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Called Fat on Christmas Day

75 replies

Feelinglow8736 · 26/12/2020 14:13

I was hosting yesterday, getting everyones drinks and food and my 6 year old niece started telling people to call me fat.

My dd said no and I just brought the drinks in the lounge and she stormed in and shouted Aunty you are so fat! I said stop being naughty and went into the kitchen. She said get away from me, you will just eat me. You are so big you will eat this whole house. Aunty is so fat!

I went into tell my ds and she was in the middle of saying her husband was so fat and couldnt fit in his new outfit. I said what happened and she did nothing. I dont know if Im being oversensitive. Ive just had a bereavement and was feeling low anyway. Im a stone overweight and intend to go on a diet in the new year. It just made me feel very low

My dh said try not to let it ruin my day, my neice came up to him yesterday wobbled his belly and started laughing. I have a child the same age and they know that is rude. I was just taken aback by the behaviour.

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ForTheLoveOfCatFood · 26/12/2020 14:21

Not ok but you can see where she gets it from....
I feel sorry for her as it sounds like she is growing up in a toxic environment

Try to let her comments bother you x

WisestIsShe · 26/12/2020 14:21

You should have firmly told her how rude and unacceptable it was. No way would I take that from a 6 year old. I'm amazed no other adult told her to behave.
I wish I was only a stone overweight!

ForTheLoveOfCatFood · 26/12/2020 14:21

And don’t host next year!

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Bronzino · 26/12/2020 14:23

@WisestIsShe

You should have firmly told her how rude and unacceptable it was. No way would I take that from a 6 year old. I'm amazed no other adult told her to behave. I wish I was only a stone overweight!
Ha! Same!
winetime89 · 26/12/2020 14:25

That's awful. I would go ballistic is my 7 or 5 year old did that.
I was bullied for being fat when I was younger (year 1 through to
Year 4). since having kids I've realised it was the parents fault not the child's and they
wasn't taught to be kind or that it can have horrible consequences for the person they are calling fat. if she can say that in front of all the family it makes you wonder what she could say to others at school.

Nymeriastark1 · 26/12/2020 14:29

I might get flamed for this but if someone else's child came up to me and called me fat I would just shoo them away and tell them to bugger off. I'm surprised at the amount of adults that take this kind of rubbish of kids.

grapewine · 26/12/2020 14:30

Your sister clearly models some rude behaviour.

grapewine · 26/12/2020 14:31

And yes, I would have said something to niece as well. It's not OK, and I'd have been upset no adult said anything.

GreekOddess · 26/12/2020 14:34

What an ill mannered little brat. Your sister sounds like a useless parent.

Randomrebel · 26/12/2020 14:46

DH’s best friends son said similar comment to me as we were leaving a camping holiday earlier than they were and I was taking my DS with us (as my DH had to go to work a day earlier than he originally planned). He also said he hated me in with the fat comment. He would be about 5-7 at the time. I felt upset, sad and embarrassed by the child’s comments but what made it worse was that neither his parents, nor the other couple said anything to him.

We got in the car and left. I was probably two stones or more overweight at the time but his own mother wasn’t exactly slim either. The child would know it was wrong but surely the parents should have made some attempts to tell him off.

warmandtoasty2day · 26/12/2020 14:48

i'd have spoken to dsis about her dd behaviour and to hell with it causing a scene. if she wanted to storm out as a result that's good. i feel sorry for your neice having such a shit mother, and her dh being bullied too, by his wife and kid.

Figgygal · 26/12/2020 14:50

That’s awful
My kids would have been murdered if they’d done that (not literally obviously)

userxx · 26/12/2020 14:51

I'd have told her she smells. What a brat.

JacobReesMogadishu · 26/12/2020 14:52

I’d have told her how rude and hurtful she was being and that people don’t like people who are so unkind. Then I’d have told her she could sit on the naughty step. Your sister seems incapable of sorting her out and if your sister didn’t like it they could all read. But yes, seems like she’s modelling throwing personal insults at people from her mum which is sad.

lljkk · 26/12/2020 14:58

6 yr olds do brattish things.
Another time it would be "You poohead!"

imho, you're making this out to be more meaningful than it needs to be.

GrapeLipBalm · 26/12/2020 15:05

She's badly brought up. Decent parents wouldn't allow that

Soutiner · 26/12/2020 15:08

In the absence of your sister parenting her child I would have admonished the child making it clear that if they said anything so rude again they would be suitably missing out on ‘insert treat’ that you would be providing later.

If the sister started then I would loudly point out that by admonishing the child now doe her bad behaviour you are saving her from becoming the school bully.

Then ask them to leave.

AnneLovesGilbert · 26/12/2020 15:08

I’m assuming your sister is a supermodel?

Soutiner · 26/12/2020 15:09

For not doe ^^

oldshoeuk · 26/12/2020 15:11

Just to point out, kids often seem to be super extreme christmas day. I often see behaviour I know is outside of normal as they are just too pumped up.

collywobbly · 26/12/2020 15:14

It's not acceptable for a 6 year old to be speaking like that to anyone. I'd rather be called a poo-head as it's less personal and more inclusive Grin
OP I'd be upset too. Your sister is not the best role model to your niece if she's ok using fat as an insult. I hope a conversation is had before she starts using it as weapon at school, assuming she hasn't already.

BewareTheBeardedFatMan · 26/12/2020 15:15

How horrible for you. I think I'd have been tempted to ask sister to leave tbh. Serious convo with sister needed.

Staffy1 · 26/12/2020 15:21

Another one here who wishes she was only a stone overweight. Don't let it upset you OP, she was rude and her mother should have stopped her, but by the sound of it she is picking up this kind of from her mother.

Chocolate1992 · 26/12/2020 15:22

Are you fat? Kids are just honest sometimes..

Obviously heard it from somewhere and needs teaching some basic manners but you can’t blame them for being honest

DelphiniumBlue · 26/12/2020 15:25

That is shockingly rude, and a six year old would be speaking like that to provoke a reaction or to be given boundaries.
Next time she wants something from you( treats, an outing ) I would say no, and explain it's because she has been so unkind, and you don't want to spend time with someone who is horrible to you. And well done to your DD for standing up to her.