ADs are elite athletes and can run very fast

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Another thread in the saga filled up (so no forwards link)

I think maybe we're endurance athletes, or maybe multievent like a decathlon

@smallandimperfectlyformed, that's not cowardice, it's common sense.

@TabbyStar, I've consumed more coffee and bacon baps since March than in the whole of the rest of my life. The Guidance says "You can only leave your hometo exercise, and not for the purpose of recreation or leisure (e.g. a picnicor a social meeting). " Which surely means that the picnic shouldn't be the object of being out, but that you can take on sustenance if you need it during your exercise. It would be interesting to 'discuss' it with a magistrate!

@Sonicthehedgehogg

I think that's a straight copy of the original legislation.

Ah, fingers crossed for a champagne picnic for all then

No, i mean the original legislation said no picnics and i expect this next batch of legislation to repeat it.

Just put your champagne on a dark coloured water bottle.

@Sonicthehedgehogg thank you! I think we shall have a slow saunter (not sure how quick I'll be with one 3 year old and a 10 month old strapped to me anyway) just trying to work out how many bottles I could stash under and in the pram seeing as dd2 is clingy as hell!
I've not been impressed with the NTbut for both dh and I it's so cheap for us to be able to find some quiet places to allow dd1 to just run about without annoying people

@Iheartmysmart
That's a brilliant idea, now I'll just need a dog to have an excuse!

@Vintagelovingmum you could put a puppy onesie on your baby?

@DrDiva at the moment she doesnt stay still long enough to put a sleep suit on her! Most importantly would it count as an essential purchase?!
DH has been talking about getting a dog now they're all being dropped off at rescues, which is awful, but I think our very pampered puss would be extremely put out if we bought home anything that even resembles another pet

@Vintagelovingmum There is someone close to where I live who walks their cat on a lead every day. I think that’ll work perfectly. In times of need you have to improvise!

DS is upstairs packing he says he is going back tomorrow to halls, just hope they do not block the entrances, they took the rent this morning out of the account, so they cannot have it both ways. I am so tired, do not really want him to go but he is determined he is going.

I can't really imagine a London park carpeted in picnic blankets at this time of the year for it to be problematic...

Done my supermarket shopping. I'll admit to feeling a bit misanthropic by the audacity of other people of daring to be there past 9pm, not in any Covid breathing death way, just not wanting the bother of other humans while in a stinking mood. My hair was severely pissing me off by being static and tickly which exceeded my coping threshold. Extraneous clothing was removed. Annoying static hair-attracting visor chucked in the trolley. I must have had a face on me as the cashier asked if I was OK (minimal clothing and no visor not a good sign) and I muttered darkly "Life" and we had a bit of a chat. Then I couldn't find my card and we ended up suspending the payment so I could have a better search... fortunately it had just slipped out of the pocket and hidden under the shopping bag.
Certain Germanic value supermarkets may not have a great reputation for customer service but she was really lovely. She's usually on the till in the evening.

Oh I long for supermarket shopping to just be normal again.

Tonight properly broke me. I miss my life. I miss my children. I miss normality.

I'm so lucky in every respect but I can't see that at the moment. All I can see is Sunday lunches laughing with my son not happening, the grand prix I'd got a countdown to on my phone cancelled, hugging my daughter gone. Just nothing to look forward to anymore. I feel like I'm existing. Dh tries bless him but he doesn't get it.

I cried tonight. Lots. Then I felt bad for crying. I think I need to step away from MN for a bit because the venom in the threads on here from people who just don't understand is giving me rage.
I've had enough. Every day is just a waste of make up isn't it?

The only time I've worn make-up in the past 12m was for a fancy dress zoom dinner party. Not that I wear it frequently, but there's normally about 3 occasions per year.

Good job I wasn't excited about my birthday next month. Maybe I'll be tier 4 for 40...
I was looking forwards to my 40s as my 30s have revolved entirely around parenting (DS1 was 10 wks) I like the thought of the DCs growing and maturing through childhood and beyond and them gaining more independence. It's the natural order of life.

Ive honestly tried. Ive got up, dressed and worn make up most days. I seem to have settled into the role of DH’s secretary sorting him lunch, coffee etc whilst he works as he’s busier than ever. I don’t work, not really needed to which is partly why I feel guilty over feeling so down in all of this because I have nothing to feel sorry for myself for. . I liked my life before this shit. Now I feel lost.

Tomorrow I’m having a long lie in, putting on my PJs and wallowing in front of Netflix.
I’m sorry about your birthday it’s DSs too next month and he’s struggled with this mentally too. If it helps 40s are great, you get your life back, well at least until some clown purporting to be prime minister snatches it away.

@Sonicthehedgehogg

Last year (some of) the teachers responded to any discussion around schools with , which they took on as their own version of the . It stood for "you're not a teacher so your opinion has no validity".

The sheer childishness of this utterly enraged me last time. And I don't even have affected children.

