How to keep a hat on at night?

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Woke up again with a colder than freezing cold draught over my head. I start the night wearing a beanie, I have a pillow upright against the end of the bed but I always wake with a cold head and my hat keeping the pillow warm. Is there a trick? A better suited style of hat?

Or tell your DH to fuck off and sleep somewhere else? It's ridiculous that he's insisting the window is open to the point that you're wearing a hat to bed. I'd say have you broached this with him but assuming he's not blind he'll have seen you don your hat? If he wants to be cool then he can sleep naked and uncovered with the window firmly closed.

Our bed is against the (external) wall as it's a small room and recently I commented how cold the wall is if I accidentally touch it. DPs immediate reaction was to offer to swap sides with me so he's against the cold wall & I'm nearer the heater.

Wow. Nice husband you got yourself there

OP: With the window open at night, I'm so cold I need to wear a hat.
DH: I don't care.

Is this how the conversation goes @Snowbored?

If not, how is he justifying this? Why are you accepting it?

Sew ribbon or make a tube of material and attach to beanie to tie under chin, not sure how window is positioned but would swapping sides of the bed help.
He may be a dick as unsympathetic but DH and I need a window open.

I wouldn’t be able to sleep with the window closed either... not to do with temperature but it would make me horribly congested. I don’t have a bed under a window though - that’s the difference.

Hot water bottle in your pillow case

We don’t have curtains / windowsill/ spare room/ downstairs. Also can’t move my bed as we have fitted cupboards the other side of the room.

I don’t think a hot water bottle is the answer as it would also be cold in the early hours. He agrees to shit the window when it’s around -10, but it’s only -3, -4 at the moment. We can’t swap beds as I want to be next to the bookcase and I’m closer to the door so I can intercept/get to the DC easily when required.

I was also a bit reluctant to tie something around my neck... and I wondered if a balaclava would twist around over my face.

I would be locking the window and throwing the fecking key away.

What sort of hair do you have? I don't wear a hat in bed but wear them all the time in winter when out and I have a ponytail beanie so I can pull my long hair through the hole at the top - it never comes off and I love it - it might work for you if you have hair to pull through.

Swap for one night with one of the children and when they complain that they are cold let’s see if he has the same lack of concern towards them as he does to you.

No curtains?

I sleep with a hat on sometimes or in a hoodie or wearing a hooded onesie. DH is always hot and constantly flings the duvet off and instead of being woken by the cold, I just wrap up before bed. In fact, I've also slept in a hooded dressing gown which is a bit like sleeping in a mummy sleeping bag if the hood is big enough.

You don't have a hat problem, you have a DH problem.

A great big selfish twat of a DH problem.

ponytail beanie oh, this might work!

Will have to check if I can lie in bed the wrong way round when I get home. I think my feet usually hang over the edge so it might not work!

No, no curtains. And I don’t know anyone of my generation who does have them. Just my parents, godparents and aunts and uncles!

Why does DH's preference trump your basic need to stay warm? Who made him king of the house? Your preference is just as valid and important as his. Just shut the damn window.

A snood is the answer, easy to buy or knit

How about using a V shaped pillow in the same way a baby's neck support is used?

How tall are you if your feet over hand the edge of your bed?

Or is your bed an unconventional size for adults?

^ over HANG

A standard double bed and mattress is 135cm wide and 190cm. In imperial dimensions, this is equal to 4 feet 6 inches wide and 6 feet 3 inches long.

No curtains? So you can't keep the daylight out? Or stop people seeing in? You are both weird.

There’s a lot of excuses on what you cannot do there OP, just to pacify your DH, really?

Would a bunk bed work? You can make yourself a cosy den in the bottom one with pull around curtains and Billy Big Balls man of the house can take the upper one and have his head exposed to the open window to his hearts content.

Rotate your bed and/or sleeping position by 90 degrees and put "D"H on the side nearest the window.

I agree with many other posters above that he's being unreasonable. It can't be that hot in your bedroom with the window shut.

Sorry, I did RTFT, but obviously not very thoroughly...

We have no curtains. As I said, I don’t know anyone who does who isn’t of my parents generation. We have shutters outside we can close to stop people looking in. But when it’s windy we have to keep them up else they rattle. And when it’s windy, there’s a fraught. We’re top floor, no one can see in anyway. I’m tall. If I have my head on the pillow and lie on my front, my toes hang over the edge of the mattress. If I lie on my side, they don’t!