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Please can someone advise? I'm desperate

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Loopylou6 · 17/12/2020 12:22

I have a total of about 11 pound that I have hidden. Just found out my husband has spent everything in our bank. I don't get another UC payment until 12th January.
What can I do, and who can I contact for help? I'm not a troll, anybody doubting me can ask MNHQ I've been here for absolute years.

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RickOShay · 18/12/2020 05:13

@Loopylou6
Also happy to help. I’m a long way from you, but could do a nice little parcel!. Message me if this is something that would help.

ApolloandDaphne · 18/12/2020 07:25

I have no real helpful advice for you I just wanted to say that I hope you can access support. How is your DD coping with this? Is she aware of your financial problems? Can you both go and stay with your parents over the Christmas break. You can maybe make anything you can get go further with what they have. And you would be away from your DH.

Lifeisshortandbitterswet · 18/12/2020 08:37

Hi lovey, please have a look for your local children's centre too, they can be really helpful at this time of year and support families for all kind of reasons.
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Thisisworsethananticpated · 18/12/2020 08:37

I agree that I want you to get help
I can’t bear this is your situation
I’ve been paying bloody tax all year
I also donate to women’s aid

I think of
Your alcoholic husband is taking all the money it’s financial abuse
Call them xx

SpicyTinkle · 18/12/2020 08:49

I'm sorry things are so difficult for you OP. I work for Citizens Advice. Please call us. We have access to resources for clients in crisis and can help with food and fuel emergencies.

doingitforthefrill · 18/12/2020 10:48

I’m so sorry you’re having a tough time OP. There’s some great advice on here of people to contact. Please contact your local food bank and let them not know you are struggling. I don’t live near you but I’d be happy to send you over a parcel of essentials. Flowers

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Loopylou6 · 18/12/2020 11:51

Yes unfortunately, and she's taking it out on me, wont speak to me. I understand, but it really hurts. We've been together 20+ years, and before he started on the alcohol, things were generally good

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Loopylou6 · 18/12/2020 11:53

I can't stay with my parents because they are shielding, my mum has severe asthma, I've not been able to hug them since march Sad

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Loopylou6 · 18/12/2020 11:58

Oops sorry, they were supposed to be replies to individual posts Blush

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Tinseltitssunday · 18/12/2020 12:00

Have you checked your local food bank and Salvation Army, don't be afraid to ask for help you are not alone, you just have to look in the right places. Contact your electricity firm as they maybe able to get you an emergency supply to tide you over. Contact your council for a hardship loan.

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Loopylou6 · 18/12/2020 12:00

And thank you so much for your kind offers and continued words of advice x

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