being able to sell that house now are remote. Unless they seriously drop the price. It’s significantly devalued. They need to put it on for 75 and maybe even as low as 50. Very very few people would like to live there, irrelevant of who claims it’s “lovely”

user1485291191 · 19/01/2021 21:07

I know this area, let us say anything goes and nothing would surprise me. Many a pony kept in the front garden around there.

TableFlowerss · 19/01/2021 22:05

@ArosAdraDrosDolig

Does nobody else think it’s lovely to be buried in your own garden and return to the earth there, feed the soil and become part of the garden at the house you lived in all your life? And to become part of that while life goes on around you, children playing around you and barbecues happening etc?

I find it hard to understand why people think it’s an issue or why children playing above him would be a problem. It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

I don’t think the family would expect to come and visit his grave. If they wanted that they would keep the house in the family? I’m sure they realise they can’t keep intruding into someone else’s home.

Also sad how many people say they would ignore their relative’s wish. When they rusted you to carry it out and it’s what they wanted? I’m glad this deceased man’s family had more respect for him.

Death is part of life, why should it be kept separate?

And mean while, back in the real world.....
TableFlowerss · 19/01/2021 22:06

It’s nice in theory, but not great in practice.

Bargebill19 · 19/01/2021 22:11

It’s featured in the daily Mail online.

ArosAdraDrosDolig · 20/01/2021 00:08

Maybe your world, tableflowers, not mine or that of the people I know, thank goodness.

Glenorma · 20/01/2021 00:16

Presumably the buyer will need to pay to have the body removed. The house is definitely worth less but could be a bargain for someone who’s willing to go to the hassle of having him exhumed.