My brother has died

[twinklespells]

He was 31. The police have said no suspicious circumstances. He struggled with his mental health. I have no idea how to get through the next few days. I'm worried about my mum and myself and how I'll cope looking after DD when I'm so upset. She's six months and never even got to meet him.

I aso sorry for your loss OP. I lost my brother too, two and a half years ago, totally out of the blue. You must be in shock, so be very kind to yourself and let others help you with mundane stuff so you have space to grieve. As others have said, your baby will bring you joy, but please take care of yourself especially the next few days. You deserve care and love and time.

My brother was found dead on New Years Day after not being seen or heard by his neighbours even though the house lights were on. After the police breaking in and finding him dead, the whole family are devastated. Sadly my two surviving brothers live abroad so cant come home for the funeral.

My heart with yours.

Fair winds and following seas, Dear Man. Fair winds and following seas.

I am so sorry for your loss.
@tillytoodles1 I am sorry for your loss too and that your brothers are unable to attend the funeral.

So sorry for your loss. Take it easy and be kind to yourself

I'm so sorry for your loss.
31 is so young.
I lost my Dad last year so I understand the restrictions concerning funerals.
Perhaps form a bubble with your immediate family so you can all support each other through this.

for you and your dear brother. Thinking of you both.

So sorry for your loss x

I am soiiooooooo sorry for your loss

My brother suffers with crippling mental ill health

I totally utterly feel for you

I’m so very sorry for all the sad losses here tonight.
I’m grieving myself.
I’ve just heard of the sudden death of a very close friend just two hours ago. He was like a brother to me. Thanks to covid and him living 6-7 hours away , I never got to see him this year.
Suddenly the world feels even more bleak tonight.

Of course I meant last year..

I wish I was close to help with with your dd. If I am - I would.

Pm me

I am so sorry for your loss.
My own DB is currently in a very dark place and I worry daily the same will happen.

My brother is a constant worry.

I often feel alone in this concern.

This thread is showing me that I am in fact not alone.

Thank you so much for replying everyone. I've come over all tired and am going to try to sleep. I will re read everything tomorrow.

I am so sorry for everyone else blighted by the loss of a loved one. It is comforting to know there are others who have bee or are in my shoes with their worries and their grief.

I'm so so sorry for your loss.

I am gutted for you 😭

So sorry for your loss OP

Please keep in contact,

You are definitely not alone

Even if you feel like it xx

I hope you sleep some

I'm so very sorry, OP.

Truly so sorry for your awful loss.

Much love to you.

Lots of people holding you through this

So sorry for your loss and so sorry its so hard to get help for mental health in this country.

See your Mum as much as you / she needs and look after yourselves.

That is very tragic news, Twinkle, and he was so young.
Try to take it as easy as you can with a young baby, for a while. Don't put any pressure on yourself. You're still in shock, it will take time to sink in and for you to grieve.

All I can say is I am so very sorry, also for the others on here who have lost loved ones.

So sorry for your loss xx

Oh love. I lost my brother (same age) suddenly 2 years ago. For now, just try to breathe and rest. You’ll probably zone out for a few weeks before it sinks in (mind’s way of protecting you). There’s no ‘right’ way to grieve- your mind might come up with some strange things (mine tried to tell me ‘well maybe you don’t even care that much’, which was 100% incorrect but made me feel horrible), so just try to ignore any bad thoughts. Just breathe sweetheart. It will always be so, so painful but life will grow around that hole and it will get easier x