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My brother has died

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twinklespells · 15/01/2021 19:33

He was 31. The police have said no suspicious circumstances. He struggled with his mental health. I have no idea how to get through the next few days. I'm worried about my mum and myself and how I'll cope looking after DD when I'm so upset. She's six months and never even got to meet him.

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Standrewsschool · 15/01/2021 19:35

Sorry for your loss.

bunwell · 15/01/2021 19:36

How awful. My heart goes out to you. You will get through this and your DD will bring you joy. You will be in my thoughts.

JustNotFunAnymore · 15/01/2021 19:36

There's a bereavement board where you may get some better support op. I'm sorry for your loss x

CaughtInTheCovid · 15/01/2021 19:37

I’m so sorry @twinklespells. Do you have a partner? Could someone else take the lead with DD for a few days to let you get your head around it all. I’m so sorry and if you need to see your mum at this time I’m sure everyone would understand.

Whichname98 · 15/01/2021 19:38

I'm so sorry to hear that. you must be in shock. Do you have any support or anyone close by to be with you? Here if you need to talk. I am sure more people will be along shortly to offer you a hand hold on here. Is your mum nearby ?

fitzbilly · 15/01/2021 19:41

Huge hug to you.

You will get through the days one minute at a time.

My brother died in April. It was a total shock. I didn't know how I'd manage to go on our how to make my parents pain go away. I couldn't.

It's awful. The grief. The guilt. The pain.

It does get easier though. The pain becomes less sharp, less all consuming.

Not an hour goes by when I don't think of him in some way. The pain is still there but it's manageable. Just.

Be kind to yourself.

Remember all the wonderful, funny, good memories.

I promise it gets easier. The pain will never leave you but you'll get through each day, and each day will bring with it a tiny bit more peace.

I'm so so sorry.

Lulu1919 · 15/01/2021 19:45

No wise words
So so sorry for your loss
Sending thoughts x

Slub · 15/01/2021 19:47

So sorry for your loss. Much love to you and your family 💐

Alittlelessthanuseless · 15/01/2021 19:48

So sorry for your loss 💐 and hugs xx

HelloThereMeHearties · 15/01/2021 19:49

How absolutely devastating for you all. So sorry for your loss

MyCatsSlave · 15/01/2021 19:50

So sorry for your loss x

weebarra · 15/01/2021 19:50

I'm so very very sorry. My sister died 18 months ago, through suicide. We still miss her so much.

Skylucy · 15/01/2021 19:53

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Sending you strength and peace.

MercedesDeMonteChristo · 15/01/2021 19:53

I scrolled past this thread because I lost my brother (34) two years ago. He also suffered with his mental health.

Let yourself grieve. It’s tough because you will want to hold it in for your mum but let yourself go through things. Without making this about me, I was angry for a really long time and I’ve only just allowed myself to be sad.

You will move forward, it will get easier to think about him, talk about him without feeling utterly distraught and bereft but let yourself feel whatever you need to, cry, scream - screaming was the only thing that made me feel sane which I thought was weird.

You will come through for your child. I promise.

Feel free to PM me if you think it will help.

Carysmatthews · 15/01/2021 19:54

I’m so so sorry this has happened.

letsdolunch321 · 15/01/2021 20:24

So sorry for your loss, you and your family must all feel numb.

Take it all one day at a time

Powerplant · 15/01/2021 20:26

I’m so very sorry for your loss 💐

PaperMonster · 15/01/2021 20:30

Oh lovey, that’s hard. So sorry. Be kind to yourself xxx

careermumofone · 15/01/2021 20:36

I’m very sorry for your loss. I lost my brother suddenly (in a car accident) when he was 26. He had a 2 year old boy at the time. I remember thinking that it was such a shock it would take the rest of my life to sink in and I still think that’s true, 7 years on. You will go through a rollercoaster of intense emotions and it’s very exhausting. But gradually it does get easier to live with and although you will always miss him, a feeling of normality will return and you’ll be able to feel happy and enjoy things again. I’m just very sorry you have to go through it as it’s absolutely devastating and it will always be tragic that he died so young.

borageforager · 15/01/2021 20:37

I’m so sorry.

Whatwouldnanado · 15/01/2021 20:42

Sending love and condolences.

swampytiggaa · 15/01/2021 20:49

I’m so very sorry for your loss 💕 I lost my brother to cancer a number of years ago and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. Be very kind to yourself and your beautiful baby will bring you comfort 💕

grapewine · 15/01/2021 20:55

Oh, that's incredibly tough. I'm so sorry.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 15/01/2021 20:56

I'm so sorry. May he rest in peace. Look after yourself, @twinklespells.

LizzieVereker · 15/01/2021 21:00

I’m terribly sorry OP 💐

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