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Has anyone’s dd NOT had the HPV vaccine at 12/13?

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Getbusywiththefizzie · 14/01/2021 10:08

A couple of dd’s friends are having their first hpv vaccine today.
I have had an in-depth conversation with her about the vaccine and what it does and how it will protect her in the future so she fully understands that it is the best thing for her future health and she has agreed to have it in a year or so.
She says she just isn’t ready for it yet.
Has anyone’s dd put off their vaccine at this age and had it done at a later date?

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loulouljh · 14/01/2021 10:17

My daughter is 12 and hasnt been offered it yet..

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Getbusywiththefizzie · 14/01/2021 10:23

Sorry, I should have said in my op that dd hasn’t yet been offered it yet although her two friends who are having it today are in the same year, same school which doesn’t make much sense.
I will enquire if we can get it privately in our area if she does miss her ‘slot’ whenever that may be?

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GlobeUs · 14/01/2021 11:19

Your DD cannot believe the gravity of her future health and protection of her future health at 12/13. You need to step up and be the parent here.

sproutsnbacon · 14/01/2021 11:22

I had it privately when it first came out in the uk as my age group weren't eligible. It cost over £400 and it was 3 trips to the nearest large city.
So I'd get it done in school if you can

2020canfuckitself · 14/01/2021 11:26

Mine dd had her first one but not her second

InspirationUnavailable · 14/01/2021 11:28

DD was one of the first school cohorts to have it. From what I remember she was a few years older - Y10 or 11. I don’t remember their being an option to have it done with the year below, so make sure to check that out as an actual possibility before you make the decision.

From what I remember, DD had no ill effects from it (although that didn’t stop most the girls claiming sore arms to get out of PE!)

formerbabe · 14/01/2021 11:31

she has agreed to have it in a year or so
She says she just isn’t ready for it yet

Sorry but as a parent I wouldn't be entertaining this. What on earth is going to be different in a year's time? That is not a valid reason..its absolutely nonsensical.

Zippy1510 · 14/01/2021 11:34

Why wouldn't she ready for a vaccine? We give them to babies to protect them against diseases they may encounter in the future. It doesn't mean you need to then become sexually active.

HappyFlamingo · 14/01/2021 11:37

I agree with previous posters. Your DD is below the age of medical consent, so it is up to you as a parent to make the decision for her.

Nittersing · 14/01/2021 11:42

Boys and girls have it here. My 3 all had it as per schedule. 1 of the step children hasn't had it as mum objected. We aren't sure on the reasons why though. There were no discernible side effects with any of the kids. They whinged way more about their sore arms after their tetanus boosters.

flipperdoda · 14/01/2021 11:44

I was in one of the first cohorts it was offered to and my parents refused to sign the consent slip so I didn't have it then. I've since had it as an adult but it wasn't easy to get on the nhs and I believe they no longer offer it at older ages for free.

I wish I'd had it done at the standard time - vaccines are so easy to get when you follow the normal timelines and (often) a right pain if you don't!

Unless she has a very compelling reason (not "I'm nervous of needles"/"my arm will hurt") I'd just explain to her that there's no guarantee she can have it later and therefore she'll have it now for her own health.

IncludeWomenInTheSequel · 14/01/2021 11:57

Isn't ready for it? How did she feel about her pre-school jabs?!

halcyondays · 14/01/2021 12:06

I’m not sure why it needs an in depth discussion or why anyone wouldn’t full ready for it. There’s no reason to wait a year. If you have it under a certain age, you need 2, but over a certain age you need 3 I think. I suppose she’s had her other jabs?

I have 2 dds, dd1 has had both hers and dd2 has had the first a few months ago. Hopefully she’ll be able to get the second in due course. They brought home the consent form, we filled it in, said they could read the leaflet for them, that was it.

haba · 14/01/2021 12:20

I believe there's a specific window they're supposed to have it in, so I don't see how she thinks she can leave it for a bit.

My DD has autism, and gets very upset and 'flappy' at medical procedures, particularly injections. I spoke to the HPV vaccination team, and they agreed it was fine to have it at the GP's surgery from the nurse there, so that's what we did. She had to have the follow up 12 months later too. GPs we're fine and didn't even query giving her the vaccine. I then had to ring the vaccination team again to confirm she's been done.
Do speak with the HPV team- school will have contact details- and I'm sure they can advise you. The team that come in are lovely, and have seen all the stress, anxiety etc that teenagers go through with mass vaccinations, they're very calming and reassuring.

Definitely get it done though.

EileenGC · 14/01/2021 12:25

I had it at 18. When I was 14 it had just been rolled out in my country (or the new variant of the vaccine had) and there were quite a few teenagers who made the news due to extreme secondary effects, a few died. My parents were clearly concerned. But this was a good 10 years ago and now we know how important and safe this vaccine is.

I had to have two doses instead of 1 but there were absolutely no issues. My younger sister had it when it was offered (12-13), so it's not like we're anti-vaxxers or something. I had no issues waiting until I was 18, but then I also had no sexual relationships during my teens, so that reduced my risk factors during those years.

I would advise your DD to have it, OP.

EdersonsSmileyTattoo · 14/01/2021 12:25

@GeorgiaOQueef DS(14) missed his second dose due to changing schools.

I contacted the School Nurses team at our local council and explained the situation and they arranged for him to have it done at our local clinic.

Maybe worth trying your local School Nurses team?

Twillow · 14/01/2021 12:35

Be aware that is nigh on impossible to get it later on if you miss it on the routine run.
Why is she saying she's not ready? Maybe she's confusing the vaccine with being ready for sexual activity?

Ansterdame · 14/01/2021 12:42

Totally agree with pp that she can’t choose when to have it. She needs to have it and as her mum you should make sure that it happens I think, in the same way that presumably you did for all her jabs when she was younger

LagneyandCasey · 14/01/2021 12:42

It's bonkers to put it off, op. It's important that get gets herself protected. Can you call and get her squeezed in today?

queenofSI · 14/01/2021 12:45

it’s your job to make sure she gets it. what does ‘isn’t ready for it’ even mean?

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Getbusywiththefizzie · 14/01/2021 12:50

For context dd isn’t wanting to put it off for the sake of it, she suffers from emetophobia which I am trying to get help for (unsuccessfully as gp isn’t taking it seriously) and deeply fears the jab will make her vomit.

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EileenGC · 14/01/2021 12:52

If side effects are her fear, these will only be more likely as she grows up. That's what my GP said anyway, there's a reason why the recommended age for this vaccine is 9-13yo. And honestly, even at 18 mine was fine. Arm sore for a couple of days and that's it. I don't know if anyone who's had it and vomited as a side effect.

Ohalrightthen · 14/01/2021 12:53

@Getbusywiththefizzie

That's not a thing. It might make her dizzy, it's unlikely to make her vomit.

Is she more scared of vomiting than she is of dying of cervical cancer in her 20s? You need to be the adult here, if she misses the jab when it's offered you'll have a bitch of a time getting it later, and it's pointless once she's sexually active so your window is small.

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