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Are tarot readers all fake

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Seetheseasomeday · 11/01/2021 07:54

Erm a tarot reader told me my new relationship is bringing loads of warning cards out. She said there's another women in his life and he's unfairly comparing us.
She then said she pulled 7 of swords out of both decks and told me to look the card up but it's normally a negative card.

So I looked up the card and it's lies. Theft. Cheating etc.

She also said she can't see log term yet for us but he has good intentions. But told me to be wary and it won't be easy with him.

I just wondered how tarot cards work? How on earth can she see such negative things? I thought she'd be more focused on me but tore the man I'm with to shreds.

Thank you.

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Cuddling57 · 11/01/2021 08:25

Why put your emotions and future in someone else's hands?!
Listen to your own intuition, use your own experiences and make your own decisions.
No one can guarantee happiness. If your lucky it will work out but if not any mistakes need to be your own! Learn and move on.

Theunamedcat · 11/01/2021 08:29

@Seetheseasomeday

I was hoping so. She kept showing me cards with bad characters on them.

I can't say 100% want he's like yet. But I feel so far like we have a really good thing going. He's very into me. Buying gifts. Talking about the future and what holidays we will go on. Always in touch. Kind. He's not perfect. He's had a tough past but he's been open about all that too. I don't feel there's much he could be hiding.

I think she's just made things up perhaps. But it freaked me out a little.

See personally I would heed her warnings on this one you say he has had a tough past but is very open about it that Can be a red flag because if things go wrong he can blame you "I told you what I was like" "i thought you accepted me" therfore its your fault for not accepting the behaviour he warned you about

And he most likely is comparing you to former girlfriend honestly a lot of people do its not always a bad thing

VettiyaIruken · 11/01/2021 08:33

Yes.
Total bollocks.

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CathyorClaire · 11/01/2021 08:35

There isn't any point wondering how tarot cards work because they don't. At best your reader has picked up a few pointers from things you've said.

Best to make up your own mind.

wowfudge · 11/01/2021 08:37

@Oreservoir

Just to add the one I went to was pre Internet and didn't ask me anything about my life. She had no way of knowing anything about me.
Apart from what your DM may have told her, whether she realised or not.
AlternativePerspective · 11/01/2021 08:38

Tbh if someone ended a relationship with me based on a tarot card reading I’d consider that I’d had a lucky escape.

Labobo · 11/01/2021 08:39

@Soutiner - hilarious - I just did that reading and it told me I was feeling unstoppably confident and self-doubting and insecure right now. Can't lose with an all-sides-covered reading like that! A significant man might offer me support too. That narrows the field! Grin

wowfudge · 11/01/2021 08:40

All these people who claim to read cards or be mediums are charlatans. Look at some of Derren Brown's work and he shows how it is done. I worked with someone who is now working as a medium. She never had any special insights or gift that was evident in the many hours I spent with her at work. I think she has an engaging personality and is able to put people at ease and she has access to the internet.

emilyfrost · 11/01/2021 08:43

It’s all a load of bullshit.

Eng123 · 11/01/2021 08:47

Don't discuss this with your new man, it should be added to the plot of the film "how to loose a man in 30 days!
Honestly don't be taken in by any of this nonsense.

Clawdy · 11/01/2021 08:48

I had a tarot reading years ago, and I have to say I enjoyed it. The cards were old and beautifully illustrated, we had a long chat, and she gave me some really good advice about jobs and relationships. It was in a little tent at a country fair, and all proceeds were going to charity, so she certainly wasn't trying to scam anyone.

Remmy123 · 11/01/2021 08:49

I've seen about 10 all absolute pony.

Then I saw one and it was spot on - she knew v v specific things, names, major events , dates etc - amazing

SavoyCabbage · 11/01/2021 08:52

How on earth can she see such negative things?
She can't, she's making them up. She knows you are feeling unsure because otherwise you wouldn't be asking her in the first place.

She's chucked a lot of negative things so that you run with one of them.

MilkMoon · 11/01/2021 08:53

@Clawdy

I had a tarot reading years ago, and I have to say I enjoyed it. The cards were old and beautifully illustrated, we had a long chat, and she gave me some really good advice about jobs and relationships. It was in a little tent at a country fair, and all proceeds were going to charity, so she certainly wasn't trying to scam anyone.
Yeah, I get all my careers advice from people in tents at little country fairs. It is the secret of my success...
Oneearringlost · 11/01/2021 08:56

