But decisions made following the death of a loved one, especially when sudden and unexpected, often are
Actually this is very true, and can’t be underestimated. It is no where near the same, but when my last dog was pts, he had become very ill and was only four, I was seriously devastated, he was like a child to me, I buried his ashes in the garden, and got a little Labrador statue, to mark the spot, it’s a very large garden, but I put it some place I could see it, very close to the house.
Now three or four years later I regret the statue, becayse every time I look out the window I look at his grave, but at the time it was really important to me. Loosing a child or parent is much worse, so the decisions made in the height of grief may not be the one you make if you were thinking sensibly.