Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who wasn’t who you thought they were...where it’s actually frightening?

[Trinketlle]

Just wondering how common this is. It’s happened to my twice. I’m very nervous about trusting people as a result of it.

The latest was someone I lived with and

...someone I lived with for 4 years. Spent every night together bar a few here and there. Very close. Thought I knew him inside out. He was kind, caring.

One day I broke my leg and was off work for 6 weeks. It was like some sort of crazy situation where he suddenly couldn’t cope. Didn’t like that I struggled to get upstairs, was demanding and annoyed about lack of sex, was actually cruel to me about food and wouldn’t cook etc. It was like a nightmare from the man I thought I knew, ‘jokingly’ pushed me in the bathroom. When I moved out I accidentally took a number of books belonging to him in a box that my mum has just filled up thinking they were all mine. As I unpacked it and set his aside to send back, there was a letter he had written (not addressed to anyone, sort of to himself) talking about how he had feelings for minors and was turned on by them. I was honestly so gobsmacked. I literally would never have had a clue.

I’m so anxious about people I meet now as I know that the smiling and seemingly normal people aren’t necessarily what they seem