The type of person that seeks out Tarot or other such "woo" diagnoses for life is someone who is very easily "read" by charlatans. So, for instance, if you are young, in your 20s you are likely to be seeking relationships ( or older, seeking a relationship after divorce for example). A generic card, as above, for instance, has an easy, all encompassing appropriateness for many people and can be interpreted broadly, but is seemingly astonishingly ,accurately apt.
The only clever thing about a Tarot reader is that they realise this and manipulate the card to apply to you, who you think is unique, but who broadly, has the same hopes and desires as the next person, ie, is seeking answers to generally, life changing aspects of life, like a big move, a new relationship, or recent bereavement etc..
People generally don't seek out magic, see - into - the - future solutions unless they are a bit vulnerable. That is what is being exploited here.
You will never find these people being specific, they may well, for example pull a card that implies a person near to you may become unwell, ( but it will all be OK). So, the odds of you having a parent that may come down with, say COVID but survive it, is high. You go away and think, oh my goodness, that was spot on.
Do you see how it can work.
Deconstruct this, for a moment.
You know, REALLY, that no one can predict the future, don't you?
All they're doing is looking at your age, how you dress, how you carry yourself, how you speak and dress up the language they use to seemingly apply to you.
People will conveniently forget about the bits that were not apt to their situation, but will hungrily hang onto anything, and attach meaning to stuff that they see as apposite to them.

LunaNorth · 11/01/2021 08:57

I read tarot. I do it for friends and never, ever charge.

I make it clear that it’s not magic, I’m not magic, I don’t read the future and I will never, ever give anyone bad news.

I see the cards as tools to help lateral thinking about a situation that is playing on the querent’s mind. So if a particular card seems to chime with the situation, and encourages them to think about it in a different and more useful way, then good.

I see the cards as a kind of self-help book, and my job is to guide the querent through it.

Everyone I’ve read for has found it useful, and they usually come back for more. I think they just like having that hour and a half to devote to themselves, really.

OP, it sounds like you’ve come across a total charlatan, who shouldn’t be doing what she’s doing. Take no bloody notice.

Soutiner · 11/01/2021 08:57

I would hazard a guess that people who are content and very happy with their lives don’t see a tarot reader!

It can be surmised that the number one reason that a woman goes to have her cards is read is connected to her relationship with a man, whether it be they’ve just split up or are embarking on a new romance.

The reader will easily ascertain which in a short time.

Freewheelingoryx · 11/01/2021 08:57

It's all a big hoax op. And exploitative. Trading lies for cash.

You describe him as talking about the future , buying gifts, being into you, even though your relationship is quite new. This could be him being thoughtful and generous. But it could also be described as love-bombing. When you think about it, does it feel staged at all, or a bit over the top? Does it make you feel a bit uncomfortable or does it feel genuine?

Beat to use your own judgement op Flowers

Seetheseasomeday · 11/01/2021 09:00

Yes but I'm glad he's been honest with me because he has depression and has struggled. But he's a hard working bloke who has a long list of great things too. So he's not perfect. But then neither am I. So red flags they may be. I'm yet to meet a man with no issues what's so ever.

Yeah I think I just need to ignore it.

I was curious how they work that's all.ive never looked into how the reader comes to conclusions such as she pulled the fool card for me too. She described me as the cat hanging onto the broom being flown by a fun witch. Lol

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LunaNorth · 11/01/2021 09:01

@Seetheseasomeday

Yes but I'm glad he's been honest with me because he has depression and has struggled. But he's a hard working bloke who has a long list of great things too. So he's not perfect. But then neither am I. So red flags they may be. I'm yet to meet a man with no issues what's so ever.

Yeah I think I just need to ignore it.

I was curious how they work that's all.ive never looked into how the reader comes to conclusions such as she pulled the fool card for me too. She described me as the cat hanging onto the broom being flown by a fun witch. Lol

She doesn’t know her tarot then. The least she could do is to learn the card meanings properly. Cheeky mare.
Seetheseasomeday · 11/01/2021 09:04

@Freewheelingoryx

I also have sent him gifts. We've talked about taking our dogs and kids to the beach this summer for a day out. We talk about the future and just being together properly.

Honestly I've never felt this close to someone and he feels the same. We have clicked. We've been able to to talk honestly about our pasts. Things that we don't tell other people and he doesn't feel judged by me. I don't judge him because I can see why things got tough for him. I don't think he's perfect. But for me maybe he is. I'm not 100% sure yet about him. But I know that everyday he makes me happy. He's my favourite person to talk too. It's not just sex either. I feel like we have real conversations that matter. X

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Kendodd · 11/01/2021 09:04

Ffs
Of course it's fake. How can people be this gullible.

LittlefairyMum · 11/01/2021 09:05

I've seen more people upset than 'helped'

Soutiner · 11/01/2021 09:14
ALightFromTheShadows · 11/01/2021 09:16

It's always helpful to look at our situation and ask questions... there are lots of ways to do that.

Your description of how this man is sounded like lovebombing to me, but I am a cynical person. To others it would sound like he was very keen on you. Everything is open to interpretation.