People (Over There) saying young children won't remember so it doesn't matter... presumably they've never heard of Adverse Childhood Experiences. Also, by that logic, non-lethal child abuse and neglect is fine up to a certain age. I happen to disagree.

I agree with you. I got sucked into all the attachment parenting stuff when DS was born and I felt anything I did was not good enough. I remember reading that if, on the 1000th night waking, you didn't smile throughout then you would damage your child and they will think you don't love them (not that I believe that now, but in the early days with PNA I was convinced). Now we can do as much harm to children as we like and it's just fine, they won't remember. So was all that shit another stick to beat women with. Now that does surprise me... (sarcasm)

To be honest, one of the things that has been getting me through this is that DD (20 months) won't remember any of it. I find it gives me some perspective! I am aware of my privilege on this though - we are ok financially, mentally and physically, don't have a chaotic home life, no abuse exacerbated by lockdown.

I don't think all children are going to be automatically scarred for life or anything, particularly those with loving parents (and of course most children do have loving parents!) I just think it's disingenuous to suggest children won't be affected by something because they don't remember it.

@starfish88 - if that's true, DD is probably already disadvantaged in life - I'm sure we've already had the millionth night waking and I don't think I've consistently smiled all through any of them. Cried from tiredness, maybe. I guess that's the other extreme of the idea that what they won't remember doesn't matter - the idea that everything is immensely important and you have to get it exactly right.

Dc1 spent an hour sobbing in bed about not seeing friends. A lot of schoolmates have older siblings and seem to have a great time in lockdown playing. DC2 isn't playable age yet so dc1 gets very lonely. We've set up zoom calls but at 5, it's not really very enriching. I can't imagine what state dc1 will be in in 5 weeks time. Going to have to try very hard to be mum, worker, teacher AND friend and not get too snappy with her which is tricky on no sleep as dc2 is up 5 times a night. Thank the deities that nursery is open (for now).

@110APiccadilly

People (Over There) saying young children won't remember so it doesn't matter... presumably they've never heard of Adverse Childhood Experiences. Also, by that logic, non-lethal child abuse and neglect is fine up to a certain age. I happen to disagree.

Exactly @110APiccadilly The effects of this that I have had to deal with at work stretch beyond "they're only missing a bit of school" etc. I always want to just give some examples of how this has affected some of the most vulnerable children to try and get people beyond that mindset but then I worry it will out me. But you are absolutely spot on regarding ACEs.

My cousin posted this today.
This is the thing that makes me so cross, the laughable idea that "the virus doesn't discriminate" coupled with "you're stupid if you don't get it by now"

@LivinLaVidaLoki And for the dumb ones at the front, unless you’re over 82, then even the 2 jelly beans that are “deadly” are unlikely to kill you even if they make you quite ill for a while

@LivinLaVidaLoki that would have made me furious!! Woken up this morning determined to be positive with and for the kids. About to take DS for a dental appointment that we’ve waited months for and I am pretty sure they will be shut but we’ll give it a go.

@LivinLaVidaLoki Ugh, saw that one last night. I absolutely hate it. Also don’t like jelly beans so does that mean I’ll not get Covid

Well I've been told this morning that I lack empathy because I no longer want to sacrifice my life for the greater good. My life has been turned upside down, no work, job security unknown, no gym, no friends, no social life, no extended family visits, homeschooling. I've had events cancelled, my friends are losing their jobs, our children are losing their education, they've had their lives turned upside down, no friends to play with, no swimming, soft play, anything remotely fun has gone.

I miss our lives and the longer this goes on for the more I struggle because I can't see an end. I'm told to be positive because there is an end but when?

I've seen the jelly beans a few times. I wish there was a way of blocking certain memes rather than their sources, because they just keep coming back from different sources.

I'm glad that yesterday was an INSET for my two. At lwast they've not had to go through first day back palaver and stop again. I do feel sorry for their teachers being plunged into this with immediate effect. I hope that they haven't wasted too much of yesterday's work that lasted for only 5 hours after home time.

But I will not feel sorry for feeling that the work set by one of the teachers last year was inadequately presented and resourced and inappropriate to send out to children with SENs or families that had to prioritise financial and professional survival (mamy of which were involved in the Covid response). The other teacher did set appropriate work. Unfortunately that ended up unused because how do you make a 6-7 yo use sheets when the 9yo is having far more fun on the interactive bitesize site. That teacher also checked in regularly and maintained contact once the younger years went back, rather than dropping a message saying that I'm.teaching yX now and only one check with a child with multiple learnig difficulties in 4 months.

We could have murdered DD n March and her school wouldn’t have noticed till September. No contact at all, and totally inadequate home learning. We’ve discovered Atom Learning this time round so educationally it should be rather better, but I’m not expecting the school to be any support at all.

I’m so tired of it all. On that bloody jelly bean meme, at the moment I’d eat the lot.